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[LeatherTrumpet]

Its like Brexit in a nutshell, where the EU is the parent and we are the baby

the toy is the negotiations

[smudgie]

No.
Never given the chance.
Good nutritional meals, no options.

[Toy Soldier]

Oh my, an instructional video on how to create an eating disorder .

But no seriously you have to be very careful with any form of forced eating, as any early childhood negative associations with food contribute hugely to adult eating disorders later like anorexia, bulimia, binging or even just good ol' over-eating (which is an eating disorder in itself though is rarely thought of as being the same as the others).

For myself, my eldest isn't fussy and will eat things that I wouldn't even "expect" an 8 year old to eat (very spicy food, etc.). Veg she will wolf down so long as it has gravy. Not plain but tbqfh neither would I.

My youngest is extremely "fussy" but that's because she has some OCD traits with her autism... sometimes she will eat literally only one type of food for weeks. Generally she will eat only processed meats (sausages, salami) and she'll eat pretty much anything white-carby. Lately she loves eggs which is a huge positive. Zero veg, very little fruit. She has supplements to make up for what she doesn't get from food but it's not ideal.

[AnnieK]

My son will eat anything - as TS' daughter, he will eat anything spicy, veg till it comes out of his ears, the only thing he's not keen on is citrus fruits.

I was fussy as a kid but my mum always gave me the option - eat what she put in front of me or don't eat at all

[Toy Soldier]

When she was 1, she ate a slice of spicy meat pizza and was literally crying a bit after each bite... then having more .


I forgot to add to my first post; I was a VERY, VERY fussy eater as a kid. A small selection of home cooked foods, and if we were out of the house I would only eat chips. That was until I was like 9.

And I'll try pretty much anything now and always eat my veg so tbh I don't think it's a great predictor of future eating habits. My wife was made to eat her veg when she was young ("If you don't eat it it'll be your lunch tomorrow" etc.) and she is pretty averse to green veg now.

[LeatherTrumpet]

special needs aside

fussy eating often = lazy parenting

"oh he will only eat burgers and chips no veg or fruit"

OK starve him for 3 days and then see how he feels

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

special needs aside

fussy eating often = lazy parenting

"oh he will only eat burgers and chips no veg or fruit"

OK starve him for 3 days and then see how he feels

Show me a kid who prefers a burger and chips to a properly prepared steak and buttered new potatoes I will show you a bare-faced liar

[bitontheslide]

I am and always have been a fussy eater, but with a food allergy it comes with the territory. After collapsing once, my parents never forced me to eat something again

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

I am and always have been a fussy eater, but with a food allergy it comes with the territory. After collapsing once, my parents never forced me to eat something again

Yeah allergies can be a complication. In the opposite way with my eldest; she's dairy intolerant and gets bloated / stomach pain from dairy, but that doesn't put her off eating it in the slightest . Eating icecream at her friend's house, trading her snack for someone else's chocolate at school, then she comes home bursting out of her clothes and complaining of pain and it takes an hour to get the truth out of her . I think the fact that she can't have these things make them all the more appealing to her.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Oh my, an instructional video on how to create an eating disorder .

But no seriously you have to be very careful with any form of forced eating, as any early childhood negative associations with food contribute hugely to adult eating disorders later like anorexia, bulimia, binging or even just good ol' over-eating (which is an eating disorder in itself though is rarely thought of as being the same as the others).

For myself, my eldest isn't fussy and will eat things that I wouldn't even "expect" an 8 year old to eat (very spicy food, etc.). Veg she will wolf down so long as it has gravy. Not plain but tbqfh neither would I.

My youngest is extremely "fussy" but that's because she has some OCD traits with her autism... sometimes she will eat literally only one type of food for weeks. Generally she will eat only processed meats (sausages, salami) and she'll eat pretty much anything white-carby. Lately she loves eggs which is a huge positive. Zero veg, very little fruit. She has supplements to make up for what she doesn't get from food but it's not ideal.

Do you have to bring psychological studies into everything?

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Redway

Do you have to bring psychological studies into everything?

Do you have to follow me from thread to thread whining because I said something you didn't like in one a week ago?

I'm sorry for saying that I don't think it's acceptable for parents to beat up their kids for cultural reasons, OK? There. I apologise. In fact, nothing makes me happier than when I see someone boot their offspring down the street in traditional dress. If anything, I marvel at the diversity of human experience.

Can we move on now, Redway?

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Do you have to follow me from thread to thread whining because I said something you didn't like in one a week ago?

I'm sorry for saying that I don't think it's acceptable for parents to beat up their kids for cultural reasons, OK? There. I apologise. In fact, nothing makes me happier than when I see someone boot their offspring down the street in traditional dress. If anything, I marvel at the diversity of human experience.

Can we move on now, Redway?

It actually wasn't about what you said the other day. I just noticed how much you like bringing in stuff like that on innocuous threads.

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Redway

It actually wasn't about what you said the other day. I just noticed how much you like bringing in stuff like that on innocuous threads.

I'm sure it wasn't .

Just stop being mean and picking on me please, it's making me really upset and nervous to come on the forum, because I don't know what unkind words will be waiting for me here.

[Zizu]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I'm sure it wasn't .

Just stop being mean and picking on me please, it's making me really upset and nervous to come on the forum, because I don't know what unkind words will be waiting for me here.

I've not been following this thread or many others but I'd suggest that you just try and move on and forget whatever's happened ... I also struggle dreadfully in forums due to my anxiousness and extreme sensitivity .


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[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Zizu

I've not been following this thread or many others but I'd suggest that you just try and move on and forget whatever's happened ... I also struggle dreadfully in forums due to my anxiousness and extreme sensitivity .


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You're right Zizu, it's better just to ignore such negativity and soldier on.

[Zizu]

I'm super sensitive to just about everything...personal comments / sounds /textures / tastes & flavours .... the latter resulted in me being labelled as a 'fussy eater' although I've always regarded that as unfair .. so many things are just unpleasant if you are super-sensitive . An example is mushrooms which are a complete no-no ... the taste , the aftertaste - the slimey texture ..




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[Toy Soldier]

See I don't mind anything about mushrooms, until I remember that they're mushrooms / fungus and then the thought of them makes me feel sick .

[jaxie]

No, my kids like fruit and veg, will try anything etc and I think for the most part that meal time stress is often aggravated by parents. I think if you are relaxed about it then it will work out. Never force them, if they don't like some foods work around it and find things they do like. If they don't eat a mushroom it's not the end of the world.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by smudgie

No.
Never given the chance.
Good nutritional meals, no options.

I don't have any kids... but this is the way we were brought up. Plus my Mum always worked and there was no way she was going to make more than one kind of meal.