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Niamh. · 22-10-2020, 12:41 PM

Fair dues to him, being proactive and helping others stay safe is a good way to deal with it too I think

Ammi · 22-10-2020, 12:48 PM

...I’m looking forward to reading the book and I’m not usually one for celebrity biographical type books...

Kizzy · 22-10-2020, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy

It's a more common thing than people expect, sadly. It's quite sad that he doesn't consider himself to be a victim, it sounds like he might not have ever really processed what happened to him, he acknowledges it, but he sounds like he is burying it. If that's the case, I hope he can come to terms with it one day and heal from it as best as anyone could, in that situation.

I agree with this, it's almost like if he doesn't admit to himself that he's a victim he isn't one...Which is imo very dangerous, to internalise something like that is usually the best way to destroy yourself.
That said working with rape elimination projects is worthwhile and cathartic, that might be his coping strategy? If he feels he's preventing this happening to others he can deal with it.

Vanessa · 22-10-2020, 02:56 PM

I really feel for him.
It's good that he's been helping people.
I had the feeling he had been through a lot.
He's such a good person. Love him

Tom4784 · 22-10-2020, 08:44 PM

Yeah, the preventative methods he has put into place to try and stop other people from falling victim is really commendable. I hope helping others brings him a sense of peace.

Aaliyah · 23-10-2020, 01:15 AM

he was hot when he was young, what happened to him tbh

Ammi · 23-10-2020, 06:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy

It's a more common thing than people expect, sadly. It's quite sad that he doesn't consider himself to be a victim, it sounds like he might not have ever really processed what happened to him, he acknowledges it, but he sounds like he is burying it. If that's the case, I hope he can come to terms with it one day and heal from it as best as anyone could, in that situation.

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Originally Posted by Kizzy

I agree with this, it's almost like if he doesn't admit to himself that he's a victim he isn't one...Which is imo very dangerous, to internalise something like that is usually the best way to destroy yourself.
That said working with rape elimination projects is worthwhile and cathartic, that might be his coping strategy? If he feels he's preventing this happening to others he can deal with it.

...this is really very sad and something that I’m just just beginning to read about atm...the amount of male rape victims, which is said to be 1 in 10 of all rapes being males...I think those are USA statistics and I’m not sure how current ...we know how difficult it is for females and why so many assaults/rapes etc don’t get reported at all..because of the added justice system ‘assault’ and the too often judgements from society etc...but it would seem that males sexual assaults and rapes really are ‘the silent victim’...very sad...