[AProducer'sWetDream]

So, I'm gay (I'm male) but not out to my family and friends yet. Recently, I've made the decision to tell everyone and have mentally built myself up to do it really soon. However, just a few days before I planned to tell my parents, my cousin, who is also a boy almost the same age, came out.

This is my predicament: if I come out now, as I originally planned, I feel like I'll be somehow 'stealing his moment' or 'thunder'. I don't want to be seen as copying him or it to be perceived as attention seeking and stealing the limelight. Will people be less likely to believe me or say its just a phase that will pass if I do it so soon after somebody else? Also, I know that some relatives are struggling with this news so I don't want to burden them/upset them anymore by coming out as well.

What would you do? Should I wait until the dust has settled before I come out? Should I just tell the people who haven't been affected by the news?

Out of curiosity- do you have any gay relatives of a similar age. If so, how did feel coming out before/after them? What was the reaction like?

Some advice would be really useful- I've built and built myself up to do it and now I feel like it's not the right time, but I don't want to regret not coming out sooner in the future.