[SiaSiaSia]

Didn't know whether to put this in "serious debates" or not, but then I decided that I don't really want to debate this, I'd just like to share my view.
I posted this as a myspace blog, but as I've hidden my blogs not many people will see it, so I thought I'd post it on here, as well.

I'd like to apologize in advance if this upsets or offends anyone, as I do not mean to. There are also many exceptions to some things I have said, but this is just based on my life, and people like me.


Life.

We all think it's there forever don't we? It always seems to be rightt here - but really, we can die in a split second. I could die right here, right now, at my computer. We never stop and look at the dangers of life as we all seem so self-absorbed in our life that we never notice others.

My mum went to hospital the other day, and It was a wake up call. I suddenly realized there are only a few ways of life. We can eat, or be eaten. One minute, she was completley normal - just nagging at me, chatting to me, just being my mum, really. I was taking her for granted, but the next thing I know is that she's collapsed on the bathroom floor in between throwing up in the toilet, and the paramedics are taking her to hospital. Luckily, she was back about 8 hours later - and still recovering in bed. I was lucky, but I realize now that some people aren't. Life can be there one minute and gone the next, and we don't spend enough time appreciating the people around us as we think they will be there forever. People often say "Oh, I hate my parents", but why? (Well, unless they abuse you. Then I'd understand the whole hate thing) I have said it often enough, but I now know that I was being immature. Your parents are the people that brought you into the world, and they generally only want what's best for you, whether you like it or not.
Maybe you should clean your room, for one. My room is a mess, and I stepped on my clock the other day. Glass got in my foot and everything. It wasn't very nice, if you can imagine.

The next day, My Dad was in a motorcycle accident, believe it or not, and he had to go to the doctors as well. He's been using his motorcycle for years and years and no one expected it at all. Had he been hit in a different way, He could have easily have died, and motorcycle accidents are quite common if you think about it. Many people DO die from it, and though I often say "i hate my dad" or something, It made me realize, I really don't, I'm lucky to have him when many people don't.

Please do not say "I'm sorry" or anything, because In fact I feel like the luckiest person in the world. Not because my family were in accidents, but because they are still living and breathing. I'd like to send my apologies to any one who has lost any one, as losing someone can hurt at a degree I can not even comprehend yet.

I'd like to also apologize to anyone I've hurt in the past years. I was immature and selfish, and only trying to make myself happy without realizing the consequences. In some situations, I completley freaked out and I am still paying for it. Some of the people still claim to hate me, and I say I hate them - but I don't really. In fact, I agree with Mark - he said that hate is a strong word and should not be used lightly. I've lost a lot of friends from being immature and selfish, as well as frequently using that word. Please don't follow this example and rise above it.

So please, everybody, don't waste your life on stupid things and stupid relationships, just life your life to the full, as It could easily be over, basically.

Thanks for taking time to read this.

[Jackie]

I lost my daughter in a motorcycling accident 4 years ago,one minute we were all round the kitchen table eating dinner and laughing together and the next thing she was gone a couple of hours later I didn't have the chance to say to her I love her she died at the scence.
My life has changed now I spend as much time I can with all my family and friends because when they've gone you don't get a second chance yes it's true you do take things for granted but life sometimes can be so cruel.

[stacey]

Its true what you're saying you never realise how lucky you really are until something similar happens to whats happened to you but if something like that doesn't happen you just never think it will and take everything for granted without even meaning to.

[DamonJ]

I totally understand your point. It may sound cheesy, but life really is what you make it, you can either not try anything and stay in the dampening place for years and be a complete waste, or you can give yourself a drive and do something with your life, too many people out there and relying on other people to do everything for them while they sit and enjoy the pleasure of laziness, but they're really miserable they're not going anywhere. Life is there for you to enjoy, and you ALWAYS have the oppurtunity to change it, therefore we should appreciate it.

Or have I just totally missed the point?

[Christina]

I lost my Grandma on xmas day she was suffering with cancer but nobody told me so it was so sudden. And where i live its the centre of all the gun crime so i deffo understand what you mean about someone being there one min and gone the next. Although i may not know the people that are being killed and are killing around my area, i still can imagine how heartbreaking it must be to have a friend/loved one killed. That was a really good thread Sia. I deffo think we should all live life to the fullest and be thankful etc.. x

[AlexBigBrother]

i think stupid relationships are all part of life, they add a bit of excitement
all i think is when your 75 or w/e you should be able to look back over your life and regret nothing, coz youve done everything!

