[Swan]

I was recently talking with my cousin over a cuppa and she was keeping me up to date with all the gossip (as you do ) Well two people we know, both women, one gay one bisexual recently split up because the bi woman was playing away from home, with a man....

Anyway my question is - How do gay people feel about being in relationships with bi people? Do they work just as well?

[parmnion]

It worked for phillip Schofields wife for years.

[Mitchell]

Yep they can work fine

[Liam-]

It’s literally no different from dating a gay person, as long as you’re secure and are trusting, it doesn’t matter what their sexuality is, bisexual people aren’t anymore likely to cheat than gays

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by Liam-

It’s literally no different from dating a gay person, as long as you’re secure and are trusting, it doesn’t matter what their sexuality is, bisexual people aren’t anymore likely to cheat than gays

Or someone hetero being with a bi person. If people are going to cheat,it doesn't matter with what sex. One of my friends is with a bi girl and they have a fab relationship, he doesn't worry she will suddenly run off with another woman.

[Swan]

I guess it's more the 'double the temptation' thing. But good honest people are good honest people, it's as simple as that. Trust is the most important thing.

[Marsh.]

I don't think it is "double the temptation".

It's kind of like the assumption gay people fancy any man. A cheater will cheat, no matter their sexuality.

[Swan]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

I don't think it is "double the temptation".

It's kind of like the assumption gay people fancy any man. A cheater will cheat, no matter their sexuality.

Yeah i suppose that's true tbf.

[LeatherTrumpet]

Its bad enough having failed relationships with one sex never mind two of them

[Oliver_W]

I don't think he'd be more likely to cheat, but most people generally want to have their own biological children with their partner, and with bisexual and straight people that is actually an option ... so (justified or not) I'd have it in my mind that there's a "countdown" before he'd decide to leave and find a female partner for the long term.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

I don't think he'd be more likely to cheat, but most people generally want to have their own biological children with their partner, and with bisexual and straight people that is actually an option ... so (justified or not) I'd have it in my mind that there's a "countdown" before he'd decide to leave and find a female partner for the long term.

But when it comes to longterm relationships, that conversation rears its head anyway, so that's not even about being bi but about whether they are compatible on wanting or not wanting children. Gay couples also have that decision in this day and age, some want kids and some don't. It's not all about being biologically able, but wanting to.

[Oliver_W]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

But when it comes to longterm relationships, that conversation rears its head anyway, so that's not even about being bi but about whether they are compatible on wanting or not wanting children. Gay couples also have that decision in this day and age, some want kids and some don't. It's not all about being biologically able, but wanting to.

I frankly wouldn't get into a long term relationship with someone who never wanted kids in one form or another tbh. And I do see what you're saying, but bisexual people not only have the option to adopt or foster children with a partner of the same sex, but they can also procreate!! So why would they not take the latter option, if they're attracted to people of both sexes?

Eh, I dunno. I'm not speaking for bisexual people, I understand it's probably more my neuroses than anything else

[AnnieK]

A lot of hetero people don't want kids though. That's nothing to do with sexuality, its about the desire to procreate. Not everyone wants to bring up a child....but it should definitely be a conversation ANY couple has before they commit their future to each other. I've seen many couples who were solid in their 20s/ 30s split because they can't agree on children

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

I frankly wouldn't get into a long term relationship with someone who never wanted kids in one form or another tbh. And I do see what you're saying, but bisexual people not only have the option to adopt or foster children with a partner of the same sex, but they can also procreate!! So why would they not take the latter option, if they're attracted to people of both sexes?

Because you're falling into the trap of "They're bisexual so they can choose to be with anyone" so they can choose to be with that person and conceive naturally rather than this other person and adopt. It depends on who they are with, who they fall in love with, life circumstances etc just like straight people, they fall in love and don't necessarily "go with anyone" based on a tick list of attributes of who they are on paper. (Well some people can but that's not selective to one sexuality).

[GoldHeart]

People use to think and probably still think that they're MORE LIKELY to cheat, but as mentioned surely if you're in a secure relationship then that shouldn't happen.

Look at all the 100% straight relationships where people cheat, yet they acted like they were happy .

But then there's also a preference,as not everyone would date a bi person I guess.

[Ammi]

…I’m sorry about the relationship split with your friends, Swan…

…sadly, I think that was the person who cheated and more of a cheating thing than a ‘gay thing’ or bisexual” thing, though…’double the temptation’ feels a bit like a bisexual myth…like bisexual is just confused or greedy or etc…it’s a bit like saying that if a heterosexual female in a committed relationship for instance..?…was in a room with 20 heterosexual males, would she be more likely to cheat on that relationship than if she were in a room with 10 heterosexual males…’temptation’ is only there as temptation if that’s how a person percieves it, regardless of sexuality…

[Tom4784]

I do hate the stereotype of bi people being untrustworthy because they're somehow meant to be more likely to cheat.

[UserSince2005]

If I turn straight men gay I dont think I need to worry about turning a bisexual fully gay.