[Headie]

"There's something I've not told you, I'm an only child" then started rambling on about girlfriends?

[Oaker]

He was just saying random things that he hoped might get him a sympathy vote

[Adamw92]

Apparently they all asked him for his life story though no one had said a word before that

[Amy Jade]

I think he was going to say he mentally abused Charlie

[LaLaLand]

Nothing other than trying to get sympathy, I don't think even he knew what he was going on about tbh. You could see him thinking as he was going on, reaching for something else to say that could make people feel sorry for him.

[ebandit]

my bad....i were wrong to point out the truth....that jason is a twat

bless him....he never had a younger sibling....to bully....

Mark L

[Jan S]

i found it pretty clear, tbh: he was explaining to his friends how he finds it easier to withdraw and think things over due to his solitary lifestyle than to open up and share things with others. he's less than ''sociable'' behaviour of withdrawing is simply because of circumstances.

[sosadbbend]

Originally Posted by Jan S

i found it pretty clear, tbh: he was explaining to his friends how he finds it easier to withdraw and think things over due to his solitary lifestyle than to open up and share things with others. he's less than ''sociable'' behaviour of withdrawing is simply because of circumstances.

Exactly! That's what I took from the conversation too and how bloody mean of Evelyn to go and bitch about it!

[Jan S]

Originally Posted by sassyfox

But he's in a house with OTHER people. Don't get me wrong Jason has a lot of issues that he needs to work through, but not at other people's expense. Why live in a house with lots of people if you have social anxiety AND you haven't got the tools yet to cope with it?

maybe because he went in trying to change, to challenge himself, but found he's not worked it out yet. opening up to them is a step forward.

and why do so many go in there and hate nominations, or screaming they cannot possibly live without cigarettes, or eat the food provied?

he's human, and humans don't always make the best choices. i know i don't!

[jet]

Originally Posted by sassyfox

There's making bad choices and going on Big Brother - that's quite a big decision which involves a lot of lengthy thinking through. Being around people is the entire point of the show, unlike smoking (where you can still smoke), food that you can still eat, but a housemate will never ever be alone.

It's silly, naive and potentially harmful to believe that you can cure extreme isolation and social anxiety by living in a house FULL of complete strangers for five weeks cold turkey. At his age these decisions are highly questionable.

You have made some good points there. I don't get the 'living on his own for many years' thing as an explanation though. Plenty of people do, but over the years they still have family, friends, girlfriends or boyfriends, work, etc. It's not as if he was in an isolation cell or something. Very odd.

[rusticgal]

He was trying to say that as an only child he dealt with things by himself...he was trying to explain that that is why he doesn't open up to people about his problems..he retracts and deals with things himself.
Many of them seem to question why he doesn't share his feelings and that was his answer...don't see what's wrong with that
It doesn't mean that every only child is like that but that's his explanation...we don't know anything about his upbringing....people on here are too quick to judge.

[Pete.]

I didn't get his point at all

[GiRTh]

Sympathy. It was pathetic game playing from a man who should be enjoying himself.

[mr rochester]

On and on and on and on - for days he's droned on and on...not a good look...

[hot2go]

It was the grown ups talking....maybe best to go back to throwing Mayonaise around the garden eh

[kirklancaster]

The guy was trying to explain that he was 'socially akward' because he was an only child and had lived on his own for 29 years. Both factors have a great bearing on Jason's shyness and his inability to socially intertact wih others.

[Northern Monkey]

Originally Posted by kirklancaster

The guy was trying to explain that he was 'socially akward' because he was an only child and had lived on his own for 29 years. Both factors have a great bearing on Jason's shyness and his inability to socially intertact wih others.

And finally.Common sense prevails


Atleast he did'nt start blubbering for attention like the ginger bird.

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by Jan S

i found it pretty clear, tbh: he was explaining to his friends how he finds it easier to withdraw and think things over due to his solitary lifestyle than to open up and share things with others. he's less than ''sociable'' behaviour of withdrawing is simply because of circumstances.

Originally Posted by rusticgal

He was trying to say that as an only child he dealt with things by himself...he was trying to explain that that is why he doesn't open up to people about his problems..he retracts and deals with things himself.
Many of them seem to question why he doesn't share his feelings and that was his answer...don't see what's wrong with that
It doesn't mean that every only child is like that but that's his explanation...we don't know anything about his upbringing....people on here are too quick to judge.

