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Originally Posted by optimisticcynic

The whole "say everything to everyone's face" spiel is a fallacy purported by rude people unable to keep their own counsel and constantly seeking conflict and drama, so as to make their high-expressed-emotion and rudeness the social norm, instead of finding a more mature ground of diplomacy, where people live and let live despite detesting aspects of one anothers' characters. If I cannot stand someone, I do not HAVE to tell them a damned thing. I owe them nothing and I have better things to do with my time than debate who is wrong/right. I may greatly enjoy slating them to a close friend or may offer my opinion if asked, but if they demand I demean myself by being rude and arguing as this is what they enjoy, they can **** right off.

Simples.

I'm not saying you need to tell someone every little thing you think about them to cause conflict.

Jasmine pointed out she could feel tension between them and asked him directly if she'd upset him or if he had any problem with her. His response was everything's fine and dandy, I love you etc etc. Then proceeded to slag her off whilst her back was turned. Which is very different and out of order.