[Ammi]

..I think what I'm trying to say..(..badly..)..is that we wouldn't put labels on our children..like you're the smart one, you're the dumb one, you're the this one, you're the that one..some positive, some negative etc..labels are just not conducive in the context of discussions and communication...although they're an 'entitlement' all of us can use, they will hinder any moving forward that was hoped for...

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I think what I'm trying to say..(..badly..)..is that we wouldn't put labels on our children.

Oh I dunno - my 8 year old is actually HORRENDOUSLY racist . The difference, of course, is that she doesn't really know any better yet.

...she refused to get a book about a fairy from her school library because the fairy was black... ...

[DemolitionRed]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Oh I dunno - my 8 year old is actually HORRENDOUSLY racist . The difference, of course, is that she doesn't really know any better yet.

...she refused to get a book about a fairy from her school library because the fairy was black... ...

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Oh I dunno - my 8 year old is actually HORRENDOUSLY racist . The difference, of course, is that she doesn't really know any better yet.

...she refused to get a book about a fairy from her school library because the fairy was black... ...

.....that’s really interesting as well, which goes back to what you said about your ‘offence’ of derailment in topics, but you’ve branched out my thoughts again with that little thing..(I’m going to assume, yes that old assumption thing again...)...that in school/in her environment etc, she hasn’t experienced ethnicities very much yet...so she’s quite fixed in her lovely head of all the things that a fairy should be...so she can’t think of it as being a fairy if it doesn’t fit in with that...all very logical really...and that goes down the whole route as well of are there enough varied ethnic characters in children’s books/children’s TV etc to represent the wider world we live in in this moment in time...and characters representing sexualities as well...also physical appearances in terms of, are those fairies all very and too ‘perfect’ in their shape/in their facial structure etc, do they have to be physically beautiful fairies with what society would see as beautiful and what books are teaching children to define beautiful...because it’s obviously how fairies have been represented to her that’s the thing...anything other than that representation is just darn well not a fairy......and that little girl wants a fairy......obviously you’ll be a big part in expanding her world of fairies, but in doing that you’ll be listening to her first in understanding what it is about specific fairy representatives she’s not comfortable with and having all of those chats together, as opposed to just labelling her a fairy hater and no she must stop thinking like that...YOU’RE NOT ENTITLED TO LITTLE MISSY TS..!!!..which will only ever hinder her thoughts and feelings from being expanded...you’ve sent my own thoughts off again, TS, which is something you do very often I have to say...you have a great day with that little fairy lady of yours...

[Ammi]

..or as Dezzy said, maybe you are raising little white supremists up there in Scotland......