Originally Posted by kirklancaster

The guy was trying to explain that he was 'socially akward' because he was an only child and had lived on his own for 29 years. Both factors have a great bearing on Jason's shyness and his inability to socially intertact wih others.

Yeah, all of this tbh. I just think Jason's at that point where anything he does or says will be torn apart and scrutinized.

[rusticgal]

Originally Posted by Lostie!

Yeah, all of this tbh. I just think Jason's at that point where anything he does or says will be torn apart and scrutinized.

Yeah he just can't do right from wrong.

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by sassyfox

That is an insult to all only children and people that live on their own. Jason is socially awkward because Jason is socially awkward. Because of experiences unique to him and his life. Sure he doesn't have to share them with everyone but the excuses are nonsensical.

??? WTF are you talking about?

To SPECIFICALLY what are you referring, and to SPECIFICALLY who are you accusing of being insulting - Jason or me?

The second part of your post - which I have emboldened - COMPLETELY contradicts the first part of it, and the part which I have underscored completely CONTRADICTS the second part.

First you state that:
:
1) It is an insult to to "all only children and people that live on their own" for Jason to imply that his social akwardness is due to being an only child and living on his own for 29 years. (Or you are stating that I am responsible for insulting all "only children and people who live on their own" - because I am the author of the post AND the phrase 'socially akward' to which you object.)

THEN in the very next sentences, you state:

2)"Jason is socially awkward. Because of experiences unique to him and his life."

THEN in the last sentence, you state:

3)"but the excuses are nonsensical".

None of it makes much sense does it?

OF COURSE Jason was referring to 'experiences unique to him an his life' - WHOSE life experiences is he going to refer to when trying to explain why he is the way he is?

OF COURSE Jason's experience of being an only child and living for so long on his own is NOT unique to Jason, and OF COURSE such an experience will NOT have impacted upon ALL others who share that history.

BUT IT HAS AFFECTED JASON.

There are in the UK, a lot of teenagers and young adults who have spent the greater part of their lives texting, and writing and messaging on the internet, or game playing on the net, with others - some in far flung countries - and ALL executed in a smooth, adept, confident manner.

Yet, many of those people cannot engage in the most basic of conversations when in a 'real life' physical social situation, and they have NO confidence, and stammer, stutter, and flush with embarrassment at just BEING in such a situation when spoken to.

Not ALL, but definitely some.

Some practiced 'keyboard' conversationalists WILL shine just as effortlessly in a real life conversation as they do on the net etc.

BECAUSE we are ALL different.

Jason did not expound on just WHAT type of childhood he had as an 'only' child; some parents smother an only child with love and dote on it, others are as neglectful of one child as they would be 6 or 7.

Some parents play and interact with their children, others leave them for long hours, lonely and unattended - ignoring the child's screaming to boot.

Whatever Jason's experiences are, only HE knows, but the fact that HE attributes being an only child and living alone for 29 years as being contributary factors in his shyness and social awkwardness, makes sense to me - as it does, I am sure, to millions of other people, who are not biased against him to begin with, and therefore not looking so desperately to clutch at non-existent straws in their quest to discredit him further.

It is plainly evident - to any rational, honest, impartial, viewer, that Jason HAS emotional and psychological issues (as do millions of other people in this country) but it is abhorrent, that when a man, who not only DOES find it immensely difficult to 'open up' to others, but also finds it just as difficult to express himself and articulate just what he means, DOES TRY TO, is immediately and unfairly lambasted as being 'fake' and accused of 'trying to win a sympathy vote'.

You have NO evidence that Jason's "excuses are nonsensical" but are trying to claim that YOU know better than HE does as to just how his childhood experiences and single life has impacted upon his social skills and ability to be able to interact with others.

I'd be very interested in just how you are qualified to state as much.

[rusticgal]

Originally Posted by kirklancaster

[/B]??? WTF are you talking about?

To SPECIFICALLY what are you referring, and to SPECIFICALLY who are you accusing of being insulting - Jason or me?

