[fruit_cake]

Originally Posted by LivT

Well, I can only speak for myself when I state that a man can look like an Adonis ..but if he didn't posses the qualities and attributes that i find appealing....then he would no longer be attractive to me.

I'm not saying because a man looks like an adonis you are instantly going to like him but it certainly helps. It's a lot easier to like a good looking man than it is one who is not good looking because we are more likely to turn a blind eye to his faults and highlight his virtues. It feels like we like them for who they are but the reality is that it is a mixture of who they are and what they look like in my view at least.

Aaron has a bit of a weird personality, but he's good looking so he gets away with it.

[InOne]

They just deal with their emotions in different ways. I think it's been pretty balanced really...

[LivT]

Originally Posted by InOne

They just deal with their emotions in different ways. I think it's been pretty balanced really...

How very dare you not share my views, InOne. You're supposed to be my partner in crime !!

[InOne]

Originally Posted by LivT

How very dare you not share my views, InOne. You're supposed to be my partner in crime !!

It's Faye all the way for me baby

I think the whole thing is blown out of proportion though

[LivT]

Sure Cromwell That is an interesting question, and one I am happy to try and answer, personally, the best way I can...

We are all complex people....but I find Aaron's complexities a little too over-whelming..this in itself can lead to a multitude of sins...but even with this... I think some would relish it and see it as a challenge. I don't find his reticence in applying support when it involves defending his friends appealing. This is different to withdrawal of conflict when it is a personal issue. I can, no doubt, come up with other examples, given some time, but I think people can feel conflicted or ambivalent towards others, meaning that they simultaneously possess both positive and negative attitudes toward the person in question. I think I kind of broached on the subject when I stated it was all about balance, and deciding which attributes, both good and bad, out-weigh one another

[Cromwell1900]

Oh well i don't know wtf is going on with the quotes then.

[LivT]

Originally Posted by Cromwell1900

Oh well i don't know wtf is going on with the quotes then.

*laughing*

Oh, do pick up after yourself Cromwell...you are making a dreadful mess in here!!!

[Cromwell1900]

@ LivT

I'd Agree with all of that.

His complexities are what makes him such a great Hm, and why his name dominates here at Tibb i guess. Just to complete the picture.

I suppose Judgementalism can be a fault or a strength to me in Aarons case it's a fault. Sulking rather than facing issues at least side ways on is a charactaristic of a person who tends to find other, less likeable ways of releasing there grievances, and i merely suspect Aaron has been guilty of that.

The fact that i can't separate Aaron from his game, or less likely to me he dropped the game ages ago, leaves me questioning so much about him.

[LivT]

Nicely redeemed, InOne

Absolutely, Cromwell

Most attitudes are the result of either direct experience or observational learning from the environment. The latter being the viewers position, of course. I am sure many are affected or influenced by the apprehension/qualms they feel when faced with someone or something they don't understand.