[the_stillness]

Originally posted by Ash
To me, being young represents freshness and innocence rather than beauty. Only certain people can keep that kind of aura intact. I've seen plenty of older men and women who are still handsome or beautiful - really, as you say, beauty is just in the eye of the beholder.

In relationships, spending a lot of time together can reveal many things about the partners and in turn create a stronger and more intense bond between them, regardless of looks. That's why relationships based on personalities as well as looks fare so well - you seem to need a balance of both to be happy in a relationship.

I'll certainly agree to most of that Ash. However - looks are very important to many people and even though you may be in a great relationship - as the years fly by, it is easy to get bored of one another and when boredom sets in and the arguments increase - which they sometimes do, then the balance between - disagreements, arguments and basically - [looking older] can certainly come into play when splitting up.

If a woman of 30 who has been out with a guy for 10 years and he is now 45 and age has withered him badly and he has certainly aged in those past 10 years, but his girlfriend is still very attractive - then there will be plenty of admirers - men much younger, fitter and more appealing to the eye. That becomes the temptation to wonder elsewhere - cheat and eventually end, what you once had