[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Simple Minds

Yeh true that. I think there's some psychology behind it too, my therapist said that humans remember things that are negative more as a self defence to protect them from getting in that situation again and hurting themselves. Now if a person is very concerned about their appearance then that negative situation that is created from a comment can have the same effect. The brain sees it as damaging and remembers it because it thinks it might need it in the future. Something like that anyway I might have said It wrong lol

...yeah, our conscious minds don't remember everything and especially things that happened in childhood, but obviously some people have just generally better memories for specifics than others...but our sub-conscious mind has a 'photographic memory'...but it's hard for the two to communicate with each other, and for lots of people, very rarely do...but what we do 'remember' is emotions/feelings..and feelings of pain etc are far stronger than 'happy' emotions, so for instance, and I mean in an extreme case...say a 9yr old was told they were ugly and then had particularly harsh things said to them by internet trolls..?...they may not be of an age where they fully understand exactly the terminology of those things and how cruel they are but they would understand that they were extremely negative and confirming their fears of being 'ugly'...so for maybe all of their life or a large part of it, what they themselves could see in the mirror is an 'ugly person'...and they could be the most 'beautiful' person in the world but they would only see 'ugly'...if that makes sense lol...it doesn't happen automatically with everyone though, because obviously we're all different in our thought processes....