[Matt08]

Title explains it all.

[Arneldo]

Very, very, very single

[Matt08]

Originally posted by Arneldo
Very, very, very single

Happy and single? or Sad and single?
I used to love being single, now it's just boring and lonely

[Arneldo]

I'm always on the look out but it's hard cause I'm still haven't told family and friends that I'm gay.

[Ruth*Star]

Single, and i couldn't care less, i've had 2 BF, one online and one from school and they both didn't work so i'll wait till i leave school untill i think about getting another bf.

[Bells]

Single at the moment. My last proper relationship was ages ago, and since then I've had nothing serious. I think it's mainly because I'm really picky to be honest. But at the moment I'm quite happy being single and I did always want to remain so for uni etc. And now especially for next summer, when I'm going on holiday with friends! I can't see me entering a long-term relationship anytime soon, but then you never know I guess.

[BigSister]

im single

[Ann]

im in a relationship thank you

[cujo-man]

Originally posted by Arneldo
I'm always on the look out but it's hard cause I'm still haven't told family and friends that I'm gay.

Wow, that must be tough.

[KKBL]

theres loads of people my age i know that are "going " with somone but i think 14 is wayyy to young to get in to anything like that!

[Matt08]

Originally posted by CathalOS
theres loads of people my age i know that are "going " with somone but i think 14 is wayyy to young to get in to anything like that!

I had a girlfriend last year, it was a massive mistake and it never turned out very well.

[Arneldo]

Originally posted by cujo_man

Wow, that must be tough.

It is. Very tough, and fustrating. I'd see a guy when I'm out and it's not like I can really go up and chat to him cause I'm alays with my mates or family.

[Retroman]

Single and looking...
I wouldn't say im unhappy, but I do think id be much happier with a girlfriend.
Then again, most people would be happier with a partner.

My last serious relationship was three years, from when I was 15-18 years old, we lived together etc. Since then ive had seven casual relationships? I think.

By casual, I mean they didn't last very long lol. As one did claim to love me =/

[Matt08]

Originally posted by Arneldo

It is. Very tough, and fustrating. I'd see a guy when I'm out and it's not like I can really go up and chat to him cause I'm alays with my mates or family.

Do your friends know that your gay?

[supernoodles!]

taken
and its a roll eyes smilie coz im not in a good place atm relationship wise

[Bells]

That's a shame supernoodles. It's probably just a phase though! I hope everything works out well.

[Retroman]

Originally posted by Arneldo
It is. Very tough, and fustrating. I'd see a guy when I'm out and it's not like I can really go up and chat to him cause I'm alays with my mates or family.

I imagine it's a problem finding people because you don't know if they're gay or not too? Unless you venture into a gay club.

I assume it's hard walking upto someone you find attractive and needing to find out/ask if they're gay or not.

[Bells]

Originally posted by Retroman
Since then ive had seven casual relationships? I think.

By casual, I mean they didn't last very long lol. As one did claim to love me =/

7 in 2 years is pretty good going!
Not too casual, but more like proper relationships that happened to be short.

[Retroman]

Originally posted by Ash
7 in 2 years is pretty good going!
Not too casual, but more like proper relationships that happened to be short.

I suppose if you look at it like that...
It's not so bad.

But unfortunately it was more like 1 and 1/2 years, as I haven't been out with anyone in the past six months. So you can imagine how short some of the relationships were lol. Which means there wasn't much chance to feel good about the relationship, because it didn't last long enough to mean something.

Relationships are tricky, the closer you are to a person the more you don't want to lose them, and the more it'll hurt if you do. When someone means a lot to you, it can often result in paranoia and jealousy because you really can't bare the thought of them running off with someone.

Trust is a hard thing to find I suppose, but I guess it's something most of us keep looking for. Problem is, you'll never know if you truly found it until you and your partner die together or something...until then, there's always the potential chance the trust could be broken.

[Bells]

It depends really. Some people do need to be in a relationship to be happy. I’m not one of those people at all, I don’t think... as I explained earlier. It’s probably because to an extent I agree that trust is hard to find and until I’m 100% confident that the guy’s as reliable as possible in the circumstances, I’ll still be sceptical. I always hope that the wait is worth it though. So far I’ve been doing OK.

[Arneldo]

Originally posted by Matthew

Do your friends know that your gay?

Nope. And they are all straight and like they would be out go "Oh look at that bird over there" and I'm just "yeah, she's nice" while I'm secretly checking out some guy

[cujo-man]

Originally posted by Arneldo

Nope. And they are all straight and like they would be out go "Oh look at that bird over there" and I'm just "yeah, she's nice" while I'm secretly checking out some guy

Do you not think they already kind of know?

Its like my friend. He doesn't say hes gay, but I'm like 99.9% sure he is.

[Arneldo]

Originally posted by Retroman

I imagine it's a problem finding people because you don't know if they're gay or not too? Unless you venture into a gay club.

I assume it's hard walking upto someone you find attractive and needing to find out/ask if they're gay or not.

I've never been to a gay club, mainly because I'm 16. That's another reason why I haven't meet any guys. I have seen guys who are gay and they were the same age as me and they were just getting on with there lives and enjoying it and that's what makes me so angry. I'm 16 and I feel like I'm wasting my teenagers year by hiding this secret and I feel it puts a huge weight on my shoulders. I'm scared to go out and pissed with my mates in case a accidentally say something I'll regret.

[Arneldo]

Originally posted by cujo_man

Do you not think they already kind of know?

Its like my friend. He doesn't say hes gay, but I'm like 99.9% sure he is.

I don't know, and I dont plan on asking them lol. You shouldn't assume somebody is gay or not gay. Well, I don't think you should anyway.

[Matt08]

Originally posted by Arneldo

I don't know, and I dont plan on asking them lol. You shouldn't assume somebody is gay or not gay. Well, I don't think you should anyway.

I haven't told any of my friends or family that i'm bi. It's alot more hassle than it's worth.