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Originally Posted by Ammi

..it's a good word and fairly much covers his personality so it's now officially a BB word anyway.....hmmmm, I understand what you're saying..I think BB with the HL shows create much less of a balance than they used to so there is more of a 'villain and victim' type thing/storyline and James in this show is being portrayed as the 'villain' and will endlessly be talked about...?....I don't think Gary is a 'victim' though as such but just being subjected to a general group intolerance thing and being treated meanly, almost as if he's 'less than'/not respected at all as a person..?....I think that might be because there are things about him that are extremely annoying to live with as well which I understand but with someone else, another housemate, they would maybe have been handled with more patience and tolerance because Gary is just not liked or 'popular'...I find that interesting..(and worrying..)..that empathy is lost for someone if it's someone who is quite unpopular..?...


..I'm not sure James is fascinated with Gary, I don't see any interest there in him at all...he isn't interested in anything Gary has to say or any of his thoughts/beliefs etc...I think James has to feel 'important' ..has to prove himself somehow and it's interesting that the two people he has clashed with most in the house are the most 'vulnerable' with Gary and his impairment which causes him to become frustrating to the other housemates..?..so someone James can easily very much feel importance over by 'feeding' the dislike of the other housemates by constantly criticising Gary because he knows his actions and words will have 'popularity' with the others..therefore enforcing his feeling of 'Alpha' by treating Gary badly but yet also being the one to occasionally do things for him, which he constantly then points out so all are aware including Gary himself...

..and then there is also Audley, who is very much an 'Alpha' figure and by his size as well as his personality so James has 'preened his feathers' there and told him quite early on how he's not scared of him......(he will be really otherwise he would be dumb/have you seen the size of Audley...)..but he has to 'prove' outwardly to the others (and viewers..) that he isn't...it's so important for him to be the 'leader'/the Alpha...?...he has to tell us all and the housemates that he's intelligent/top of his game etc a real leader..?......interesting....also very insecure because he's the least comfortable with who he is than any of them I think...also interesting that (I think), he was fine with Kellie until more and more of Kellie's 'male' emerged in her aggression as well...maybe then started seeing her as a challenge to his 'Alpha'...?....

..maybe his relationship with Gary also started the way it did because he originally saw Gary is an Alpha but then it wasn't so, so he became the 'old alpha' that Gary didn't have much respect for but had to throw scraps of kindness to now and again....


..I'm making it up as I go along.....

Some thoughts that were prompted by what you posted Ammi...

I wonder WHY Gary is disliked by so many. If he was behaving like he did on some other shows, then I could sort of understand it more, but he seems very amiable and tolerant, though I suspect he is winding them up to some extent. I don't think it's to do with his hearing either, because if they liked him they would make more of an effort surely...so we have to accept to some degree that Gary isn't easy to relate or annoys most of them, though that doesn't excuse in any way their behaviour towards him ...and of course he's the most intriguing HM in there by a long way which is great for us viewers.

James: He has said several times that Gary fascinates him and I've seen him looking at him sometimes with complete bemusement as if he's trying to get inside his head to get the answer to the puzzle lol
I think he has probably been mocked for being a dancer all his life and he isn't sure enough about his own masculinity to be able to brush it off. Now, I'm not thinking he's gay, because everyone has a right to self - identify and I don't think he is anyway. I just think whatever mocking he has had probably in his younger years makes him need to be seen as an alpha male and he has a naturally big ego which has currently taken a severe bruising with being dismissed from Strictly.

He's not a very inward looking person that examines his own behaviour but instead sees other people as the problem and not himself. Maybe Gary wasn't what he is now in his 30's either....James certainly has a lot of evolving to do but I'm fairly sure he isn't as bad in real life as the lovely Ola has been married to him for 9 years and happily by all accounts, so being in the BB house is probably bringing out his insecurities and showing him at his very worst....I don't like what I'm seeing of him in there, but he's an interesting HM....