The second part of your post - which I have emboldened - COMPLETELY contradicts the first part of it, and the part which I have underscored completely CONTRADICTS the second part.

First you state that:
:
1) It is an insult to to "all only children and people that live on their own" for Jason to imply that his social akwardness is due to being an only child and living on his own for 29 years. (Or you are stating that I am responsible for insulting all "only children and people who live on their own" - because I am the author of the post AND the phrase 'socially akward' to which you object.)

THEN in the very next sentences, you state:

2)"Jason is socially awkward. Because of experiences unique to him and his life."

THEN in the last sentence, you state:

3)"but the excuses are nonsensical".

None of it makes much sense does it?

OF COURSE Jason was referring to 'experiences unique to him an his life' - WHOSE life experiences is he going to refer to when trying to explain why he is the way he is?

OF COURSE Jason's experience of being an only child and living for so long on his own is NOT unique to Jason, and OF COURSE such an experience will NOT have impacted upon ALL others who share that history.

BUT IT HAS AFFECTED JASON.

There are in the UK, a lot of teenagers and young adults who have spent the greater part of their lives texting, and writing and messaging on the internet, or game playing on the net, with others - some in far flung countries - and ALL executed in a smooth, adept, confident manner.

Yet, many of those people cannot engage in the most basic of conversations when in a 'real life' physical social situation, and they have NO confidence, and stammer, stutter, and flush with embarrassment at just BEING in such a situation when spoken to.

Not ALL, but definitely some.

Some practiced 'keyboard' conversationalists WILL shine just as effortlessly in a real life conversation as they do on the net etc.

BECAUSE we are ALL different.

Jason did not expound on just WHAT type of childhood he had as an 'only' child; some parents smother an only child with love and dote on it, others are as neglectful of one child as they would be 6 or 7.

Some parents play and interact with their children, others leave them for long hours, lonely and unattended - ignoring the child's screaming to boot.

Whatever Jason's experiences are, only HE knows, but the fact that HE attributes being an only child and living alone for 29 years as being contributary factors in his shyness and social awkwardness, makes sense to me - as it does, I am sure, to millions of other people, who are not biased against him to begin with, and therefore not looking so desperately to clutch at non-existent straws in their quest to discredit him further.

It is plainly evident - to any rational, honest, impartial, viewer, that Jason HAS emotional and psychological issues (as do millions of other people in this country) but it is abhorrent, that when a man, who not only DOES find it immensely difficult to 'open up' to others, but also finds it just as difficult to express himself and articulate just what he means, DOES TRY TO, is immediately and unfairly lambasted as being 'fake' and accused of 'trying to win a sympathy vote'.

You have NO evidence that Jason's "excuses are nonsensical" but are trying to claim that YOU know better than HE does as to just how his childhood experiences and single life has impacted upon his social skills and ability to be able to interact with others.

I'd be very interested in just how you are qualified to state as much.

Brilliant Kirk. People are so judgmental on here it sickens me to see such immature comments with a failure to try and understand why people are like they are...

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

Brilliant Kirk. People are so judgmental on here it sickens me to see such immature comments with a failure to try and understand why people are like they are...

Thank you RusticGal.

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by kirklancaster

[/B]??? WTF are you talking about?

To SPECIFICALLY what are you referring, and to SPECIFICALLY who are you accusing of being insulting - Jason or me?

The second part of your post - which I have emboldened - COMPLETELY contradicts the first part of it, and the part which I have underscored completely CONTRADICTS the second part.

First you state that:
:
1) It is an insult to to "all only children and people that live on their own" for Jason to imply that his social akwardness is due to being an only child and living on his own for 29 years. (Or you are stating that I am responsible for insulting all "only children and people who live on their own" - because I am the author of the post AND the phrase 'socially akward' to which you object.)

THEN in the very next sentences, you state:

2)"Jason is socially awkward. Because of experiences unique to him and his life."

THEN in the last sentence, you state:

3)"but the excuses are nonsensical".

None of it makes much sense does it?

OF COURSE Jason was referring to 'experiences unique to him an his life' - WHOSE life experiences is he going to refer to when trying to explain why he is the way he is?

OF COURSE Jason's experience of being an only child and living for so long on his own is NOT unique to Jason, and OF COURSE such an experience will NOT have impacted upon ALL others who share that history.

