[Tom and amy fan]

A friend of mine has recently told me she used to have a crush on me I have feelings for her what should I do

[Glenn.]

Does she still have a crush on you?

[Swan]

Go for it, never fear rejection, it happens to all of us in life, seize the moment.

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

A friend of mine has recently told me she used to have a crush on me I have feelings for her what should I do

Lewis I spent ages talking to you about this at your request by pm. You concluded that you just wanted to be friends.

[Tom and amy fan]

Originally Posted by Glenn.

Does she still have a crush on you?

I'm not sure but why admit that she used to If those feelings aren't there

[Glenn.]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

I'm not sure but why admit that she used to If those feelings aren't there

It’s best to talk to her about it.

It’s good to get different perspectives on things.

[Alf]

Ask her out on a date. Woo her.

If she rejects you then, so what? Don't take it to heart. Just see it as a dropped stitch in life's tapestry.

[Kate!]

Do not ignore me!!

You asked my advice about this by pm and in the end you said very firmly that you wanted friendship only.

??

[Tom and amy fan]

Originally Posted by Kate!

Do not ignore me!!

You asked my advice about this by pm and in the end you said very firmly that you wanted friendship only.

??

I'm not sure though

[Alf]

The average relationship doesn't last that long in modern UK society.

Attraction only goes so far. It's about whether you can stick it out in all the mundane parts of life.

[Glenn.]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

I'm not sure though

Like I said. It’s best to have a few perspectives.

If you want to see if she still has a crush on you, then ask her. The only way forward is communication with her.

If you’re not willing to speak to her then forget about it.

[Kate!]

Sigh. I've already told him all this, I spent ages talking to him about it, cos I care. I told him not to leave her hanging? He said they'd mutually decided to be friends only.

This thread does not make sense.

[Tom and amy fan]

Sorry Kate

[AnnieK]

Do you think she still feels the same? The only way forward is an open honest conversation but you need to decide if you are willing to risk the friendship moving forward. If it doesn't work out, could you retain the friendship.

[Zizu]

Originally Posted by Alf

The average relationship doesn't last that long in modern UK society.

Attraction only goes so far. It's about whether you can stick it out in all the mundane parts of life.

True enough ..

Me and the missus have been together 48 years !!

Married for nearly 45 years


When people ask what’s like being coupled up for practically half a century - I just say

“ Well we’ve had some great years … … 1992 , 2004 and 2017 ..”

[Tom and amy fan]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

Do you think she still feels the same? The only way forward is an open honest conversation but you need to decide if you are willing to risk the friendship moving forward. If it doesn't work out, could you retain the friendship.

The main reason I'm frightened to say anything is that I don't want to risk losing the friendship

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

The main reason I'm frightened to say anything is that I don't want to risk losing the friendship

I give up.

You said you'd both decided to be friends. You shouldn't seesaw. It's not fair.

[Alf]

He who hesitates, masterbates.

Trust me, I know that to be true.

A lady likes to be wanted, even if she knocks you back first time, she'll still know you're there and interested, and you won't be out the contest.

Females are probably more insicure than us males when it comes to dating. Look at all the makeup they have to put on just to feel attractive.

Play it cool and ask her out, and treat her to a good night.

[Glenn.]

Skirt around the subject to gauge her response.

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

The main reason I'm frightened to say anything is that I don't want to risk losing the friendship

If it's not worth risking the friendship...there's your answer
I would say you think more about the friendship than a possible relationship.
Talk to her though...work it out together

[Tom and amy fan]

Maybe I haven't been very fair to her

[Alf]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

Maybe I haven't been very fair to her

That's not true.

[Tom and amy fan]

Originally Posted by Alf

That's not true.

How

[Alf]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

How

What is your current relationship with her?

Are you close as in going to the pub with her once in a while or are close as in talking everyday, maybe even going on holiday together?

[Tom and amy fan]

Originally Posted by Alf

What is your current relationship with her?

Are you close as in going to the pub with her once in a while or are close as in talking everyday, maybe even going on holiday together?

Talking every day she's one of my best friends