[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…well…surely one of the purposes of a content creator is to create content of discussions/highlighting things that people can experience etc…and all she’s asking in this particular content is…’is it necessary to approach a complete stranger…’…when you have no idea how it could/would be perceived…and no, it really isn’t necessary/whatever the intention, it really isn’t necessary to voice that to someone …

I personally don't want to see men and women being scared to approach each other with a friendly compliment.

Obviously if it's cat-calling bullshit or inappropriate touching etc then the guy has crossed the line imo.

And I suppose to defend the woman in the OP a little bit (as I do have my doubts about her) but was the guy deliberately trying to make her uncomfortable? Because I do think that the intent from this guy would really be good to know.

[Maru]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

The only problem with this thinking is that it can stop people wanting to interact with each other, if they're constantly scared to try and strike up a conversation with someone.

For example, some lonely people (men or women it doesn't really matter) might be looking for friendship and might compliment someone's appearance as an intention to break the ice with that other person, and hope to make a friend.

I mean tbf, only the guy in question will know what his intentions were.

That was one major reason I moved back home is because in the other place I couldn't make connections so easily as casual chatter to me is more natural. There were so many invisible boundaries that I just gave up because there was no point. I can see where people made all kinds of assumptions about other people because communication was minimal. It's not what I am used to as it's more relaxed elsewhere. Anyway if someone wants to compliment me, by all means, I'll enjoy it while it still happens. I'll be very sad if spontaneity goes away though because if and when it does I might as well move away to the boonies to get away from the downsides of urban society. Far less traffic, also.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Maru

As a female with lived experiences, etc, with other females... it is incredibly f-ing common for women to get together and talk **** when one of them receives compliments from an ugly guy. I have heard it all. "He's nasty", "eww", "gross", etc. (and far worse tbh) Women can be very brutal.

Maybe it is different in other places, but when women set their mind on someone being repulsive it absolutely completely changes how they personally perceive and treat a dude and it's common they talk about him behind his back. It sucks. He doesn't even have to be conventionally ugly. He just has to rub women the wrong way that they perceive as a repulsive trait. Excess egotism causes that reaction sometimes.

I have seen women do the 180 also where they meet a new colleague with whom they have the worst possible first reaction ever. He doesn't even know and starts talking to them differently in just some other way that just works for whatever reason and then in a month they're dating...

Emotions are a powerful thing but they're not 100% reliable and so I don't see every little hissy fit as worth getting worked up over to such an extent we need to remap all our perceptions of reality to match up with how every potential scenario would play out. We are not mindreaders and that's OK.

So the Mean Girls are real?

I mean I'd still say women ripping into men that they find repulsive, is different to going on the Internet to thousands (if not millions of people) to call a guy a creep like this woman is doing, with no solid evidence to back her up either.

And I definitely agree with the last paragraph.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Maru

That was one major reason I moved back home is because in the other place I couldn't make connections so easily as casual chatter to me is more natural. There were so many invisible boundaries that I just gave up because there was no point. I can see where people made all kinds of assumptions about other people because communication was minimal. It's not what I am used to as it's more relaxed elsewhere. Anyway if someone wants to compliment me, by all means, I'll enjoy it while it still happens. I'll be very sad if spontaneity goes away though because if and when it does I might as well move away to the boonies to get away the downsides of urban society. Far less traffic, also.

Sadly it's the way society is going.

They want everyone to be scared of each other and just watch each other through a screen.

They don't want us to trust each other enough to see what they're doing to us all behind the scenes.

And "they" is the political leaders and big business.

[Maru]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

So the Mean Girls are real?

I mean I'd still say women ripping into men that they find repulsive, is different to going on the Internet to thousands (if not millions of people) to call a guy a creep like this woman is doing, with no solid evidence to back her up either.

And I definitely agree with the last paragraph.

She is basically being nasty towards the guy under the guise of her having a certain sensitivity while yet producing tears on video to suggest that the blame should be put on the dude. If one takes her at her word then it is easy to miss that there is a likely contradiction there...

There is no kindness in that, imo.

She is doing what most people on Tiktok do which is complain generally about something with no other facts presented other than what is needed to create enough sympathy aka outrage to generate traction for a video...

Edit: She can't alienate men because it would cause it to go viral for the wrong reasons... so this is done in a more manipulative manner.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Maru

She is basically being nasty towards the guy under the guise of her having a certain sensitivity while yet producing tears on video to suggest that the blame should be put on the dude. If one takes her at her word then it is easy to miss that there is a likely contradiction there...

There is no kindness in that, imo.

She is doing what most people on Tiktok do which is complain generally about something with no other facts presented other than what is needed to create enough sympathy aka outrage to generate traction for a video...

Edit: She can't alienate men because it would cause it to go viral for the wrong reasons... so this is more manipulative.

I understand what you mean.

That's quite sinister if you're right about that though, which I think you are tbh.