[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Z

Yes, he begged me to come meet him last night and go to a club round the corner from where I live. I had been at a dinner party and was in the cinema but I haven't seen him in a few weeks so I agreed and basically he just wanted someone to go out with so he could drunk text someone he's pulled a couple of times in the last couple of weeks (he's in a relationship - it's totally wrong) so I said well I'm not going to stand here and watch you self destruct, eventually managed to send him home in a taxi without meeting up with the other person (as far as I know) but then today he was begging me to go out and I said no, so then he's gone to our mutual friend and now they're going out so I just decided to invite them both over to mine so I can keep an eye out... he's just being stupid on purpose, he felt it was too soon to officially be in a relationship with his partner so he's sabotaging himself, his partner will find out and then he'll get to be miserable... just very stupid behaviour

...hmmm, well he obviously doesn't want to be in the relationship/isn't ready for a serious thing..there isn't really anything that you can do about that but you don't have to watch him hurt her the way he is though..you could try talking to him and saying that this is the wrong way to do it, I know she'll be pretty hurt anyway and obviously feel rejected but what he's doing/the way that he's doing it, is going to make her feel pretty worthless and none of this is her fault...maybe just say that he can do as he wants but you're not going to be there for him if he hurts her like this instead of confronting it and talking to her/ending it properly..?..