BUT IT HAS AFFECTED JASON.

There are in the UK, a lot of teenagers and young adults who have spent the greater part of their lives texting, and writing and messaging on the internet, or game playing on the net, with others - some in far flung countries - and ALL executed in a smooth, adept, confident manner.

Yet, many of those people cannot engage in the most basic of conversations when in a 'real life' physical social situation, and they have NO confidence, and stammer, stutter, and flush with embarrassment at just BEING in such a situation when spoken to.

Not ALL, but definitely some.

Some practiced 'keyboard' conversationalists WILL shine just as effortlessly in a real life conversation as they do on the net etc.

BECAUSE we are ALL different.

Jason did not expound on just WHAT type of childhood he had as an 'only' child; some parents smother an only child with love and dote on it, others are as neglectful of one child as they would be 6 or 7.

Some parents play and interact with their children, others leave them for long hours, lonely and unattended - ignoring the child's screaming to boot.

Whatever Jason's experiences are, only HE knows, but the fact that HE attributes being an only child and living alone for 29 years as being contributary factors in his shyness and social awkwardness, makes sense to me - as it does, I am sure, to millions of other people, who are not biased against him to begin with, and therefore not looking so desperately to clutch at non-existent straws in their quest to discredit him further.

It is plainly evident - to any rational, honest, impartial, viewer, that Jason HAS emotional and psychological issues (as do millions of other people in this country) but it is abhorrent, that when a man, who not only DOES find it immensely difficult to 'open up' to others, but also finds it just as difficult to express himself and articulate just what he means, DOES TRY TO, is immediately and unfairly lambasted as being 'fake' and accused of 'trying to win a sympathy vote'.

You have NO evidence that Jason's "excuses are nonsensical" but are trying to claim that YOU know better than HE does as to just how his childhood experiences and single life has impacted upon his social skills and ability to be able to interact with others.

I'd be very interested in just how you are qualified to state as much.

[hot2go]

Originally Posted by kirklancaster

[/B]??? WTF are you talking about?

To SPECIFICALLY what are you referring, and to SPECIFICALLY who are you accusing of being insulting - Jason or me?

The second part of your post - which I have emboldened - COMPLETELY contradicts the first part of it, and the part which I have underscored completely CONTRADICTS the second part.

First you state that:
:
1) It is an insult to to "all only children and people that live on their own" for Jason to imply that his social akwardness is due to being an only child and living on his own for 29 years. (Or you are stating that I am responsible for insulting all "only children and people who live on their own" - because I am the author of the post AND the phrase 'socially akward' to which you object.)

THEN in the very next sentences, you state:

2)"Jason is socially awkward. Because of experiences unique to him and his life."

THEN in the last sentence, you state:

3)"but the excuses are nonsensical".

None of it makes much sense does it?

OF COURSE Jason was referring to 'experiences unique to him an his life' - WHOSE life experiences is he going to refer to when trying to explain why he is the way he is?

OF COURSE Jason's experience of being an only child and living for so long on his own is NOT unique to Jason, and OF COURSE such an experience will NOT have impacted upon ALL others who share that history.

BUT IT HAS AFFECTED JASON.

There are in the UK, a lot of teenagers and young adults who have spent the greater part of their lives texting, and writing and messaging on the internet, or game playing on the net, with others - some in far flung countries - and ALL executed in a smooth, adept, confident manner.

Yet, many of those people cannot engage in the most basic of conversations when in a 'real life' physical social situation, and they have NO confidence, and stammer, stutter, and flush with embarrassment at just BEING in such a situation when spoken to.

Not ALL, but definitely some.

Some practiced 'keyboard' conversationalists WILL shine just as effortlessly in a real life conversation as they do on the net etc.

BECAUSE we are ALL different.

Jason did not expound on just WHAT type of childhood he had as an 'only' child; some parents smother an only child with love and dote on it, others are as neglectful of one child as they would be 6 or 7.

Some parents play and interact with their children, others leave them for long hours, lonely and unattended - ignoring the child's screaming to boot.

