[Ninastar]

Do u think being smacked is ok?

TBH I think it its because if you look at most normal behaved people (i.e people who don't cause alot of trouble ) and ask them if they got smacked when they were little and most of them say yes.

Thats not the only reason i have more but i cba to list them now.
I don't think you should smack that hard you like cause a black hole in the child cause that would be ridiculous.

[Spike]

Originally posted by ninostar
TBH I think it its because if you look at most normal behaved people and ask them if they got smacked when they were little and most of them say yes.

What/Who is normal?

[Ninastar]

Originally posted by Spike

What/Who is normal?

People who behave normal. I mean like who don't get arrested everyday and kill people.

[Spike]

Originally posted by ninostar

People who behave normal. I mean like who don't get arrested everyday and kill people.

so just because someone does something illegal that doesn't make them normal?

[bronaaaa]

I don't agree with it..but at the same time its up to the parents what they do with their own kids..

[~Kizwiz~]

A child would have to have done something incredibly bad for me to respond in a smack. I have never smacked my children. There are other ways of dealing with issues without leading to violence. I am a firm believer that violence breeds violence

[Ninastar]

Originally posted by Spike

so just because someone does something illegal that doesn't make them normal?

No. I said it wrong. I do it all the time. I am really not good with words. What i meant was Good behaved people.

[Firewire]

A little smack isn't so bad. (Which most young kids would get) but if it is a hard one I would consider it to be inapropriate.

[Tom]

Personally I won't do it but I don't have anything against it ...

[Jack]

I was smacked as a child, and I have no problem with it. It was only when I really crossed the line though, and after being warned. I was never hit hard, It didn't even hurt it, but it worked and I'd always behave myself. Children need discipline. I really disagree with the "nanny culture" we seem to have today, where children can get away with murder. Children used to get caned in school, and that generation didn't grow up to be the thugs who stab strangers, unprovoked.

Smacking has to be controlled though and the parent should never get angry. I hate it when I see young mothers in the street who smack their child, really quite hard, for doing something so minor and often accidental, without warning.

[Spike]

I think there is other and better ways to punish a child rather than smacking.
What does smacking teach them? That its ok to hit someone if they are in the wrong?
There is no point in hitting a child because thats at the time when their personality and psychological profile is building up and smacking is going to cause alot of damage in the long run.

[Spike]

Originally posted by ninostar

No. I said it wrong. I do it all the time. I am really not good with words. What i meant was Good behaved people.

but what is good behaviour? So just because someone has a bad side to them that doesn't make them normal?

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Jack
I was smacked as a child, and I have no problem with it. It was only when I really crossed the line though, and after being warned. I was never hit hard, It didn't even hurt it, but it worked and I'd always behave myself. Children need discipline. I really disagree with the "nanny culture" we seem to have today, where children can get away with murder. Children used to get caned in school, and that generation didn't grow up to be the thugs who stab strangers, unprovoked.

Smacking has to be controlled though and the parent should never get angry. I hate it when I see young mothers in the street who smack their child, really quite hard, for doing something so minor and often accidental, without warning.

I was smacked as a kid and its why I dont smack. I found being smacked the worst because of its ability to humiliate and shame.

I dont take away the right to smack though but it has to be the very last straw. I see some people smack just because there child has a paddy in the street or does something wrong and *WHAM* now thats bad!!!!!

[Kate..]

No, I think that's really catorgirising of you. I have never been hit in my whole life and I'm not getting put into jail or anything like that. And i'm sure most of the people that aren't "normal" havn't been hit either. It's a complete mixture and you should never ever be allowed to hit someone just because you're bigger than they are.

[Shaun]

I agree with physical discipline, personally. If you look at the correlations between deterioration of smacking/other discipline (like the 50s and beforehand), with the emergence of a 'yob' culture, the cause and effect is obvious.

[Ninastar]

Originally posted by Jack
I was smacked as a child, and I have no problem with it. It was only when I really crossed the line though, and after being warned. I was never hit hard, It didn't even hurt it, but it worked and I'd always behave myself. Children need discipline. I really disagree with the "nanny culture" we seem to have today, where children can get away with murder. Children used to get caned in school, and that generation didn't grow up to be the thugs who stab strangers, unprovoked.

Smacking has to be controlled though and the parent should never get angry. I hate it when I see young mothers in the street who smack their child, really quite hard, for doing something so minor and often accidental, without warning.

I couldnt agree more nd thats what i was trying to say. Children are smart and they know they can get away with murder.

[Fom]

Yeh im pro smacking... It knocked me into shape, my mum smacked me on the bottom every time I was naughty, I've turned out alright and non yobbish!

[Jen]

I never got smacked...

Am I not what you say is normal...?

[Ninastar]

I also agree with firewire and fom. I don't mean a really hard smack like one to tell the child what to do and not to do.

and lol JDIZZEL

[*mazedsalv**]

I was brought up with being smacked, apparently its the "Italian" way to dicipline and all of them do it, which is actually true. I guess I got used to it. I even got things thrown at me, just as my cousins/sister ect... did.

I now never get smacked, but between 6-14, it was common.

[Kate..]

But when people say they hate seeing parents smack their kids for minor things. It's because they get into habbit. If you think it's okay to smack your kid for doing something bad and you realise they stop, then you'll eventually get into the habbit of doing it the minute they do anything you aren't perfectly happy with.

[Jen]

Originally posted by ninostar
I also agree with firewire and fom. I don't mean a really hard smack like one to tell the child what to do and not to do.

and lol JDIZZEL

No need for me to worry... I know I'm not normal. LOL

[Ninastar]

Originally posted by *mazedsalv**
I was brought up with being smacked, apparently its the "Italian" way to dicipline and all of them do it, which is actually true. I guess I got used to it. I even got things thrown at me, just as my cousins/sister ect... did.

I now never get smacked, but between 6-14, it was common.

Omg i lived in italy! lol and yeh i heard that too!. I don't get smacked now either. I havent for like 2 years now.

[Jack]

Originally posted by Kate..
But when people say they hate seeing parents smack their kids for minor things. It's because they get into habbit. If you think it's okay to smack your kid for doing something bad and you realise they stop, then you'll eventually get into the habbit of doing it the minute they do anything you aren't perfectly happy with.

That's down to bad parenting and not being consistant with rules etc, not smacking. You could apply that to any form of punishment.

[Jen]

I don't think smacking "Sets you straight" thats ludicris...