[MrGaryy]

Okay now as some of you know - I DESPISE these sort of threads. But as I am not "out" to friends or family yet I don't know who else to talk to.

I've known I'm gay for awhile now. I've come to accept it and what not. I have my best friend, a girl, who I get on SO well with we have such a laugh, blah blah blah! I've always seen myself as her gay best friend (not that she knows I'm gay or anything). Recently I found out she kinda likes this guy in our year. Now she's very good looking and fun to be around so it was no surprsie to here guys like her. But now that she's admitted she likes this guy (who happens to already be in a relationship to make things even more complicated!), I've found myself weirdly jealous of him.

The thing is I wouldn't say I'm physically attracted to her. I mean I know she really good looking but I don't get aroused like I would with a guy. It's just our personalities click so perfectly and I have so much fun with her.

So what do you think? I always was sure I was gay. This just confuses me so much!

PS

GREAT! Now I've started comfort eating! HELP before I need a new thread for my weight gain!

[MrGaryy]

HELLO?!?!?

[Princess]

I don't think you fancy her,its sound like you care for her a lot and you're just feeling protective.

[Shaun]

I'd agree with Princess, you obviously care about her a lot as a friend and you're just looking out for her. As for the feelings of 'jealousy', I wouldn't say it was jealousy really, but obviously I'm not the one to say that...but I'd suggest that if there was any jealousy it's because you don't want the possibility of a third-party coming between you two? Again this'd be because you're protective of her.

[Sam]

Originally posted by Shaun
I'd agree with Princess, you obviously care about her a lot as a friend and you're just looking out for her. As for the feelings of 'jealousy', I wouldn't say it was jealousy really, but obviously I'm not the one to say that...but I'd suggest that if there was any jealousy it's because you don't want the possibility of a third-party coming between you two? Again this'd be because you're protective of her.

Yeah, i'd agree with that.

I've been in a similar situation before. One of my close female friends went off with someone else I know, and even though I didn't fancy her at all I still felt "slightly jealous".

I suppose it's sort of like a brother-sister protection. It's as if she's a "sister-like" figure to you, and someone else coming in between you seems like it could be a problem.

If you feel any problems, maybe you should tell her that you're scared that this might make you drift apart, and that you want to make sure that your friendship stays strong. She should totally respect this, without thinking you're jealous.

[Spike]

Originally posted by Princess
I don't think you fancy her,its sound like you care for her a lot and you're just feeling protective.

agreed. Because she is your close friend of course you are going to have strong feeling about her but that doesn't mean you like her on that way.

[~Kizwiz~]

Your feelings are of protection. It sounds like you care deeply about her and dont want her to be hurt.

[Sunny_01]

I wouldnt worry to much Gaz. It sounds like you are naturally jealous of the possibility of losing a close friend who you respect and care for. Its ok to be jealous without it being connected to your sexuality.

[pinkmichk]

agree with everyone its feeling of protection

[Annie]

Gazbo it sounds like you just want to look after her but it could also be you are strangely jealous because you know that if they got together she would be spending more time with her and not you as much.

It could also be because you are worried that she might get hurt as he is in a relationship and you dont want someone to hurt her, suppose thats protection again though.

I still would say you are gay though, just have feelings for a friend.

[Fom]

You can love someone without being sexually attracted to them.
Your love for her is like love for your mum.

[Tom]

think of it this way, would you want to sleep with her or is that thought just eww to you? if not then its a protective type of love, like it is with other friends/family.

[Dom:D]

Originally posted by Fom
You can love someone without being sexually attracted to them.
Your love for her is like love for your mum.

Took the words outa my mouth
my the way gazbo your pick gets me every time

[stacey]

You might just be feeling jealous because of how protective you feel over her or because you feel like you don't want to lose her and you might if she gets with this guy