[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

Who said they did? I feel for the kid when they wonder who is my dad? I hope there's still the option open for the child to look for the guy should they ever want to.

So what, all kids wonder things like that. plenty of kids wonder things like "what would my life be like is my mom was angelina jolie, or what if my dad was brad pitt" children fantasize about a million different lives, we all do. even sometimes we see our friends parents, and wish our parents where more like our friends parents. but the fact is you get stuck with the parents you have, no matter if they are lesbians or not, or if your are adopted or not.

I remember one of the most hurtful things i ever said to my mom growing up was " why can't you be more like daniel's mom! she is always home and she even takes us out for ice-cream, but you're always working!" i could see it immediately how it hurt her when i said it, and i regretted it immediately.
but the point is all kids wonder things like that an wish they had different parents in their fantasies.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by lostalex

So what, all kids wonder things like that. plenty of kids wonder things like "what would my life be like is my mom was angelina jolie, or what if my dad was brad pitt" children fantasize about a million different lives, we all do. even sometimes we see our friends parents, and wish our parents where more like our friends parents. but the fact is you get stuck with the parents you have, no matter if they are lesbians or not, or if your are adopted or not.

I remember one of the most hurtful things i ever said to my mom growing up was " why can't you be more like daniel's mom! she is always home and she even takes us out for ice-cream, but you're always working!" i could see it immediately how it hurt her when i said it, and i regretted it immediately.
but the point is all kids wonder things like that an wish they had different parents in their fantasies.

Wondering who your natural father is is not the same as wishing your mum was Angelina Jolie, or Daniels mum.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

Wondering who your natural father is is not the same as wishing your mum was Angelina Jolie, or Daniels mum.

how is it different? you have the parents you have. whether it's 2 happy heterosexuals or 2 happy homosexuals, or 1 happy single mother and a step family.

whether it;s a family with 1 mom and 1 child, or a family with 2 moms and 2 dads and 40 other family members that are always around.

every family is unique just like every person is unique.

there is no such thing as a perfect family.

no one of us gets the perfect mother or father, or school, or society, but we all do the best we can with what we have. and there's nothing wrong with that.

I know one thing for sure, kids are doing better than they ever have done. they have more protection and more opportunities than ever before in history.

and i know for sure that telling kids that there's something wrong with their family does NO GOOD for ANYONE.

so if you don't like someone else's family, keep it to yourself, because it's none of your business as long as no one is being hurt. and there is no evidence at all that any one is being hurt by having 2 moms, or 1 mom, or no moms.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by lostalex

how is it different? you have the parents you have. whether it's 2 happy heterosexuals or 2 happy homosexuals, or 1 happy single mother and a step family.

whether it;s a family with 1 mom and 1 child, or a family with 2 moms and 2 dads and 40 other family members that are always around.

every family is unique just like every person is unique.

there is no such thing as a perfect family.

no one of us gets the perfect mother or father, or school, or society, but we all do the best we can with what we have. and there's nothing wrong with that.

I'm not suggesting for a second they won't have a happy life and a loving family am I?...

I'm suggesting it's equally as natural to wonder about your biological parents if you'd never met them.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

I'm not suggesting for a second they won't have a happy life and a loving family am I?...

I'm suggesting it's equally as natural to wonder about your biological parents if you'd never met them.

i don't see what that has to do with this story. i know plenty of people who have 1 mom and 1 dad who wonder if maybe they were adopted and secretly their dad is david bowie. so ****ing what? what does it have to do with this story about 2 lesbians creating a family?

it has absolutely jack all to do with jack all. kids wonder, that's what kids do, but guess what, kids also have to accept the family that they have. period.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by lostalex

i don't see what that has to do with this story. i know plenty of people who have 1 mom and 1 dad who wonder if maybe they were adopted and secretly their dad is david bowie. so ****ing what? what does it have to do with this story about 2 lesbians creating a family?

it has absolutely jack all to do with jack all. kids wonder, that's what kids do, but guess what, kids also have to accept the family that they have. period.

It's not from the perspective of the parents.. whoever they may be, it's from the standpoint of the child, it's not good enough to suggest they put up and shut up when they question their heredity.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

It's not from the perspective of the parents.. whoever they may be, it's from the standpoint of the child, it's not good enough to suggest they put up and shut up when they question their heredity.

well if you want to know a child's perspective, i was adopted. and my mom (adopted mom) died when i was 23. i found my biological family when i was 32. and i can say with absolute certainty that my mom was my real mom and my biological family, are just some people i found online.

you should stop judging others people's families. and since when do you get to decide how other people raise their kids?

or maybe you think just because they are gay parents only str8 people should get to decide how kids are raised. if that's why, then you are a bigot.

If you want to decide how other people raise their kids, there are plenty of straight parents ruining their children lives, so why don't you focus on them!

I haven't seen one single credible argument why these 2 women aren't just as capable as anyone else raising kids.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

It's not from the perspective of the parents.. whoever they may be, it's from the standpoint of the child, it's not good enough to suggest they put up and shut up when they question their heredity.

actually it is good enough, because like i told you earlier, CHILDREN don't get to decide who their parents are. People don't get to pick their family. that is the case with all straight parents having kids. so why are you so worried about children of gay parents not getting to pick their parents?

you are making me angry now kizzy. i suggest you really read back your comments. feel free to apologize later.