[Benjamin]

Okay well firstly, I'm not going to defend anyone that has a hook-up without a condom, regardless of whether it's one person a year or 5 a night, it's completely irresponsible; but again if people choose to then that is their choice and their own risks. But both parties are to blame for that.

But if using condoms then I see no need why people cannot have as much sex as they like. If somebody who has sex with 5 people a night has the condom break, I doubt they will then go on to have sex with others that night. It;s not disgusting or dirty, it's human nature to have sex, some people just like it more than others, It isn't wrong, even if you don't personally want to live like that.

[GiRTh]

Are you two still at it?

[Z]

Originally Posted by GiRTh

Are you two still at it?

Yeah, and then Ben's gonna be at it with another four people after me

[GiRTh]

Originally Posted by Zee

Yeah, and then Ben's gonna be at it with another four people after me

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Zee

Yeah, and then Ben's gonna be at it with another four people after me

Least I use condoms

[Smithy]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Okay well firstly, I'm not going to defend anyone that has a hook-up without a condom, regardless of whether it's one person a year or 5 a night, it's completely irresponsible; but again if people choose to then that is their choice and their own risks. But both parties are to blame for that.

But if using condoms then I see no need why people cannot have as much sex as they like. If somebody who has sex with 5 people a night has the condom break, I doubt they will then go on to have sex with others that night. It;s not disgusting or dirty, it's human nature to have sex, some people just like it more than others, It isn't wrong, even if you don't personally want to live like that.

exactly

[Z]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Okay well firstly, I'm not going to defend anyone that has a hook-up without a condom, regardless of whether it's one person a year or 5 a night, it's completely irresponsible; but again if people choose to then that is their choice and their own risks. But both parties are to blame for that.

But if using condoms then I see no need why people cannot have as much sex as they like. If somebody who has sex with 5 people a night has the condom break, I doubt they will then go on to have sex with others that night. It;s not disgusting or dirty, it's human nature to have sex, some people just like it more than others, It isn't wrong, even if you don't personally want to live like that.

I suppose the issue for me is that there's an element of secrecy involved in sleeping with five people in one night... it comes across as sly and shameful to me, how likely is it that you're gonna tell someone that you've already been with 1-4 people that night? Not very IMO... so there's deception involved and that isn't okay to me - which is why I made a point of pointing out the difference between that and group sex; because group sex, everyone knows what's going on and the chances are all of you have probably planned it and know you're all in the clear for STDs; or if you don't then you can at least get in touch with everyone if something crops up and there's no betrayal there, everyone has to accept responsibility... I don't have a problem with sex workers in Amsterdam, to give a better example, because they do regular STD checks and everybody knows what they're getting into if they sleep with a sex worker - you know they've probably had sex with at least one other person that day or will sleep with other people after you in that same night.

[Doogle]

I see nothing wrong with it

[Z]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Least I use condoms

You'd better not have given me herpes

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Zee

You'd better not have given me herpes

More likely you gave it to me

[Smithy]

Originally Posted by Zee

I suppose the issue for me is that there's an element of secrecy involved in sleeping with five people in one night... it comes across as sly and shameful to me, how likely is it that you're gonna tell someone that you've already been with 1-4 people that night? Not very IMO... so there's deception involved and that isn't okay to me - which is why I made a point of pointing out the difference between that and group sex; because group sex, everyone knows what's going on and the chances are all of you have probably planned it and know you're all in the clear for STDs; or if you don't then you can at least get in touch with everyone if something crops up and there's no betrayal there, everyone has to accept responsibility... I don't have a problem with sex workers in Amsterdam, to give a better example, because they do regular STD checks and everybody knows what they're getting into if they sleep with a sex worker - you know they've probably had sex with at least one other person that day or will sleep with other people after you in that same night.

That's kinda irrelevant though, cause it's just your assumption that someone isn't gonna be honest about how many people they've slept with.

If you're having a one night stand or are just randomly hooking up with someone, you're not gonna go looking for the virgin mary, you're looking for someone whose after the same thing you are, a release, if i was like that, I honestly wouldn't care how many people they'd slept with that night

[Z]

Originally Posted by Smithy

That's kinda irrelevant though, cause it's just your assumption that someone isn't gonna be honest about how many people they've slept with.

If you're having a one night stand or are just randomly hooking up with someone, you're not gonna go looking for the virgin mary, you're looking for someone whose after the same thing you are, a release, if i was like that, I honestly wouldn't care how many people they'd slept with that night

I don't think it's irrelevant but yes it is just my assumption.

If you're having a one night stand, yes you want to hook up with someone but that's not to say you're going to get with someone if you know they've been with four people already in that same day? There are plenty of comments made about people being easy if they sleep around and have we not seen enough "woman sleeps with two men around the same time, nobody knows who the father is" situations to recognise that sleeping around is at least inadvisable? I just don't know why you would choose to sleep with lots of different people when you could more easily fulfill your sexual appetite by just having lots of sex with one person, nobody here has said that they do sleep with lots of different people so I've not really seen any arguments about why somebody would choose to behave in such an extreme way...

[Smithy]

Originally Posted by Zee

I don't think it's irrelevant but yes it is just my assumption.

