[Benjamin]

I thought I would start a thread about something that most of us may have experienced or have an opinion on.


Recently myself I split from my fiance because I found that they had betrayed me while I was studying abroad for only 4 months. I was so devastated and it shattered my world and tore my heart as I wanted to get married and be happy. I nearly even failed my final year at uni, but luckily my friends pulled me together and I passed with a good grade.


I don't think I can ever forgive somebody that has cheated on me, and lord knows I have tried, but I don't think the trust will ever return or that I'd be happy with them ever again.

Has anyone here ever been cheated on, or cheated, and how did they cope/deal with it and their ex.

[Jen]

I have been cheated on... a few times. By the same person.
We are friends now.. which really helped...
The first time he did it... he told me and said he regretted, I believed him and gave him a second chance..
He then did it a few weeks later with the same girl (I didn't know the girl, I had never spoken to her or heard her name mentioned before). The second time he said the girl forced herself on him and he had no control. So being a fool I stayed with him for 3 more months... it wasn't until one of his close friends had to tell me that for those 3 months he was with her and me...Hes still with her...and I'm single.. and MUCH happier


Oh and I have NEVER cheated... I would hate to make another person feel the way I had felt...

[30stone]

Im sorry to hear all that turtle, wow.

And yeh im with you i couldnt forgive them im the revenge type.

but nope ive never been cheated on somehow lol

and ive never cheated on any of the girls i been wit.

Im a nice guy

[AlexBigBrother]

yeah i cud never cheat on a girl, i expect the same back

[Lauren]

Nope, never been cheated on and never cheated. It's one thing I feel strongly about, I'd never do it.

[andyman]

lol i don't know... Glad your ok though, love is never a easy path but whatever happens you have to pick yourself up and keep walking the path of life, you never know who you will meet on the journey.

[Jen]

Originally posted by andyman
lol i don't know... Glad your ok though, love is never a easy path but whatever happens you have to pick yourself up and keep walking the path of life, you never know who you will meet on the journey.

That was really nice.
Great shout Andy...

[jonsep]

i have and it feken hurts

[andyman]

Originally posted by Lauren
Nope, never been cheated on and never cheated. It's one thing I feel strongly about, I'd never do it.

What they don't know won't hurt them...

[30stone]

Originally posted by jonsep
i have and it feken hurts

Im sorry to hear.



I do and dont wnat to know the feeling.

It would be bad news either way i took it lol

[Tom4784]

Once and they regretted it deeply.

[MarkWaldorf]

I THINK I was. I only had other peoples theories to take in. I knew she was close to this boy though, so I believed it and dumped her. What a horrible day that was. We've been back out since though and its not so much an issue anymore. I don't think she really sees him that much now anyway.

[bananarama]

Truth is cheating is common place by both sexes....Most of it is never discovered.......Saw a lot of it at work in offices and it's amazing what use can be made of a little used storage rooms.....Office girls (Married) and the contarct window cleaner. Secretaries and contract builders.......Husband collecting wife from work with children in car not knowing hours before she had been caught in the act.....Poor unsuspecting husband.

The older you get the more you learn life aint as sweet as your ideals may think it should be.....

[Lauren]

Originally posted by andyman

What they don't know won't hurt them...

What you just said was made scary by the fact Peter was watching me as I read it...that avatar is so disturbing lmao!

[melanie]

Sorry, I hope your better now.

I've been cheated on once. He didn't even try to hide it. Like if your going to cheat at least try to be discreet about it. We were supposed to go to France this summer too. I stuck with him for almost 2 years and he cheated on me with a slut. I'm still bitter.

[bigbr0ther]

Aw, ukturtle.

Don't worry, she doesn't deserve you anyway!

[Rory]

Nahhh...although, I did hear that some of my girlfriends didn't really like me from all of their "BFFs" so I took some thought into some of it and dumped them.

[Captain.Remy]

Have I ever been cheated on ? Nope.

Have you ever cheated ? Oh yeah.

[Sunny_01]

Yep I have been, many moons ago when I was just young. It hurts like hell.

[AngRemembered]

I've been very lucky, never been cheated on and would never cheat on my husband, not even with _Tom_

[LemonJam]

I was cheated on and I have (extremely ashamedly) cheated and I've been involved in someone else cheating on their boyfriend many times

I have a terrible history of affairs/cheating Don't judge me please. lol

[_Tom_]

Originally posted by Angiebabe
I've been very lucky, never been cheated on and would never cheat on my husband, not even with _Tom_

[Tom]

I have but it turned out for the best, she was with some lad for about 3 or 4 years, then they just suddenly split up. I was with her for a couple of months after that but when you're in a relationship for that long its inevitable that the 3 or 4 years will outweigh a month or so. Shes really happy now, shes got exactly what she wanted off him which I didn't want to give her (but I'm not going to go into detail over it).

On more than one occasion I've been the person that someone has cheated with

I've also cheated a few times, some because I was bored, other times for revenge and others because I can't say no

But yeah, I'm not squeaky clean when it comes to relationships but I've settled down quite a lot in the past year.

[Sophii3x]

Aw, I hope your feeling ok now!

I've been cheated on and it just the worst feeling ever, it just hurts.
My boyfriend cheated on me and went off with my best friend over 2 years ago after we'd been together for 8/9 months. It took me over a year to get over him. We've been back together now for nearly a year and he always gets upset if it's ever mentioned. It's soo hard to forgive and forget and I found it quite hard to trust him again in the begining knowing what he did to me the first time round, but right now I completly trust him.
And I've never and would never cheat on anyone.

[xDramatick]

Nope.
With my first boyfriend so hell no.
I trust him completely, he's said that he's cheated before [i may add - totally wasn't his fault] and he felt awful afterwards and promised he'd never ever do it again.

I couldn't bring myself to do it either unless I was getting revenge.
I believe in revenge over forgiving+forgetting.
So if he was to cheat on me, I'd probably do it back to him.
Sounds awful but that's me :\

I can say though, I love him, he loves me, and we trust each other completely.
I've been put in various positions by other guys where I've been given the opportunity to cheat, but easily brushed them off. I don't love them. Simple as.