[Natalie.]

Good luck

[Kizzy]

Have a great time, try to maintain a good work/fun balance ok? Bon Voyage!! x

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by TomC

Leaving tomorrow morning. So excited, but just hope it goes well. Wish me luck guys!

...aww, good luck Tom.....enjoy and absorb every moment of your experience and this amazing time in your life and all of the new friendships etc.../don't forget to give us a ring or a text once in a while though to let us know how it's all going......


...no laundry though, we don't do laundry...

[armand.kay]

You're gonna have a fab time chick, freshers is honestly the best. Think I'm going back some time next week can't wait tbh.

[VanessaFeltz.]

yesss good luck have fun!

[Cherie]

Make sure you get this jab for meningitis which started being given out last year. It is routinely given to 14 year olds in school now with their booster jabs but anyone who left school in the last few years can get it from their GP

https://www.theguardian.com/society/...ngitis-vaccine


Our GP didn't routinely invite us

[TomC]

Been here for just about a week now! I certainly didn't expect the first week to be such an emotional roller coaster. Like I was at boarding school for 6 years, but being in a new town with new people has reintroduced me to homesickness.

I have really enjoyed many parts of this week - meeting new people and (most of) the nights out have been great. But I still feel uneasy. Not just cos of missing home and stuff, but I feel as though I've met a disproportionate amount of girls compared to boys?

Now I really have enjoyed a lot of this week, it's just not been quite as good as I expected.

Just needed to get this off my chest!

[Greg!]

Originally Posted by TomC

But I still feel uneasy. Not just cos of missing home and stuff, but I feel as though I've met a disproportionate amount of girls compared to boys?

Why does that make you feel uneasy? Girlies are far better than lads in me humble opinion!
Glad you've had quite a good time tho and I hope your homesickness gets better

[armand.kay]

It's really weird because I never started feeling home sick until around November ish.

[TomC]

Originally Posted by Greg!

Why does that make you feel uneasy? Girlies are far better than lads in me humble opinion!
Glad you've had quite a good time tho and I hope your homesickness gets better

Idk like tbh at home I had more girl than guy friends but like it's still nice to have some. There aren't many guys around me tbh, like I have one male flat mate and one next door.

Yeah I hope it does too haha.

[TomC]

Originally Posted by armand.kay

It's really weird because I never started feeling home sick until around November ish.

Judging by previous experiences, I feel like once I adjust here I'll be fine.

[y.winter]

It's really early stages, you'll have enough time to get to know the people around, love them and hate them.
After a while all the first excitement and homesickness will sink, and that's when you can start measuring this experience.
There will be ups and downs like in any other fresh start, but it will be OK, and it's part of the way.
It's great that you're already having a good time, I hope it stays like that

[TomC]

Originally Posted by y.winter

It's really early stages, you'll have enough time to get to know the people around, love them and hate them.
After a while all the first excitement and homesickness will sink, and that's when you can start measuring this experience.
There will be ups and downs like in any other fresh start, but it will be OK, and it's part of the way.
It's great that you're already having a good time, I hope it stays like that

Thanks so much for your advice I totally agree, I am trying to just get through the hard parts (which are literally just the times when I have little to do and start thinking about home), and am just hoping once I get through them, I can fully have a blast haha. But yeah, this is just so reminiscent to starting boarding school tbh (although I am actually enjoying a decent amount of this, and am not bursting into tears every few hours)

[armand.kay]

Originally Posted by TomC

Judging by previous experiences, I feel like once I adjust here I'll be fine.

Seems like we're complete opposites lol like I just get on with new situations and seem to be coping pretty well but later on down the line I just realise where I am and I panick a bit.

[TomC]

Originally Posted by armand.kay

Seems like we're complete opposites lol like I just get on with new situations and seem to be coping pretty well but later on down the line I just realise where I am and I panick a bit.

