[setanta]

Would the way one of your friends views a person dictate how you act towards them, particularly when you've seen where the problem arose and still had fun and been friendly with said person in the first place?

[Jessica.]

If my friend has a problem with someone I have a problem with that person.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by Jessica.

If my friend has a problem with someone I have a problem with that person.

That's not how it works though, particularly when you have no problem with the person yourself and were talking to them freely prior to that.

[Stacey.]

Not really. That's up to them of what they think of the person, wouldn't let that affect the way I see them.

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by setanta

That's not how it works though, particularly when you have no problem with the person yourself and were talking to them freely prior to that.

What are you on about? Are you talking about something particular? I was just answering the question.. :S

[setanta]

Originally Posted by Stacey.x

Not really. That's up to them of what they think of the person, wouldn't let that affect the way I see them.

Yep, that's the way I see it too Stacey.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by Jessica.

What are you on about? Are you talking about something particular? I was just answering the question.. :S

Don't play dumb Stacey lol.

[Shaun]

I'm not one for pack mentality.

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by setanta

Don't play dumb Stacey lol.

That's not my name you eejit! I honestly don't have a clue what you are talking about.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by Shaun

I'm not one for pack mentality.

Nor am I, but I'll fight it.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by Jessica.

That's not my name you eejit! I honestly don't have a clue what you are talking about.

Sorry about the name thing, but you kno darling, you kno.

[MissKittyFantastico]

I don't think you should really be bringing personal issues here James. It seems like you're looking for an argument again tbh.

[MrGaryy]

Well if it was a person who I had nothing to do with and didn't converse with often I would just be like, whatever, I wouldn't join in bitching sessions or whatever but I wouldn't reject that person if they were to make an effort with me just because of my friend's opinion with them.

But if it was someone I was involved with as well as being involved with my friend who had a problem with them I would probably just choose a side. I find it makes life easier. Plus I find fence sitting irritating.

[DrunkerThanMoses]

Ah I had this situation not long ago, two of my friends were fighting and the one said stuff about the other that I thought had some truth to it, but I still liked them both the same.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by Kitty

I don't think you should really be bringing personal issues here James. It seems like you're looking for an argument again tbh.

Whatever Michelle. It's a fairly open question.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by MrGaryy

Well if it was a person who I had nothing to do with and didn't converse with often I would just be like, whatever, I wouldn't join in bitching sessions or whatever but I wouldn't reject that person if they were to make an effort with me just because of my friend's opinion with them.

But if it was someone I was involved with as well as being involved with my friend who had a problem with them I would probably just choose a side. I find it makes life easier. Plus I find fence sitting irritating.

But what if you've been friendly with the said person and then cut him off just because of something your friend said? What if the majority sided with some bullshi$ reason your friend came up with to turn everybody's backs on him/her?

[MrGaryy]

Originally Posted by setanta

But what if you've been friendly with the said person and then cut him off just because of something your friend said? What if the majority sided with some bullshi$ reason your friend came up with to turn everybody's backs on him/her?

Well it depends of the severity of the situation obviously and if it was something really terrible or serious then I would obviously be less flippant with my actions but in the case of your average falling out, I find floating in the middle does you no favours in the end and just shows you up as being a bit vanilla. So I would side with the person I agreed with most in the knowledge it would probably be sorted in the end or at least to the degree that I would eventually be able to be friends with both, post argument.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by MrGaryy

Well it depends of the severity of the situation obviously and if it was something really terrible or serious then I would obviously be less flippant with my actions but in the case of your average falling out, I find floating in the middle does you no favours in the end and just shows you up as being a bit vanilla. So I would side with the person I agreed with most in the knowledge it would probably be sorted in the end or at least to the degree that I would eventually be able to be friends with both, post argument.

Nothing terrible, nothing serious, and it has been apologized over.

[MrGaryy]

Originally Posted by setanta

Nothing terrible, nothing serious, and it has been apologized over.

*wasn't aware this was related to a current issue*

well in that case I suppose I would just be friendly towards both. But my point is that if it came down to it at crunch time, I would without a doubt just choose a side. And I usually respect people for doing that.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by MrGaryy

*wasn't aware this was related to a current issue*

well in that case I suppose I would just be friendly towards both. But my point is that if it came down to it at crunch time, I would without a doubt just choose a side. And I usually respect people for doing that.

Yeah, so would I, but what about when it occurs over the net and somebody is just banished because of it, even though they've been talking to the others with no problem prior to this and then suddenly find themselves ostracized?

[MrGaryy]

Originally Posted by setanta

Yeah, so would I, but what about when it occurs over the net and somebody is just banished because of it, even though they've been talking to the others with no problem prior to this and then suddenly find themselves ostracized?

[might I just add that with all due respect unless you name names this is starting to look a tad petty, but I'll continue for the sake of it.]

If it happened over the net I would probably be even more definitive about it. At the end of the day these people dont have to speak to each other and makes little difference to their lives whether or not they do. While there's no need to make it a dead awkward thing for others around by being rude or nasty to the person, I wouldn't bother making the effort to get around the issue because there's not really any need to in my opinion. I would just ignore them furthermore.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by MrGaryy

[might I just add that with all due respect unless you name names this is starting to look a tad petty, but I'll continue for the sake of it.]

If it happened over the net I would probably be even more definitive about it. At the end of the day these people dont have to speak to each other and makes little difference to their lives whether or not they do. While there's no need to make it a dead awkward thing for others around by being rude or nasty to the person, I wouldn't bother making the effort to get around the issue because there's not really any need to in my opinion. I would just ignore them furthermore.

Yep, and I probably will. It just hurts when you try to be nice and then are cut off because of what one person thinks of you, you know that way?

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by setanta

Sorry about the name thing, but you kno darling, you kno.

I would prefer if you didn't call me darling.

[setanta]

Originally Posted by Jessica.

I would prefer if you didn't call me darling.

Says your one who had no problem talking to me about 2 days ago. Grow up hun, really.

[MrGaryy]

Originally Posted by setanta

Yep, and I probably will. It just hurts when you try to be nice and then are cut off because of what one person thinks of you, you know that way?

Yeah I understand what you mean but if I were you I wouldn't let it bother me. I mean at the end of the day it's all fonts and avatars. These people don't know you and make no difference to your life so **** em, I say.

[I say this not knowing who they are so sorry if I just insulted someone I like. But then again, they're obviously a lame mess, so I don't really care if that offended you or not.]