[CaudleHalbard]

Originally Posted by reece(:

I think she's happy... what are the signs to her being sad at having surgery...?

Didn't say she was.... in terms of regretting surgery. Let me put it this way:

James was - we have to assume - an unhappy boy. Lauren seems to be an unhappy or at least discontented woman.

Becoming an ersatz female may not have helped. Lauren can never have the full female experience. Genetically she is, and always will be, a man. Her femaleness depends, not only on the radical surgery but (as I understand it) the hormone tablets she will have to take every day until she dies. She can never stop taking them. I suspect some people may not realise this.

I have met a few transsexuals over the years. My impression is that surgery and the daily hormone tablets have NOT provided the answer and that coming to terms with their sexual orientation could have been a happier and less destructive solution. Initially they are thrilled with their new body and gender..... it's a few years down the line they realise they can never be the real thing and they have by then struggled for acceptance. It takes a very special person who will accept a transgendered individual as a sexual partner.

Lauren had the sex change op 15 years ago. She may be at that stage of realisation. I feel a bit sorry for her.