[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I'm not sure you can legally marry your imaginary girlfriend, Truth .

Do you know what I was just about to post that it's all a fantasy..high fives TS

[the truth]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Do you know what I was just about to post that it's all a fantasy..high fives TS

yea but she still wants half the house

[Withano]

If I loved somebody, I'd be fine with sharing everything I have with them, if I believe that they loved me, I'd be fine with them having that.
It sounds to me that you either don't love her, or dont trust her to love you. So in summary, you just are moving too fast.

[jaxie]

Tell her it's the modern way and as a dynamic couple a pre up is essential in case you end up like Brangelina.

[the truth]

my apologies this isnt a pre nup this is a contract to share the house we buy

[the truth]

Originally Posted by Withano

If I loved somebody, I'd be fine with sharing everything I have with them, if I believe that they loved me, I'd be fine with them having that.
It sounds to me that you either don't love her, or dont trust her to love you. So in summary, you just are moving too fast.

hmmm maybe too fast

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by the truth

yea but she still wants half the house

Half of nothing, is nothing!

Your username is the truth!, you will be called another name if you keep making threads like this one.

[Brother Leon]

[jennyjuniper]

Originally Posted by the truth

without making it sound like you dont trust them???

Say that you have been burned in the past and that is why you want a pre-nup. If they refuse don't marry them!! You say it makes it sound as if you don't trust them, but you don't do you? Rightle so I might add. People can be devious and when the chips are down they can be downright malicious. So if you have any assets worth protecting, then do so.

[jennyjuniper]

Originally Posted by the truth

shes not happy ....she says I dont trust her and would I be doing 50% of the housework...Ill be doing 100% of paying the bills I know that for sure

I have to ask Truth...WHY ARE YOU MARRYING HER? It certainly doesn't sound like a match made in heaven from this end anyway. If it's the same woman who ripped you off before, donm't marry her, don't buy a house with her and never leave your valuables laying around. Good Luck, because it sounds as though you are going to need it.

[jennyjuniper]

Originally Posted by the truth

according to my solicitor , not if we buy a house and get a contract for shared ownership , the contract could apportion her 30% me 70% as thats what wed be paying in each

The solicitor says its water tight, Ill be paying most bills, she may chip in towards the shopping and shes a better cook too.

I just dont want to buy a house, spend Ł170,000 on a Ł230,000 house then 6 months later she may say, its over I want half. call me tight but why should I waste Ł55,000 ?

If you have a scenerio in your head where six months down the line it's over, then DON'T DO IT.

[the truth]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Half of nothing, is nothing!

Your username is the truth!, you will be called another name if you keep making threads like this one.

this is the truth

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by the truth

this is the truth

So... you just by complete coincidence, happened to meet and get involved with a woman who matches 100% of the bizarre and unrealistic preconceptions you have about women in general? There are only two realistic explanations here. Either you specifically sought out a woman like this in an extraordinary act of confirmation bias / self harm... OR you have invented a caricature of a woman based on your skewed perception of females.

I strongly suspect it's the latter. If it's the former, my advice is... stop allowing yourself to be abused and find a partner who loves you and who you love.

[the truth]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

So... you just by complete coincidence, happened to meet and get involved with a woman who matches 100% of the bizarre and unrealistic preconceptions you have about women in general? There are only two realistic explanations here. Either you specifically sought out a woman like this in an extraordinary act of confirmation bias / self harm... OR you have invented a caricature of a woman based on your skewed perception of females.

I strongly suspect it's the latter. If it's the former, my advice is... stop allowing yourself to be abused and find a partner who loves you and who you love.

Ive no idea what youre on about, this is whats happenning and this is the situation, if you choose to believe its all make believe good for you

as for everyone else, thanks for your constructive replies, tricky situation not sure what to do next tbh...blinking gorgous girl with some redeeming qualities despite the obvious drawbacks

[parmnion]

Just say if you want to spend all my money over our lifetime then sign this.

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by the truth

Ive no idea what youre on about, this is whats happenning and this is the situation, if you choose to believe its all make believe good for you

as for everyone else, thanks for your constructive replies, tricky situation not sure what to do next tbh...blinking gorgous girl with some redeeming qualities despite the obvious drawbacks

If this is real then you have some deeply unhealthy personal relationship issues and you need to get away from her permanently, and not consider entering into anything more than a very casual relationship with anyone until you have sorted through those issues.

I don't know what else to say on this one.

This is not usual. This is not what normal relationships look like. Maybe you really do think that this is what all women are like and so it's just something you have to work around? It's just NOT the truth, though. I get what your saying, she a hottie, she got dat gud gud, you don't want to give that up but... I personally say run and don't look back. You will meet someone eventually who you actually trust, and none of this will even be a consideration.

[smudgie]

Putting it bluntly, you would be better off keeping her as a sort of friends with benefits, maybe a weekend shag etc.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

If this is real then you have some deeply unhealthy personal relationship issues and you need to get away from her permanently, and not consider entering into anything more than a very casual relationship with anyone until you have sorted through those issues.

I don't know what else to say on this one.

This is not usual. This is not what normal relationships look like. Maybe you really do think that this is what all women are like and so it's just something you have to work around? It's just NOT the truth, though. I get what your saying, she a hottie, she got dat gud gud, you don't want to give that up but... I personally say run and don't look back. You will meet someone eventually who you actually trust, and none of this will even be a consideration.

Originally Posted by smudgie

Putting it bluntly, you would be better off keeping her as a sort of friends with benefits, maybe a weekend shag etc.

, made me laugh, its all good advice truth, it's easy for us as we are not emotionally involved but I don't see what the rush is to get married, you got the housing thing covered by your solicitor, slow down don't be railroaded into a wedding when you are unsure of her long term intentions

[Shaun]

the truth is ruining the sanctity of marriage

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Cherie

, made me laugh, its all good advice truth, it's easy for us as we are not emotionally involved but I don't see what the rush is to get married, you got the housing thing covered by your solicitor, slow down don't be railroaded into a wedding when you are unsure of her long term intentions

I think he clarified earlier that he's not actually thinking of marriage and its more about some sort of signed agreement when they move in together... But my opinion remains the same! If you have this level of distrust then it's time to slam on the breaks, hard. Either he has strange ideas about her intentions that aren't true, which would be a big problem... OR he is right to be wary of her and it's all accurate which is an even bigger problem.

[the truth]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I'm not sure you can legally marry your imaginary girlfriend, Truth .

so whats your answer toy soldier? do you know of anyone who has done this

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by the truth

so whats your answer toy soldier? do you know of anyone who has done this

I know of plenty of people who have done it. I don't personally know anyone who has. To be blunt... I simply can't think of anyone I know who would get so deeply involved with someone they didn't trust . It's a terrible idea.

[the truth]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I know of plenty of people who have done it. I don't personally know anyone who has. To be blunt... I simply can't think of anyone I know who would get so deeply involved with someone they didn't trust . It's a terrible idea.

what happened

[Josy]

A marriage without trust isn't going to work, don't waste your time and hers with attempting it.

[waterhog]

Originally Posted by the truth

without making it sound like you dont trust them???

I would do a poem to my partner

you can have all of my wealth
its only right we have a pre-nuptial
being with me is destroying your health
this is evidence that's not circumstantial.
and when I inherit
I will move to the village peak
sitting pretty at the top is the merit
our awful marriage will be my bitter leak.

: joker: