[Redway]

Originally Posted by Glenn.

Don’t have time for hatred. If someone pisses me off to the point that I ‘hate’ them I don’t bother with them. No point wasting time on them.

I’ve come to feel that way about one particular flatmate who lived in my then-flat late in 2020. He was awful in many ways but at the end of the day we hardly interacted with each-other in any meaningful capacity and he was already living there rent-free so as time went on I figured that there was no point letting him live in my head free of charge as well, not that I didn’t hate on him low-key for a good-few months. When the time to de-toxify my social media came I just blocked him and his friend who was very-much in close proximity to him (he was okay-ish in his own right but having such close proximity to poison and one or two other things made me decide to block the two of them on everything). It’s a bit different when it comes to people you had a good-few long conversations/interactions with and where there’s at least a little bit of mutual interpersonal knowledge on either side but there’s no point harbouring any more than a passive grudge against people who are more-or-less complete strangers.

[Redway]

Let’s talk about Strawberry Shortcake yoghurt and how underrated it is for a minute (on a more positive note).

[user104658]

I'm one of those weirdos who tends to actually quite like the people I argue with/clash with more

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

I'm one of those weirdos who tends to actually quite like the people I argue with/clash with more

Weirdo indeed.

[Oliver_W]

Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

I'm one of those weirdos who tends to actually quite like the people I argue with/clash with more

I can get that.

I like taking a contrary position when people start bleating on about politics, and it's much more engaging when people bite back instead of saying "fair enough" or being wounded that someone thinks differently.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

I can get that.

I like taking a contrary position when people start bleating on about politics, and it's much more engaging when people bite back instead of saying "fair enough" or being wounded that someone thinks differently.

Is there a chance pro-trans. politics features in this opposition a little?

[Oliver_W]

Originally Posted by Redway

Is there a chance pro-trans. politics features in this opposition a little?

Not at all. I wouldn't even know how to pretend to think women's rights are worth being sacrified for trans rights.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

Not at all. I wouldn't even know how to pretend to think women's rights are worth being sacrified for trans rights.

I’m not even talking about that. Just the basic rights Independent of anything or anyone else. How about that?

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

I can get that.

I like taking a contrary position when people start bleating on about politics, and it's much more engaging when people bite back instead of saying "fair enough" or being wounded that someone thinks differently.

I like saying fair enough.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I like saying fair enough.

Fair enough.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Redway

Fair enough.

I do like saying it because I don't like having confrontation about certain topics on here.

Plus the other member might've genuinely made a point that I understand.

[Crimson Dynamo]

My father would always pull me up if i used the word hate, he told me you must never hate anyone

[Livia]

If I dislike someone that much, I don't waste any kind of emotion on them, not even hate. They're just dead to me.

[joeysteele]

I thought it didn't go too too deep with me.
I was more easy going as a teen.
Now that's not the case really.

However my dislike for others is more fuelled by what they do or would have done to others.
So more a dislike of what they stand for more than a dislike personally of the person.

As to people I know, or know of, even casually personally, the only thing that would really ignite intense dislike for anyone in that scenario would be if they questioned my own integrity.
If that is done repeatedly, then those people were they family, friends or other acquaintances would be completely out from me.
I'd not forgive and so in that instance, I'd say my then intense dislike for anyone doing that would run as deep as was possible to do so.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by joeysteele

I thought it didn't go too too deep with me.
I was more easy going as a teen.
Now that's not the case really.

However my dislike for others is more fuelled by what they do or would have done to others.
So more a dislike of what they stand for more than a dislike personally of the person.

As to people I know, or know of, even casually personally, the only thing that would really ignite intense dislike for anyone in that scenario would be if they questioned my own integrity.
If that is done repeatedly, then those people were they family, friends or other acquaintances would be completely out from me.
I'd not forgive and so in that instance, I'd say my then intense dislike for anyone doing that would run as deep as was possible to do so.

I know what you mean, Joey. People who deliberately question your integrity, intelligence and capabilities and overall gaslight you time-and-time again deserve a special kind of hate. You don’t always know who you’re talking to in life so you might mistakenly undermine someone and/or have that happen to you but there’s a difference between that (as patronising and insulting as it can feel) and doing it over and over again just for the sake of having someone to gossip about or add to a smear-campaign, kicking someone who’s often already down and making a complete mockery of them. That’s when it inherently verges on unforgivable.

[Livia]

I have a lot of time and respect for you Red, but I object really strongly, to bring referred to as a cis woman. I am a woman.... Those who were born men are trans women. I object to becoming a sub-set of the trans ideology.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Livia

I have a lot of time and respect for you Red, but I object really strongly, to bring referred to as a cis woman. I am a woman.... Those who were born men are trans women. I object to becoming a sub-set of the trans ideology.

I do appreciate what you’re saying, Liv. The reason you might’ve seen “cis” coming from me at times up until now is because it’s a distinction that it seems more politically correct (in a niche scientific way) to make nowadays, aka between “cis” and “transitioned”, for both genders. It’s probably a term to drop but just to be clear I wasn’t lumping men and women together with trans-men and trans-women.

[Oliver_W]

Originally Posted by Redway

I do appreciate what you’re saying, Liv. The reason you might’ve seen “cis” coming from me at times up until now is because it’s a distinction that it seems more politically correct (in a niche scientific way) to make nowadays, aka between “cis” and “transitioned”, for both genders. It’s probably a term to drop but just to be clear I wasn’t lumping men and women together with trans-men and trans-women.

Using the word cis is aligning yourself with and acknowledging the validity of the ideology. It's like a lifelong athiest calling themself Kaffir or a heretic or something.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

Using the word cis is aligning yourself with and acknowledging the validity of the ideology. It's like a lifelong athiest calling themself Kaffir or a heretic or something.

One thing you’d do well to bear in mind, Ollie, is that not everyone’s riled and passionate about these things on the same level. I understand what Livia was saying but there’s not much need for you to expand on it to the point of likening me to a pseudo-blasphemous supposed fanatical atheist.

[Oliver_W]

Originally Posted by Redway

One thing you’d do well to bear in mind, Ollie, is that not everyone’s riled and passionate about these things on the same level. I understand what Livia was saying but there’s not much need for you to expand on it to the point of likening me to a pseudo-blasphemous supposed fanatical atheist.

What I meant was, by using terms like Kaffir to describe yourself if you're not, and never have been, muslim, you're still acting like the term has truth.

The word cis is simply not needed, as we know the difference between women and transwomen.

[Vanessa]

I don't really hate anyone. I tend to avoid the people I don't like.
But there's no one I dislike more than ignorants who comment on people's weight. For me they're the lowest of the low. I would never do that to anyone, no matter they size.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

I don't really hate anyone. I tend to avoid the people I don't like.
But there's no one I dislike more than ignorants who comment on people's weight. For me they're the lowest of the low. I would never do that to anyone, no matter they size.

“You’ve put on weight, you know” is something people definitely need to stop doing. It doesn’t always come from a bad place at all but it’s annoying and rude to comment on stuff like that without knowing the circumstances. It could be a side-effect of medication that they already feel self-conscious enough about. Your body’s your body and yours alone, no-one else’s.

[Redway]

Bump.

[Kate!]

To the moon and back!

Here's my therapy song.

Youtube video

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Kate!

To the moon and back!

Here's my therapy song.

Youtube video

Ditto. But, likewise, I always have my reasons.