[Ammi]

...I know someone who has 3 children, her husband took a new job in a different area of the country...she was fully supportive of him and that he wanted to take this job even though it would mean leaving her local living family/friends etc and the children leaving their friends ..anyway, just hard for her/and the children to settle into a new area and not knowing anyone etc..her husband didn't feel it so much because he was at work long hours and loved his new job...only a few months after they moved..(Christmas Day it was actually...)...he told her that he was leaving her/had met someone at work and was going to be with her.../so there she was on her own/a single mum with 3 children and most likely be classed as 'poor'...well even if it was 'specific circumstances' and she was exempt and others like her were exempt as it were because it only applied to those becoming pregnant when they have no job or whatever..?..who would know that/how would that be judged and how elitist that would make it all... oh they must be 'rich' because they have 3 children...oh they must be 'poor' because they only have 2..it just creates an instant judgement of people....and what's the amount of earnings that makes 'poor' and what's the earnings that make 'not poor'...who decides and yeah, really poor people on many levels if they can't quite get to that earning line of being not poor/the pressure on them not to have that 'stigma' as some will see it...and what happens if that 'poor' family have a third child anyway...wow, I look not poor now and awww, that's lovely I won't be judged anymore it was worth having that third child and stretching the budget even further and being more 'poor' in doing it....but then oh bugger...the government just fined me for having that third child...is that what would happen..?...there would be a fine instilled on poor people to make them poorer because they went and got another baby by gum...the government as we know are great supporters of the fine and cashing in on those very vulnerable and on low incomes...oh they took their holiday in term time because they couldn't afford peak time, fine the buggers obviously...oh they're homeless and very untidy sitting around all day, fine the buggers obviously...I mean this is just so elitist a concept and a further demonisation for those who struggle enough anyway and are often judged anyway...to officially decide who would be classed as 'poor' for the purposes of having a family and how big a family allowed....