[Kate!]

So, I go out for lunch with a few women I knew from bingo a couple of times a week.

Last week, after I got back from Blackpool I went and one lady was upset, she was struggling to pay a bill. I gave her 25 pounds to help her. This Monday, bank holiday, she reported me to the pub staff for allegedly asking her for 10 pounds and not giving it her back!!!! They believed her, but the truth was she gave it to me and said here's a treat with thanks. I'm now barred from this pub, and I'm utterly fuming. I tried to explain the entire situation but they weren't interested. The manager said, there's no appeal process, I decide who does and doesn't come in my pub!!

I think she's taken leave of her senses, the ungrateful cow. If she wasn't an older woman I'd have swung for her.

[Vanessa]

Not a genuine friend if they can do this. I would cut all contact.

[Redway]

Disgusting. I’d level with her and find out what she’s playing at.

[Ammi]

…that’s very harsh and unfair of the landlord…to only listen to the other person’s story and then to bar you without hearing your voice in it also…(do you think…)…that she knew that she wouldn’t be able to repay you so has ‘negotiated’ and manufactured a story so that she can avoid you…?…I’m so sorry for how this has left you feeling right now……

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Kate!

So, I go out for lunch with a few women I knew from bingo a couple of times a week.

Last week, after I got back from Blackpool I went and one lady was upset, she was struggling to pay a bill. I gave her 25 pounds to help her. This Monday, bank holiday, she reported me to the pub staff for allegedly asking her for 10 pounds and not giving it her back!!!! They believed her, but the truth was she gave it to me and said here's a treat with thanks. I'm now barred from this pub, and I'm utterly fuming. I tried to explain the entire situation but they weren't interested. The manager said, there's no appeal process, I decide who does and doesn't come in my pub!!

I think she's taken leave of her senses, the ungrateful cow. If she wasn't an older woman I'd have swung for her.

Hmmmm. You need better friends to be honest.

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…that’s very harsh and unfair of the landlord…to only listen to the other person’s story and then to bar you without hearing your voice in it also…(do you think…)…that she knew that she wouldn’t be able to repay you so has ‘negotiated’ and manufactured a story so that she can avoid you…?…I’m so sorry for how this has left you feeling right now……

I feel truly horrible and badly done to, tbh. She put her head down and couldn't even look at me. I just stormed out.

[AnnieK]

What's it got to the do with the pub? Its madness they have barred you due to an argument between friends. It's between you and her. Did she pay you back the £25?

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

What's it got to the do with the pub? Its madness they have barred you due to an argument between friends. It's between you and her. Did she pay you back the £25?

She turned on the waterworks to the staff, no she didn't return the 25 pounds, I wasn't holding her to it, I mainly wanted to help. I'll not be so generous again though. A lesson learned.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Kate!

I feel truly horrible and badly done to, tbh. She put her head down and couldn't even look at me. I just stormed out.

..it’s very unfair that the staff only listened to one voice and then made a very harsh decision without listening to you…but then, that’s not the place that’s good for you to be, is it…I understand your anger but knowing is so much better than still having that person as a part of your life …

[rusticgal]

Why did you take it ‘as a treat’?….surely it was part of the payback of the 25.00 you gave her?

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Kate!

She turned on the waterworks to the staff, no she didn't return the 25 pounds, I wasn't holding her to it, I mainly wanted to help. I'll not be so generous again though. A lesson learned.

….maybe she can’t face you that she can’t return the money so fabricated a story to avoid you and paying you back…

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

Why did you take it ‘as a treat’?….surely it was part of the payback of the 25.00 you gave her?

When I gave her the 25 I didn't say it was a lend, I just gave it to her, and said.put that in the purse. I was leaving it up to her if she could afford to.give it back, she's always been a really lovely woman, I don't understand it tbh. Her loss at the end of the day.

[AnnieK]

I still don't get why they barred you? If you owed the pub maybe but sounds like terrible business to bar someone for that? Madness

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

I still don't get why they barred you? If you owed the pub maybe but sounds like terrible business to bar someone for that? Madness

It was because she turned on the waterworks. They said I had harassed her till she gave me the money, and they couldn't condone customers doing that sort of thing. I think she has problems.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Kate!

When I gave her the 25 I didn't say it was a lend, I just gave it to her, and said.put that in the purse. I was leaving it up to her if she could afford to.give it back, she's always been a really lovely woman, I don't understand it tbh. Her loss at the end of the day.

…aahhhh, ok so it wasn’t a loan…I misunderstood, so her manufacturing this to avoid paying you back wouldn’t make sense…it’s so bad that the pub staff just listened to one voice and then barred someon on that without hearing them…

[AnnieK]

How soon after she gave you the money dis she turn on the waterworks? I think you are well shut of the friend and the pub tbh

[Kate!]

I'm really disappointed in the woman. She gorgeous their sympathy and because I got annoyed and said she wasn't being truthful they were looking at me like I was a right bully. She can't come out with us anymore.

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

How soon after she gave you the money dis she turn on the waterworks? I think you are well shut of the friend and the pub tbh

About an hour, when we were nearly ready.for going.

[Ammi]

…(…in your group…)…there are others who are part of the group and have lunch etc…?…what is their take on this/input, have they ever had any issues themselves with this lady at all…is she someone who you’ve all known for a long while…?…

[Kate!]

They were all taken aback and I don't think they really knew what to say at the time. I've spoken with them since and we are still going to meet up elsewhere, thank goodness.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Kate!

They were all taken aback and I don't think they really knew what to say at the time. I've spoken with them since and we are still going to meet up elsewhere, thank goodness.

…well all I can say, Kate…is the pub/pub staff choosing to just listen to one story from one person and to act on that one voice in such an extreme way as to bar you without listening to you or any other person in the group who all seem equally confused by it all …then they deserve to lose all of your custom ….

[bots]

life is too short, go to another pub and move on

[GiRTh]

Sorry to hear that Kate.

What is this pub? Is it a place where you all go a few times a week?

[Benjamin]

This is why I never loan anyone money, even friends. It muddies the water far too often.

I think you’ve got yourself lucky there it wasn’t more, and are better off without that type of person in your life. Shame about the pub, but there are other pubs.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Id imagine there is a backstory here we are not privy to...