[AngRemembered]

A lovely story and fabulous philosophy, and yet again from someone so young its a real pleasure to read from you people most days on here, sometimes its simply awesome.

Keep doing what your doing SiaSia you'll make a very very good mother one day yourself and make any son or daughter very proud of you indeed, because you know what lifes all about

[Christina]

Originally posted by AlexBigBrother
i think stupid relationships are all part of life, they add a bit of excitement
all i think is when your 75 or w/e you should be able to look back over your life and regret nothing, coz youve done everything!

In a way i kind of agree with Alex, i suppose it does add a bit of excitment in your life [as long as your happy with it etc..]! And then you wont feel bad for being able to get the chance to do certain things x

[kerri]

very well said an spot on, one of my mottos is never say never an nothing lasts forever, so enjoy while it does, do it with a smile on your face, lives to short ENJOY it xx

[kerri]

very well said an spot on, one of my mottos is never say never an nothing lasts forever, so enjoy while it does, do it with a smile on your face, lives to short ENJOY it xx

[kerri]

very well said an spot on, one of my mottos is never say never an nothing lasts forever, so enjoy while it does, do it with a smile on your face, lifes to short ENJOY it xx

[SiaSiaSia]

Originally posted by DamonJ
I totally understand your point. It may sound cheesy, but life really is what you make it, you can either not try anything and stay in the dampening place for years and be a complete waste, or you can give yourself a drive and do something with your life, too many people out there and relying on other people to do everything for them while they sit and enjoy the pleasure of laziness, but they're really miserable they're not going anywhere. Life is there for you to enjoy, and you ALWAYS have the oppurtunity to change it, therefore we should appreciate it.

Or have I just totally missed the point?

no, no you didn't miss the point at all. That's what I was trying to say, anyway.

Originally posted by AlexBigBrother
i think stupid relationships are all part of life, they add a bit of excitement
all i think is when your 75 or w/e you should be able to look back over your life and regret nothing, coz youve done everything!

Oh no, I didn't mean stupid like that! (You should see MY relationship history)
I meant "stupid" in many different ways - how YOU define stupid, not me. Like, if you're with someone a long time but don't love them - I think THAT'S a stupid relationship, or having arguments with friends because of stupid things and then never talking to them again - THAT'S a stupid relationship.
etc.etc.

[Noel]

I totally understand how you feel. I, thankfully, have not had to suffer the devastation of losing a close relative or friend, but sometimes, I do think about how easily life can end. My mum always says "It's a thin line" and it's true. One minute you could be here, the next, you could not. I guess you can't really appreciate life and its' delicacy until you truly experience a close grievance. We can all live our lives in the way we want to, but our actions, even the tiniest of these, can cost someone their life. I constantly try to analyse life, but I don't think you can analyse it enough until you find out first hand how disposable it is. I apologize deeply for anyone who has lost a loved one, because they are the ones who truly know what life is about. I am so thankful I haven't had the horror of experiencing such grievances, but I know, sooner or later, I will have to.

[SiaSiaSia]

Originally posted by Christina
I lost my Grandma on xmas day she was suffering with cancer but nobody told me so it was so sudden. And where i live its the centre of all the gun crime so i deffo understand what you mean about someone being there one min and gone the next. Although i may not know the people that are being killed and are killing around my area, i still can imagine how heartbreaking it must be to have a friend/loved one killed. That was a really good thread Sia. I deffo think we should all live life to the fullest and be thankful etc.. x

I'm really sorry to hear that - *hugs* . One of my great grandads died a few years ago (they're both dead now though, unfortunately.) Anyway, I only remember visiting him in hospital once or twice, and I only found out in the last few years - I didn't even realize.



And thank you for your kind comment Angie

[Lauren]

Yeah, I totally agree. I learned this "lesson"(I guess that's what it could be called) a long time ago, however. Both my parents are very ill, and have always been ill in my lifetime - my mum moreso. None of their illnesses are fatal, but with my mum it's such a culmination of so many different things it only ever gets worse and not better.

