[vesavius]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

You do know how a wedding works?

like who invites people - no one just turns up?

Well, I know them well enough to know that there is a difference between who you feel obliged to invite and who you want to really invite.

It's good to have a filter. It also gives those who don't really care that much about it all a good excuse to not attend. Only those that really want to will be there.

[Abra]

It's not selfish at all to have your own wedding where and when you want it. What would be selfish would be to expect someone to change their own wedding plans to suit you. If you can't go, wish them the best and stay home.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Swan

Yes well me and Noky do get married, probably The Maldives or something, on Christmas day, and none of my TIBB's family attend, i'll know that none of you care

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by smudgie

Some girls dream of the big wedding, Prince Charming and all that.
Others couldn’t give a fig. Each to their own.
I was married on a Monday, register office, just to make our living together legal for the kids.
We were just going to grab a couple of witnesses but family had other ideas, we kept it as low key as we could though.
But I fully understand the need for the big white wedding for some girls.

Again though that's not the issue here at all, the issue was that Noky said her reasoning for having it abroad on a Wednesday (basically bang slap in the middle of the week so most people would need to take a whole week off work as it's abroad) would be to see who'd do all that to go to her wedding. I don't know about anyone else but I've never met a girl who when "dreaming about their wedding day" wanted a day that would inconvience people the most

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Abra

It's not selfish at all to have your own wedding where and when you want it. .

Youtube video

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Again though that's not the issue here at all, the issue was that Noky said her reasoning for having it abroad on a Wednesday (basically bang slap in the middle of the week so most people would need to take a whole week off work as it's abroad) would be to see who'd do all that to go to her wedding. I don't know about anyone else but I've never met a girl who when "dreaming about their wedding day" wanted a day that would inconvience people the most

Aah, I get your drift.
But hopefully she gets the wedding of her dreams……or nightmare if nobody turns up

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by smudgie

Aah, I get your drift.
But hopefully she gets the wedding of her dreams……or nightmare if nobody turns up

It's what she deserves

[caprimint]

Hmm I guess it is selfish but I didn't really think too much of it. The only thing I'd say is that if she does want it to be abroad it should be because she genuinely wants it there and the experience/vibe of it rather than to see how much/who really cares about being there.

[Garfie]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

1. I want my wedding to be abroad - so her family and friends are out of pocket to the tune of thousands

2. I want my wedding to be during the week - so you have to eat up your own personal holiday days to attend


what a selfish entitled person

This did seem a strange choice of thing to say, even if said in jest. Put alongside her comments about her photo - which she turned around to be about herself and her beauty contest, rather than remaining focused on the people in the picture, does give a certain impression of her. And didn’t Yinrun mention something about wanting to get to know the person behind the beauty contest winner, giving the impression that was Noky’s main topic of conversation.

[Garfie]

Originally Posted by vesavius

The girl knows her value.

She just doesn't want casual hangers on there.

But surely she knows her friends well enough that she can just choose not to invite casual hangers on!!?
If you follow this argument, it would seem to say more about the quality of her friendships. Or maybe she’s one of those people who have 800 Facebook ‘friends’, the majority of whom she has never met.
Either way, it comes across as shallow, especially when put alongside other evidence.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

But wanting a wedding abroad is not a new concept. Plenty of people do it especially in hotspots like Greece and Italy

[Gusto Brunt]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

Yes I have gone right off her the last couple of days.

She's well spoken and seems nice but when she was talking to Dylan about the places she's visited around the world, the cruises she's been on and all that, I just said no.

This is a spoiled woman. Probably never really done a day's work in her life.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

But wanting a wedding abroad is not a new concept. Plenty of people do it especially in hotspots like Greece and Italy

That wasn't the issue though it was her reasoning why she wanted it abroad and mid week.........to test how many people would put themselves out for her

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

That wasn't the issue though it was her reasoning why she wanted it abroad and mid week.........to test how many people would put themselves out for her

Oh right i missed that part of it I'll have to watch back then

[vesavius]

Originally Posted by Garfie

But surely she knows her friends well enough that she can just choose not to invite casual hangers on!!?
If you follow this argument, it would seem to say more about the quality of her friendships. Or maybe she’s one of those people who have 800 Facebook ‘friends’, the majority of whom she has never met.
Either way, it comes across as shallow, especially when put alongside other evidence.

As I said before, there is often a huge difference between who you want to invite and who you feel obliged to invite.

She probably has quite a wide circle of friends and her work probably heavily bleeds into that.

You think it is 'shallow', I choose not to.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

Oh right i missed that part of it I'll have to watch back then

I don't think there's anything wrong with weddings abroad at all as long as the couple understand that some people won't be able to go because of money/childcare/work etc Judging them as not real friends because of that is very unfair I think

[Crimson Dynamo]

why is this such a hard concept for people to understand?

[Garfie]

Originally Posted by vesavius

As I said before, there is often a huge difference between who you want to invite and who you feel obliged to invite.

She probably has quite a wide circle of friends and her work probably heavily bleeds into that.

You think it is 'shallow', I choose not to.

I respect your point of view as it’s all a matter of perception at the end of the day.

[vesavius]

Originally Posted by Garfie

I respect your point of view as it’s all a matter of perception at the end of the day.

Exactly!