If you're having a one night stand, yes you want to hook up with someone but that's not to say you're going to get with someone if you know they've been with four people already in that same day? There are plenty of comments made about people being easy if they sleep around and have we not seen enough "woman sleeps with two men around the same time, nobody knows who the father is" situations to recognise that sleeping around is at least inadvisable? I just don't know why you would choose to sleep with lots of different people when you could more easily fulfill your sexual appetite by just having lots of sex with one person, nobody here has said that they do sleep with lots of different people so I've not really seen any arguments about why somebody would choose to behave in such an extreme way...

But when you're hooking up, it's just for a sexual release, so why would you care, you're not particularly picky about the person, as long as you're attracted to them and they're after the same thing as you, and no it's not, sleeping around without protection is inadvisable, because that's irresponsible, you could, but that'd be your choice, just like it'd be someone else's choice to sleep with lots of people, if they're being safe, there's really nothing wrong with it

[Z]

Originally Posted by Smithy

But when you're hooking up, it's just for a sexual release, so why would you care, you're not particularly picky about the person, as long as you're attracted to them and they're after the same thing as you, and no it's not, sleeping around without protection is inadvisable, because that's irresponsible, you could, but that'd be your choice, just like it'd be someone else's choice to sleep with lots of people, if they're being safe, there's really nothing wrong with it

Fair enough. I know I would feel betrayed if I found out someone I'd slept with had slept with other people in the same night, but maybe that's just me.

[Vicky.]

Meh. Personally I wouldnt do it, I would feel cheap and dirty tbh. But if others want to, let them get on with it. Its their health they are risking, not mine :S

[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Zee

Fair enough. I know I would feel betrayed if I found out someone I'd slept with had slept with other people in the same night, but maybe that's just me.

I really do get where you are coming from, though it would depend on what you was originally meeting that person for, If it was just for sex, and you knew that, then you couldn't really expect the other person to stay exclusive, and in that respect, it wouldn't really matter how many times that person had had sex in the past day/week/month/year

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by Zee

Fair enough. I know I would feel betrayed if I found out someone I'd slept with had slept with other people in the same night, but maybe that's just me.

To be honest though...on one night hook ups, feelings don't come into it in that way. If it was a long term thing then you could feel betrayed but on a casual thing there are no emotions involved in that way so why would you feel betrayed, no promises have been made or broken...it's just sex

[Z]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Meh. Personally I wouldnt do it, I would feel cheap and dirty tbh. But if others want to, let them get on with it. Its their health they are risking, not mine :S

I agree with this unless I was one of the five people, working on the assumption that they weren't going to tell me they'd slept with other people that night as well - then it's my health they're risking and I take issue with that.

[Z]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

To be honest though...on one night hook ups, feelings don't come into it in that way. If it was a long term thing then you could feel betrayed but on a casual thing there are no emotions involved in that way so why would you feel betrayed, no promises have been made or broken...it's just sex

Depends if we're talking about specifically meeting up with someone to have sex (like using some kind of app or website) or meeting someone in a club, taking a shine to them and hooking up with them - because with the former there's an emphasis on discreet behaviour and the knowledge that it's just sex, whereas with a hook up in a club you had to like that person enough to go home with them so in my opinion, feelings do come into it to some extent and you would feel betrayed if you found out they'd given you something because of their active sex life. My opinion stays the same if it's five people in one week, too.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Zee

I agree with this unless I was one of the five people, working on the assumption that they weren't going to tell me they'd slept with other people that night as well - then it's my health they're risking and I take issue with that.

Hmm I guess. I dont think of it like that as I am now in a long term relationship and dont HAVE to worry about my health really

Mind if you go back home with someone you just met, them being a dirty bastard is a risk you take. Yeah sleeping with 5 seperate people in a night doesnt necessarily make you a dirty bastard (as someone pointed out, could be using protection) but they are quite a higher risk than someone who rations their sex

[Z]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Hmm I guess. I dont think of it like that as I am now in a long term relationship and dont HAVE to worry about my health really

Mind if you go back home with someone you just met, them being a dirty bastard is a risk you take. Yeah sleeping with 5 seperate people in a night doesnt necessarily make you a dirty bastard (as someone pointed out, could be using protection) but they are quite a higher risk than someone who rations their sex

Exactly - if you're like me and only come into contact with (ooooooops) a human being about once a year, you know exactly where you caught your unfortunate condition from maybe I don't have a problem with sleeping with 5 people in the same night at all... maybe I'm just bitter...

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by Zee

Depends if we're talking about specifically meeting up with someone to have sex (like using some kind of app or website) or meeting someone in a club, taking a shine to them and hooking up with them - because with the former there's an emphasis on discreet behaviour and the knowledge that it's just sex, whereas with a hook up in a club you had to like that person enough to go home with them so in my opinion, feelings do come into it to some extent and you would feel betrayed if you found out they'd given you something because of their active sex life. My opinion stays the same if it's five people in one week, too.

If you hook up with a stranger in a club and go back for sex that night I can't believe there are that many emotions...it's more like drunken fuelled horniness IMO.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Zee

Exactly - if you're like me and only come into a human being about once a year, you know exactly where you caught your unfortunate condition from maybe I don't have a problem with sleeping with 5 people in the same night at all... maybe I'm just bitter...

Unfortunate choice of wording

[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Unfortunate choice of wording

omg

[Z]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Unfortunate choice of wording

OMG I missed words out, LOL!