[jaxie]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Yeah I agree with all of this. As far as I am aware though, the metoo thing was mainly about 'normal' women (and some men) sharing their experiences of everyday sexual assaults. Stuff like being on a train and some pervert starting rubbing their crotch on your back deliberately..you can tell the difference between someone bumping you by mistake and actually pushing an erection into you and rubbing, or some random wanker in the street grabbing your tit when you were a young child. From what I could gather from my friends list..the controversy was...men thinking that women talking about their experiences were somehow blaming all men for it. Which is clearly ridiculous. Everyone knows its not all bloody men. But its enough to be a large problem.

I also had some dude arguing with me about the erection on the metro. Telling me that I was just paranoid and it was just normal life and not on purpose. He was not there, he did not know, he just assumed that as I am a woman I was paranoid and talking nonsense and the pervert did nothing wrong. Depressingly, he was right about it being 'normal life' to have some pervert touching you without your consent. But to argue with me about my own experiences of which he knows nothing..well..whats the need really.

So for me, the controversy was people refusing to accept the scale of the sexual assault that actually goes on. Making out women are lying or exagerrating and such. Which obviously caused a lot of arguments. Which turned into 'you are just shouting me down as I am a man, man hating bitch' and so on, usually adorned with various misognistic language. Which IMO kind of proved the point even further

I'm sorry you had that experience. It sounds horrible.