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Originally Posted by Cherie

I agree with alot of this, that said if you don't get out there and do something it will definately never happen

This is true, doing nothing is a surefire way of getting nowhere. But getting nowhere (or not getting far) isn't necessarily an indication that a person hasn't done anything or isn't prepared to work hard. In fact there's a quite a dangerous mindset there because people become a self-fulfilling prophecy - e.g. someone reaches say 40 and hasn't achieved anything spectacular, people start to assume that this is because they aren't capable (or because they haven't worked hard enough and are lazy) rather than because the opportunity hasn't arisen, and so fewer people are willing to give them a chance.