[SirTech]

i mean it happens and the baby grows up without a father and the mom usually lies and says that the father went to war and was killed or died in a car crash or went somewhere and never came back etc ...

waddya think ?

[Lauren]

I think it's better in the long term, yes.

The mother has their reasons for not wanting to stay with the father, a child should not be a burden to happiness. Furthermore, if she were to stay with the father she would be in an unhappy marriage which would be further detrimental to the childs development. In an ideal World - each child has a 2-parent family, but this can't always be the case. By forcing a couple together, it can only serve to make a volatile environment around the baby.

The best decision is for the mother to leave the husband, but remain in regular contact and visiting in order for the child not to lose contact with the father. Of course this can depend on whether the father wants this.

[Z]

You can't really make a sweeping statement about this issue or not, because it varies in each situation.

- I'd say that many women who leave their husbands are possibly influenced by their hormones, which during a pregnancy are all over the place.

- Women who leave their husbands (as opposed to the other way around) would, I'd have thought, be more inclined to refuse any help from their husband/grant them access to seeing their kids.

That said, I think that a lot of women who leave their husbands during their pregnancies would really have to be pushed to even consider doing it at a time when they are most in need of help.

[Annie]

Depends why they are leaving in the first place? Is the husband abusive? Then yes they should leave and no it would not be stupid. It would be strong and brave of them.
All depends on why they are leaving. Women do very good jobs of raising children on their own and not all women would be bitching about the childrens fathers or making up lies about them.

[pinkmichk]

i am a single mum although it didnt come about when pregnant (although i gave him the option for us to part when i found out and given all that has happened since i wish we had of done) there are many reasons why women leave i dont think they are all down to hormones although yes hormones do a wonderful job of magnifying things but there could be lots of other reasons as to why a woman would make that choice

[Captain.Remy]

It's one of these questions we can't answer in a general aspect. It's always depending on the context.

[lily.]

Originally posted by SirTech
i mean it happens and the baby grows up without a father and the mom usually lies and says that the father went to war and was killed or died in a car crash or went somewhere and never came back etc ...

waddya think ?

I think you read too much Danielle Steel...