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Originally Posted by Jords

You dont have to directly say shes a buzz kill, that would be awful
Just try talking to her, asking whats up etc. The running away business sounds like shes attention seeking and might have something on her mind and want you lot to confront her. Shes in denial about being home-sick perhaps because she feels embarrassed about it. Try telling her you miss your family and she might feel at ease opening up, having a good cry, hugging it out and you have a fresh start because its all out and it can only go up from there. Get her to make the plans on what yall do 1 day.

Those are all good suggestions, thanks Jords! Bit in bold: she's so introverted that she'll never make any plans... out of the group of us at uni, she's the only one who has never introduced her friends from school to the group, she's the only one who hasn't opened up about her family (just the other week we discovered she had another younger sister; and we only found out she had a twin brother last year, and we've known each other for 2 years now) - she's just so unbelievably introverted that it's hard to get her to come out of her shell and I just feel like it's not my responsibility to even try, but I guess 'cause it's on my mind I do feel bad that I'm not trying... but I don't think I should act on that? I dunno, it's really difficult!

And thanks Ammi, I do feel as if I'm being made to feel like I'm an asshole through her passive aggressive updates and the way she's putting herself across to her friends online, but we have to take charge of our own destiny here. Maybe if I wasn't living in a city with lots of other assistants to hang out with I would feel differently, I'm not sure, but I just feel as though I should be making the most of my time here and not really spending much time with my uni friends because it'd feel like a bit of a step backwards... the other two girls are really close friends of mine and I've only seen the one that lives nearby in the past month; the other one I'm not going to see until the end of October and we even lived together in 1st year - it's not like I'm constantly hanging out with them and leaving the other girl out, but I think she feels as if that's what's going on... frustrated!