[lostalex]

I agree she was wrong to do it, but should we really be putting all this pressure on the boy, making him feel like he's a victim? if he does't feel like a victim, i don't think it's healthy to try to make him feel like a victim.

do you get what i'm saying? i think in some ways it's more damaging to make him feel like a victim, when ordinarily he would just be bragging to his friends.