I think I was about 10 when I realised I could lose her (and anyone else in my life) in a flash moment - so now if I leave the house, or even leave her room to go into mine - I'll make sure I leave on good terms. Not in a morbid way, not in a way that I "expect" her to die or something. But in a "just in case" way.

Great post SiaSiaSia.

[Tom]

Originally posted by Lauren
Yeah, I totally agree. I learned this "lesson"(I guess that's what it could be called) a long time ago, however. Both my parents are very ill, and have always been ill in my lifetime - my mum moreso. None of their illnesses are fatal, but with my mum it's such a culmination of so many different things it only ever gets worse and not better.

I think I was about 10 when I realised I could lose her (and anyone else in my life) in a flash moment - so now if I leave the house, or even leave her room to go into mine - I'll make sure I leave on good terms. Not in a morbid way, not in a way that I "expect" her to die or something. But in a "just in case" way.

Great post SiaSiaSia.

Oh I get what you mean there, I don't like leaving conflict unresolved for that reason (without realising it) because someone could go on bad terms and you can never put it right and live with that guilt ...

Anyway its all well and good talking about it but when something does happen you do change as a person. In the past year I lost one of my best friends in a car accident and *that* accident I had earlier in the year. For me they shown how life can change in a split second. Through both of them I've grown up a hell of a lot and realised what a complete arrogant arsehole I've been (to put it politely) towards some people. I practically changed as a person overnight and quite a lot of people have said they've noticed a big change in me as well, for the good I hope. But these days I definitely appreciate time and people a lot more.

[SiaSiaSia]

Originally posted by Bradley!
I totally understand how you feel. I, thankfully, have not had to suffer the devastation of losing a close relative or friend, but sometimes, I do think about how easily life can end. My mum always says "It's a thin line" and it's true. One minute you could be here, the next, you could not. I guess you can't really appreciate life and its' delicacy until you truly experience a close grievance. We can all live our lives in the way we want to, but our actions, even the tiniest of these, can cost someone their life. I constantly try to analyze life, but I don't think you can analyze it enough until you find out first hand how disposable it is. I apologize deeply for anyone who has lost a loved one, because they are the ones who truly know what life is about. I am so thankful I haven't had the horror of experiencing such grievances, but I know, sooner or later, I will have to.

Yeah, totally agree, You're basically saying what I'm trying to say as well - I'm glad we have both realized it now - let's hope we maintain what we now know.

Originally posted by Lauren
Yeah, I totally agree. I learned this "lesson"(I guess that's what it could be called) a long time ago, however. Both my parents are very ill, and have always been ill in my lifetime - my mum moreso. None of their illnesses are fatal, but with my mum it's such a culmination of so many different things it only ever gets worse and not better.

I think I was about 10 when I realised I could lose her (and anyone else in my life) in a flash moment - so now if I leave the house, or even leave her room to go into mine - I'll make sure I leave on good terms. Not in a morbid way, not in a way that I "expect" her to die or something. But in a "just in case" way.

Great post SiaSiaSia.

Aww Lauren, I'm really sorry to hear that - my grandma in Sweden suffered a lot of strokes and is looked after 24/7, and she can hardly talk and walks really slowly. You must be a lovely daughter to care for both your parents 24/7, I will follow your example with the whole good terms thing, I was kinda mean to my mum today but I felt really guilty and gave her a hug :P

Originally posted by Tom
Anyway its all well and good talking about it but when something does happen you do change as a person. In the past year I lost one of my best friends in a car accident and *that* accident I had earlier in the year. For me they shown how life can change in a split second. Through both of them I've grown up a hell of a lot and realised what a complete arrogant arsehole I've been (to put it politely) towards some people. I practically changed as a person overnight and quite a lot of people have said they've noticed a big change in me as well, for the good I hope. But these days I definitely appreciate time and people a lot more.

Tom, I can not consolidate you about your friend apart from to say my heart goes out to you, and the only consilidation I can give you is that you've never come across as an arrogant arsehole on here at all, but a very witty poster who I enjoy reading.

