[bananarama]

A true friend tells it like it is, warns you of the pitfalls of a given situation and doesn't just tell you what they think you want to hear.

A very very dangerous philosophy. True friend don't meddle. True friends don't try and live someone’s life for them. The whole point is that no one has the monopoly on being right about another persons personality. Although a so called true friend may have "good intentions" That true friend could be wrong and yet they still risk influencing their "victim" for want of a better description. No my friend. True friends put up and shut up. They do not meddle unless invited to........And that is the advise that any true friend should give you.