[Amy Jade]

Thing that I don't get is, Alex's mum passed not long before the show started and she had wanted her daughter to do SCD for years, why is it frowned upon to pay tribute to a loved one?

I feel sorry for anyone who thinks badly of someone for dedicating a performance to a loved one who has passed away, says a lot about them if they think it is for attention rather than a heartfelt dedication.

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by Mrs Deagle

Thing that I don't get is, Alex's mum passed not long before the show started and she had wanted her daughter to do SCD for years, why is it frowned upon to pay tribute to a loved one?

I feel sorry for anyone who thinks badly of someone for dedicating a performance to a loved one who has passed away, says a lot about them if they think it is for attention rather than a heartfelt dedication.

Exactly

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by Mrs Deagle

Thing that I don't get is, Alex's mum passed not long before the show started and she had wanted her daughter to do SCD for years, why is it frowned upon to pay tribute to a loved one?

I feel sorry for anyone who thinks badly of someone for dedicating a performance to a loved one who has passed away, says a lot about them if they think it is for attention rather than a heartfelt dedication.

We only have Alex's word on this ,and if she was truly grieving there is no way she could concentrate on the routines

[Denver]

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

We only have Alex's word on this ,and if she was truly grieving there is no way she could concentrate on the routines

The minute you give up your life after someone dies the minute you go into dark dark places that are hard to come out off

[Jase.]

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

We only have Alex's word on this

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

We only have Alex's word on this ,and if she was truly grieving there is no way she could concentrate on the routines

How disgusting to judge someone else's grief.

Not everybody grieves in the same way.

I actually don't really like Alex, always found her kind of insincere but to make insinuations that she mustn't give a crap her mum died because she can concentrate on the routines is absolutely vile.

[Amy Jade]

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

We only have Alex's word on this ,and if she was truly grieving there is no way she could concentrate on the routines

We all grieve in different ways, when my dad died I never even took the day off school. When my Grandad died I had to take 2 weeks off as I coped differently to their deaths. If someone insinuated I didn't give a **** about someone I loved I would be furious. How dare anyone judge how someone copes.

If somebody in your family passed away how would you feel if someone criticised the way you deal with it?

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by Mrs Deagle

We all grieve in different ways, when my dad died I never even took the day off school. When my Grandad died I had to take 2 weeks off as I coped differently to their deaths. If someone insinuated I didn't give a **** about someone I loved I would be furious. How dare anyone judge how someone copes.

If somebody in your family passed away how would you feel if someone criticised the way you deal with it?

Thankyou .

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by Mrs Deagle

We all grieve in different ways, when my dad died I never even took the day off school. When my Grandad died I had to take 2 weeks off as I coped differently to their deaths. If someone insinuated I didn't give a **** about someone I loved I would be furious. How dare anyone judge how someone copes.

If somebody in your family passed away how would you feel if someone criticised the way you deal with it?

Agreed. When my mum died I went back into work the day after.....after sitting in a hospice for a week, I needed the normality. I fell apart after funeral but I think I was in shock.

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

Agreed. When my mum died I went back into work the day after.....after sitting in a hospice for a week, I needed the normality. I fell apart after funeral but I think I was in shock.

Yeah exactly everyone handles grief differently .
Some people have to stay busy or they'll go stir crazy , and others feel too distraught and emotional to rush back into things . Nobody should be criticised or judged for it .

People are also forgetting life goes on , and when you lose somebody you never get over it but time helps to heal things but obviously the pain is still there but you eventually get on with things.

And I'm disgusted by insensitive comments I see , they wouldn't like it if people ridiculed their grieving process .

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by GoldHeart

Yeah exactly everyone handles grief differently .
Some people have to stay busy or they'll go stir crazy , and others feel too distraught and emotional to rush back into things . Nobody should be criticised or judged for it .

People are also forgetting life goes on , and when you somebody you never get over it but time helps to heal things but obviously the pain is still there but you eventually get on with things.

And I'm disgusted by insensitive comments I see , they wouldn't like it if people ridiculed their grieving process .

Agreed, I coped really well after the initial shock and funeral but then about 12 months later I was a wreck. I lost mum 3 years ago last week and even now, the grief is raw and sneaks up on me at times. We are adept, as humans, at developing coping mechanisms, for me it was work and my son, but then out of the blue grief smacks you in the face, particularly in times of stress. Alex and Debbie have both been criticized for mentioning lost lives ones but as both of the people they lost were in the public eye, its pretty understandable

[Adamw92]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

Agreed, I coped really well after the initial shock and funeral but then about 12 months later I was a wreck. I lost mum 3 years ago last week and even now, the grief is raw and sneaks up on me at times. We are adept, as humans, at developing coping mechanisms, for me it was work and my son, but then out of the blue grief smacks you in the face, particularly in times of stress. Alex and Debbie have both been criticized for mentioning lost lives ones but as both of the people they lost were in the public eye, its pretty understandable

So sorry for your loss Annie, it's an awful thing to lose any loved one and no one can say how anyone should grieve, some people find keeping themselves busy helps them to not be a constant mess and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, we have the times when we're alone to break down and let it all out even when we don't want to fall apart.