[Ninastar]

Originally posted by SiaSiaSia
Didn't know whether to put this in "serious debates" or not, but then I decided that I don't really want to debate this, I'd just like to share my view.
I posted this as a myspace blog, but as I've hidden my blogs not many people will see it, so I thought I'd post it on here, as well.

I'd like to apologize in advance if this upsets or offends anyone, as I do not mean to. There are also many exceptions to some things I have said, but this is just based on my life, and people like me.


Life.

We all think it's there forever don't we? It always seems to be rightt here - but really, we can die in a split second. I could die right here, right now, at my computer. We never stop and look at the dangers of life as we all seem so self-absorbed in our life that we never notice others.

My mum went to hospital the other day, and It was a wake up call. I suddenly realized there are only a few ways of life. We can eat, or be eaten. One minute, she was completley normal - just nagging at me, chatting to me, just being my mum, really. I was taking her for granted, but the next thing I know is that she's collapsed on the bathroom floor in between throwing up in the toilet, and the paramedics are taking her to hospital. Luckily, she was back about 8 hours later - and still recovering in bed. I was lucky, but I realize now that some people aren't. Life can be there one minute and gone the next, and we don't spend enough time appreciating the people around us as we think they will be there forever. People often say "Oh, I hate my parents", but why? (Well, unless they abuse you. Then I'd understand the whole hate thing) I have said it often enough, but I now know that I was being immature. Your parents are the people that brought you into the world, and they generally only want what's best for you, whether you like it or not.
Maybe you should clean your room, for one. My room is a mess, and I stepped on my clock the other day. Glass got in my foot and everything. It wasn't very nice, if you can imagine.

The next day, My Dad was in a motorcycle accident, believe it or not, and he had to go to the doctors as well. He's been using his motorcycle for years and years and no one expected it at all. Had he been hit in a different way, He could have easily have died, and motorcycle accidents are quite common if you think about it. Many people DO die from it, and though I often say "i hate my dad" or something, It made me realize, I really don't, I'm lucky to have him when many people don't.

Please do not say "I'm sorry" or anything, because In fact I feel like the luckiest person in the world. Not because my family were in accidents, but because they are still living and breathing. I'd like to send my apologies to any one who has lost any one, as losing someone can hurt at a degree I can not even comprehend yet.

I'd like to also apologize to anyone I've hurt in the past years. I was immature and selfish, and only trying to make myself happy without realizing the consequences. In some situations, I completley freaked out and I am still paying for it. Some of the people still claim to hate me, and I say I hate them - but I don't really. In fact, I agree with Mark - he said that hate is a strong word and should not be used lightly. I've lost a lot of friends from being immature and selfish, as well as frequently using that word. Please don't follow this example and rise above it.

So please, everybody, don't waste your life on stupid things and stupid relationships, just life your life to the full, as It could easily be over, basically.

Thanks for taking time to read this.

omg your post made me cry! and i know what you mean!

[SiaSiaSia]

aww i never knew i made you cry ninostar :S -hugs-

[Hugo]

This thread made me cry
EXCELLENT POST


EDIT: I didn't read Ninostar's post. LOL

[SiaSiaSia]

Originally posted by tooperfect
This thread made me cry
EXCELLENT POST


EDIT: I didn't read Ninostar's post. LOL

aww thankyou
i don't feel embarressed by it anymore

[Porcelain]

Anyone who thinks they live forever is an idiot. Common sense.

Glad to hear that your mother is recovering though.

[SiaSiaSia]

Originally posted by Porcelain
Anyone who thinks they live forever is an idiot. Common sense.

Glad to hear that your mother is recovering though.

lol that was aaaages ago
she's fine now

[pinkmichk]

totally agree with what you put sia
i almost lost my dad in 2005 and it certainly was the wake up call to say to me to live my life to the absolute fullest i can

[001steven]

my mum was in a motorbike husband with my step dad who died when the police told us i was expecting them to say the worse thing ever but it turned out she broke her arm and was unconsious i was so upset i was crying so much that my face and stomach hurt. when me and my sister saw her we just broke down in tears so glad she was still alive. it just goes to show life can be over in a matter of seconds/minutes/hours/days/weeks/months/years. My nan has always told me to enjoy life as its wayyyyyyy to short