[SiaSiaSia]

hmm well i don't really mind TOO much either way
don't think i'd like to go out with a younger boy thoguh

[Novo]

when i was in year 11

i was going out with a year 9

she was 14 i was 16

thats the biggest gap

[Z]

I dunno, I get kind of intimidated by the idea of dating someone more than 2 years older than me. That's not to say I wouldn't, it's just the idea of it scares me a little at the age I'm at. I don't see anything wrong with a massive age gap between the two people, my parents have a 4 year gap and my older brother and his wife are 5 years apart, but I don't really know many people who have a bigger age gap than that. I think it just depends on each person's wants and needs; I look for intelligence in a person because I need intelligent conversation.

Age gaps are subjective. Many people, like myself, would say 2 years either way is the limit, because they're influenced a lot by other people's opinions. It takes a great deal of confidence to date someone who is a lot older/younger than you, I think.

[Sam!]

Originally posted by Legend

What about the 5-18 year gaps? Fine? Skank? Does it actually matter at all providing both are happy with it?

I just think its pervy when someone is 19 and going out with a 40yr old.

[Bells]

Theoretically I have no problem with massive age gaps at all - it's all about maturity levels, where age really is nothing but a number. As long as the people involved are 16 and over, there's no issue. However, whilst I'm OK with it theoretically, I really don't know if I personally could have a relationship with someone who was 40 or over when it came to it. I guess it's just one of those things where when it happens, it happens.

[Z]

Originally posted by Ash
Theoretically I have no problem with massive age gaps at all - it's all about maturity levels, where age really is nothing but a number. As long as the people involved are 16 and over, there's no issue. However, whilst I'm OK with it theoretically, I really don't know if I personally could have a relationship with someone who was 40 or over when it came to it. I guess it's just one of those things where when it happens, it happens.

Yeah I share a similar view to you Ash, I don't have a problem with other people's age gaps, I just can't imagine myself being in a relationship with someone who was hugely different to me in age.

[Billy]

I agree that once everythings legal it's fine,but my friend is 15, and since she was 14, a 24 year old guy kept wanting to go out with her, and kept saying wait till she's legal and stuff butI kept thinking why does a 24 year old MAN take interest in a little girl?

This probs has nothing to do witht he actual topic but meh

[Legend]

Originally posted by Scampi

I just think its pervy when someone is 19 and going out with a 40yr old.

What's perverted about it if both fancy each other and both are comfortable with it? I don't see anything remotely perverted with that.

[Tom]

Originally posted by Legend

What's perverted about it if both fancy each other and both are comfortable with it? I don't see anything remotely perverted with that.

Its weird and its not practical. Both are at different places in life and the 40 year old is old enough to be the 19 year olds parent. Its just wrong on so many levels.

[Kate..]

No I'm 100% fine with age gaps. My mum and dad had about 20 years between them and I've never known a happier couple personally. Also my best friend is 16 and I'm 14, I know that's not much of an age gap but because of school it feels like it is but the age makes no difference, we are best friends because of who we are, not beacuse of how old we are.
I'd be completely happy with going out with any boy/girl 10 years older than me. But only when I turn twenty because otherwise that's just perverted

[MarkWaldorf]

Originally posted by Legend

What's perverted about it if both fancy each other and both are comfortable with it? I don't see anything remotely perverted with that.

I wouldn't do it myself but I can see where he's coming from. It'd feel like you're dating your parent or something.

[bananarama]

There was a 7 year age gap between my parents.....In theory age gap should not be a major issue. Adults are adults regardless of age.....However in practical terms the bigger the age the more potential problems may arise.....

For example with a very large age gap one will lose your partner from old age just while you are relatively young.......Also old age sickness will cause mental misery for the younger one watching an elderly loved one fade away......

Age is just a number but from a practical point of view I think age gaps that are really wide should be avoided......

[GhettoSuperstar]

I think it's a bit cringy but thats just me, I'm never interested in anyone more than 2/3 years older or 1 year younger but thats just my preference.

I do hate when people purely go out with people a lot older or younger just to be 'different' or to seek attention.

[Legend]

Originally posted by Tom

Its weird and its not practical. Both are at different places in life and the 40 year old is old enough to be the 19 year olds parent. Its just wrong on so many levels.

"weird"? How so?

To people with a narrow mind it's wrong on so many levels.

And who says both are at different places in their lives? Does that not entirely depend on the people involved?

Originally posted by Markus

I wouldn't do it myself but I can see where he's coming from. It'd feel like you're dating your parent or something.

I wouldn't do it myself either, cause I couldn't name a 40 year old who I fancy, nor anybody over 30 really, but who are we to judge anybody else for fancying and 'falling in love' with somebody older than themselves? Like people have said, it's a number, nothing to get too hung up on, nothing to even concern yourself over as if the couple are happy, surely that's all that matters?

And to you it may seem like you are dating your parent, but that's you, others who are slightly more broadminded would look at it completely different, and plus, if they are in love, age means **** all.

This is not me preeching from personal experience cause I really don't know what love is at all, never been in love, but I know that if 2 people are happy, regardless of their age, so what? We are living in the 21st century, it really is nobody else other than the couple's business, and if they are happy, surely that's what matters at the end of the day? Or should they be begrudged happiness because of a number?

[Annie]

I'm into my DILFs these days and I am only 19

[pinkmichk]

there is nowt pervy about it i have been with a older bloke (i was 19 he was 37) and our relationship was fine

[Sam!]

Originally posted by Tom

Its weird and its not practical. Both are at different places in life and the 40 year old is old enough to be the 19 year olds parent. Its just wrong on so many levels.

Yeh thats my opinion on it

[Tom]

Originally posted by Legend

"weird"? How so?

To people with a narrow mind it's wrong on so many levels.

And who says both are at different places in their lives? Does that not entirely depend on the people involved?

I just think it is weird just because they're old enough to be your dad. I just find it weird that one was an adult possibly before the other was even born. And the chances are they are at different places in life. By 40, most people have a set path for their life as half of it has already gone, whereas the 19 year old's life is only just really starting.

Can I just ask, why am I the narrow minded one? How do you know I haven't tried to accept it/find nothing wrong with it but just can't? Just because I don't agree with you doesn't mean I'm narrow minded.

[Markymark]

If men can reproduce up until death then I don't see how there is anything unnatural about old men being with younger women.

[Ruth]

Nothing wrong with age gaps, as long as both people involved are consenting adults. It's nobody's place to judge either.