Yeah I'm more of an analyser and get my issues done early

[Ammi]

..I think as well, Tom...that if you have associations with boarding school and feeling home-sickness there and maybe some very unhappy times, etc...?..that without realising it, your emotions could have 'braced themselves' for similar here/at uni...that sub-conscious worrying of really not wanting to feel those things again etc but thinking that you might do....it's like our biggest fears, isn't it...so that in itself would create an uneasy feeling ..but what you're finding out though is that there isn't anything much to be feeling uneasy about and that those negative associations are now being replaced with positives..(hopefully..)...you're not bursting into tears, you are enjoying a decent amount of it etc and that will grow and grow and grow more and more and replace those negative associations that you've probably felt tense about, you know..?......

[TomC]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I think as well, Tom...that if you have associations with boarding school and feeling home-sickness there and maybe some very unhappy times, etc...?..that without realising it, your emotions could have 'braced themselves' for similar here/at uni...that sub-conscious worrying of really not wanting to feel those things again etc but thinking that you might do....it's like our biggest fears, isn't it...so that in itself would create an uneasy feeling ..but what you're finding out though is that there isn't anything much to be feeling uneasy about and that those negative associations are now being replaced with positives..(hopefully..)...you're not bursting into tears, you are enjoying a decent amount of it etc and that will grow and grow and grow more and more and replace those negative associations that you've probably felt tense about, you know..?......

Well I really hope you're right Ammi. It does sound like a very feasible explanation. Thanks for your time in writing this

[caprimint]

I think no matter where you are in the world, you're gonna have some great times and some ****ty times overall. I can't speak from experience re: uni but it's obviously a majorly different environment to what you're used to so it's probably gonna take some time to completely adjust to the lifestyle, but I'm sure that it will all be worth it in the end.

[TomC]

Ok I really enjoyed tonight, it wasn't too wild/late, but I spent it with some really lovely people!!

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by TomC

Ok I really enjoyed tonight, it wasn't too wild/late, but I spent it with some really lovely people!!

...awwww, that's really nice to hear, Tom....I do think from what you've said that it seems mostly positive so far but maybe you just need to shake off those negative associations of homesickness that you felt at boarding school and worrying that it would be the same at uni/and thinking uh uh, hang on, should I worry about this and that etc...but so far, it doesn't seem to be, eh...great news......


...sadly, it's the things that have caused us the most emotional pain in the past that tend to rule us and our worries and fears more than the happier times and feelings...

[TomC]

Originally Posted by Ammi

...awwww, that's really nice to hear, Tom....I do think from what you've said that it seems mostly positive so far but maybe you just need to shake off those negative associations of homesickness that you felt at boarding school and worrying that it would be the same at uni/and thinking uh uh, hang on, should I worry about this and that etc...but so far, it doesn't seem to be, eh...great news......


...sadly, it's the things that have caused us the most emotional pain in the past that tend to rule us and our worries and fears more than the happier times and feelings...

Oh Ammi your posts are so uplifting and thoughtful

And it makes perfect sense what you're saying.

[TomC]

Yeah ok it actually has turned out to be 2 of the best weeks of my life like people say it is

I love this place so much, I have made such lovely friends, I just see so much ambition and diversity in front of me and I am loving the academic life so far Love it!

[arista]

Originally Posted by TomC

Yeah ok it actually has turned out to be 2 of the best weeks of my life like people say it is

I love this place so much, I have made such lovely friends, I just see so much ambition and diversity in front of me and I am loving the academic life so far Love it!

That is good to hear TomC

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by TomC

Yeah ok it actually has turned out to be 2 of the best weeks of my life like people say it is

I love this place so much, I have made such lovely friends, I just see so much ambition and diversity in front of me and I am loving the academic life so far Love it!

....hawww you.....well this was a text to home that was lovely to read, I'm so pleased that you're finding it such a positive experience, Tom...and there will be many more new great people for you to still meet there along the way as well......

[Jason.]

Originally Posted by TomC

Yeah ok it actually has turned out to be 2 of the best weeks of my life like people say it is

I love this place so much, I have made such lovely friends, I just see so much ambition and diversity in front of me and I am loving the academic life so far Love it!

That's nice to hear. Glad you are enjoying it