[Ammi]

..I think the only thing he did wrong was to maybe not sandwich it a bit with pointing out some of the things he liked about her personality and he must like and see some good stuff as he's chosen to be part of that group..?...to me, Pav is what Helen needs in a friend but she also needs someone like Ash as well so if you could combine and blend Pav and Ash into one person the a Pavash would be perfect for what I think a true friend would give her...would she like all of that friend..?..no because they would be also telling her things that she doesn't want to hear but they would be things that she should hear and she should think about and that would make her a better person if she heeded them..but hearing only negatives would be just as damaging to her as I think being an 'excuser' of her is, which is what others have been in the house..Ash is an excuser but he also sees the good in her and that she doesn't mean to always react like she does or say the things she does and that she's 'misunderstood'..she's not really misunderstood as such because she does project such negativity regardless of whether she means to or not..the 'intentions' stop being relevant when she creates the environments she creates...she needs friends like Ash but she also needs a balance to those friends who enable her and that's what Pav was trying to do and probably the most positive thing that anyone in the house has done with her but just maybe he could have 'cushioned' it a bit more..see, there is a time and a place for 'telling it how it is'.....but I admired what he did, I understood what he did..I wish that Helen hadn't shut him down because all she was focused on is someone not 'getting the better' of her but I think probably his timing was way off as well and timing is all important for people to 'receive' information and absorb it and while she was upset, that wasn't the best....I hope when she leaves the house, she finds a Pavash and then maybe she'll start to understand the balances of life more and with that she'll see that the world is not there to fight....