Whatever Jason's experiences are, only HE knows, but the fact that HE attributes being an only child and living alone for 29 years as being contributary factors in his shyness and social awkwardness, makes sense to me - as it does, I am sure, to millions of other people, who are not biased against him to begin with, and therefore not looking so desperately to clutch at non-existent straws in their quest to discredit him further.

It is plainly evident - to any rational, honest, impartial, viewer, that Jason HAS emotional and psychological issues (as do millions of other people in this country) but it is abhorrent, that when a man, who not only DOES find it immensely difficult to 'open up' to others, but also finds it just as difficult to express himself and articulate just what he means, DOES TRY TO, is immediately and unfairly lambasted as being 'fake' and accused of 'trying to win a sympathy vote'.

You have NO evidence that Jason's "excuses are nonsensical" but are trying to claim that YOU know better than HE does as to just how his childhood experiences and single life has impacted upon his social skills and ability to be able to interact with others.

I'd be very interested in just how you are qualified to state as much.

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by kirklancaster

[/B]??? WTF are you talking about?

To SPECIFICALLY what are you referring, and to SPECIFICALLY who are you accusing of being insulting - Jason or me?

The second part of your post - which I have emboldened - COMPLETELY contradicts the first part of it, and the part which I have underscored completely CONTRADICTS the second part.

First you state that:
:
1) It is an insult to to "all only children and people that live on their own" for Jason to imply that his social akwardness is due to being an only child and living on his own for 29 years. (Or you are stating that I am responsible for insulting all "only children and people who live on their own" - because I am the author of the post AND the phrase 'socially akward' to which you object.)

THEN in the very next sentences, you state:

2)"Jason is socially awkward. Because of experiences unique to him and his life."

THEN in the last sentence, you state:

3)"but the excuses are nonsensical".

None of it makes much sense does it?

OF COURSE Jason was referring to 'experiences unique to him an his life' - WHOSE life experiences is he going to refer to when trying to explain why he is the way he is?

OF COURSE Jason's experience of being an only child and living for so long on his own is NOT unique to Jason, and OF COURSE such an experience will NOT have impacted upon ALL others who share that history.

BUT IT HAS AFFECTED JASON.

There are in the UK, a lot of teenagers and young adults who have spent the greater part of their lives texting, and writing and messaging on the internet, or game playing on the net, with others - some in far flung countries - and ALL executed in a smooth, adept, confident manner.

Yet, many of those people cannot engage in the most basic of conversations when in a 'real life' physical social situation, and they have NO confidence, and stammer, stutter, and flush with embarrassment at just BEING in such a situation when spoken to.

Not ALL, but definitely some.

Some practiced 'keyboard' conversationalists WILL shine just as effortlessly in a real life conversation as they do on the net etc.

BECAUSE we are ALL different.

Jason did not expound on just WHAT type of childhood he had as an 'only' child; some parents smother an only child with love and dote on it, others are as neglectful of one child as they would be 6 or 7.

Some parents play and interact with their children, others leave them for long hours, lonely and unattended - ignoring the child's screaming to boot.

Whatever Jason's experiences are, only HE knows, but the fact that HE attributes being an only child and living alone for 29 years as being contributary factors in his shyness and social awkwardness, makes sense to me - as it does, I am sure, to millions of other people, who are not biased against him to begin with, and therefore not looking so desperately to clutch at non-existent straws in their quest to discredit him further.

It is plainly evident - to any rational, honest, impartial, viewer, that Jason HAS emotional and psychological issues (as do millions of other people in this country) but it is abhorrent, that when a man, who not only DOES find it immensely difficult to 'open up' to others, but also finds it just as difficult to express himself and articulate just what he means, DOES TRY TO, is immediately and unfairly lambasted as being 'fake' and accused of 'trying to win a sympathy vote'.

You have NO evidence that Jason's "excuses are nonsensical" but are trying to claim that YOU know better than HE does as to just how his childhood experiences and single life has impacted upon his social skills and ability to be able to interact with others.

I'd be very interested in just how you are qualified to state as much.

Kirk,how nice it is to get a balanced view of things instead of the childish one liners,I totally agree in what you say,Jason is awkward and finds it difficult to open up but I bet once he does he is a great conversationalist ,it just shows the lack of caring some people have for people they don't understand,he is a shining light amongst a houseful of dim candles.