[Ammi]

....I do think that you need to be firm, Vicky..and very consistent, sort of not trying different things, or should I say doing different things to placate her but everyone, whether it be you, your partner, her grandparents etc all having that same consistency and doing the same thing..it's not being hard, it's giving her structure so giving her security...different actions each time doesn't give her that security...and from what you say, what she knows is by her actions, she can gain your attention...whether it be positive or negative attention, it's equally good to her at her age...

...sorry I don't have a lot of time so only skim read some of your posts and I think your mum is right to an extent but I also think that ..(because you've been quite poorly recently..?..)...some of her behaviour apart from the terrible twos/threes bit could be that she's a very worried little girl, which is not something she's able to communicate, other than behaving in a way that will get your attention...you, your family etc aren't the only influences in her life and all it would take is for someone with good intentions to say something like...mummy will be fine, mummy will be home soon and stuff like that, when you were in hospital...but then, she senses that mummy's not fine or mummy didn't come home when she thought she would..you know, etc, etc...so maybe a very anxious and worried little girl because she obviously loves her mum...so firm and structure/consistency, I think yeah, but reassurance as well...reassuring in a way that you feel that she's understood but always being truthful as well...mummy may have to go back into hospital etc but daddy and grandma are going to be here....sorry this is rushed, I hope it makes sense...her understanding at her age is quite a bit but her communication is much less than that understanding and there many frustrations with that, that will project in tantrum type stuff but there might be a reason of anxiety for that from her beyond a phase and because of what your whole family have been through recently....


...anyways, I always think it's the weirdest thing for healthcare visitors or whatever to comment on a home with children being a mess because of toys everywhere etc...yes it's chaos but it would worry me more and be more of a concern if all of the toys and stuff were in neat boxes and looked as though there wasn't enough play in the house...toys everywhere is the sign of a playing and imaginative child../a good thing....

[Mystic Mock]

My Nephew went through this stage of getting upset when anyone tried to speak to him or even glance at him.

The best thing to do is to tell her off and if that doesn't work then tell her that she won't get her favourite Cartoons on if she keeps screaming, if that doesn't work then threaten to eat all of her favourite Foods.

[Ammi]

...Uncle Mockmas........

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Ammi

...Uncle Mockmas........

My Mom always says that I go too soft on him when we have to look after him, but I still think that I know how to treat children to some degree as I was one not too long ago.

If children still get their favourite treats and Shows, and toys when they're misbehaving then they're not gonna change their naughty behaviour, I'm obviously not saying to take all of them away as that is child cruelty in my book, but I would take away the one that would affect her the most so that she sorts her behaviour out.

Btw Vicky has Skye recovered from the Flu btw? As that could be upsetting her.

[Vicky.]

Yeah shes recovered now, but as I said, this has been going on long before she even got ill...so that could have been making it a bit worse but it wasn't the cause.

Night 1 of strict mummy went quite well...too well if I dare say that Mind she looked at me like I had just killed a puppy infront of her when I told her we were having none of the rubbish that we had been having and plopped her back into bed..but she didn't get back up again, flailed around silently for about 5 mind, then went to sleep. Come 3am she was up screeching, did the same thing and she went back off...

Its odd because this is what I was trying to do to start with and it wasn't working. I must be doing something different this time round or something..

[Niamh.]

that's great Vicky, maybe you sound more like you mean it or something? Kids are more tuned in then you'd think.

[Vicky.]

Well I did try to sound like my mum..for the first time ever

[Niamh.]

hahaha, you know my niece is 2 and she's spoiled rotten, gets her own way all the time or has a fit with my sister in law but anytime my mom babysits she's as good as gold, just because my mom doesn't let her get away with stuff

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Well I did try to sound like my mum..for the first time ever

Respect my authoratay!
Only joking Vicky x
Kids are like little soldiers they love repetition, structure and routine.
My daughter was talking about this last weekend when she came home from uni, I went through a stage when she was 8ish of having set meals each day of the week...she LOVED that! went on about it for ages

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Merry Kizzmas

Respect my authoratay!
Only joking Vicky x
Kids are like little soldiers they love repetition, structure and routine.
My daughter was talking about this last weekend when she came home from uni, I went through a stage when she was 8ish of having set meals each day of the week...she LOVED that! went on about it for ages

Yeah that's so true, they really are much happier when they have a routine to follow. I know it's not nice having to firm with them sometimes but it's so much better for them to not end up upsetting themselves with all the crying and tantrum throwing. Plus you're doing them a disservice sending them out into the world like that, no one is going to want to have them over or anything

[Kizzy]

Yep and if you know it's not because she can't behave, if she's good for nana it's like HANG ON... I'm being played here!

[Niamh.]

yeah

[Mystic Mock]

How's it been going today Vicky?

[Vicky.]

Last night was ****ing terrible, I must have got like 10 mins sleep overall. But it seemed to be because the wind was making her window sound like a ghost So thats been fixed today.

She's so much better through the day now that shes sleeping better though, so the daytime issues were definitely caused by the nighttime ones...

[Cherie]

Vicky doing more to curb teenage pregnancy than all the agencies put together

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Cherie Christmas

Vicky doing more to curb teenage pregnancy than all the agencies put together

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Last night was ****ing terrible, I must have got like 10 mins sleep overall. But it seemed to be because the wind was making her window sound like a ghost So thats been fixed today.

She's so much better through the day now that shes sleeping better though, so the daytime issues were definitely caused by the nighttime ones...

Well at least it's improving.