[Maru]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

When good-looking people attack their own looks just so they can get told how attractive they are.

It strikes me as someone that needs to be validated all of the time.

Attraction is so subjective, it can be a bit of a game to figure out where we resonate with specific people. It's like this with personality I think these days. So it's probably one of the few times some people can figure out where their chemistry falls with other people if they're not used to being noticed for their personality. So I kinda understand that "need". However yes, some people just play the game, not just a quest to find out whether one is attractive or not, but to try to get someone to be more interested in them and play mind games. That game absolutely is played among women... but men do it too also now (especially younger men).

I'm unconventional when it comes to my tastes, so a lot of compliments do feel straight out of left field I see compliments as "for entertainment purposes only", to be generously given but more for the benefits of amusement... I]generally[/I] not to be taken that seriously at all because impressions can be highly variable. I'd like to think I have a decently critical (constructive) view of myself that I don't need someone to directly insult on me the regular to have some clue at least... but when someone compliments in any area that really I can't be objective on, that is helpful because it's affirming that I at least put across an energy that I can accept when I'm around other people... I think being attractive to others has a lot to do with personality, so if someone goes out of their way to put compliments on physical traits, they're also speaking to you as a person... not just what you look like, but how you make them feel... so that information does matter.

Some people are not strong in personality, so it can look that they are using it to achieve attention. It is what it is. I try not to judge too harshly, because we all have our points we feel we'd like to work on. Maybe someone is genuinely not happy with their look. Whatever the case, if they need validation, it's fine I think on some level. Games are pretty easy to detect if you pay enough attention. My concern would more be if the compliments are coming from the right place... like I don't want to make other people feel I need flattery.

/random