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Vicky. · 26-04-2011, 04:27 PM

Depends on the circumstances.

If they were together a month or whatever and it wasnt serious then yeah probably.

If they had been together for years and were madly in love or something then probably not.

Then again, never really been in that situation. If I loved the person it would probably change everything :/

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy

If you so willingly throw away friendships because you don't like who your friend is going out with then you won't have many in the long run. What I mean by projecting is that your putting all your suspicion and paranoia on them to taint what they have for no reason other then jealousy. It's just very childish I think.

Well they would not be a friend cause they where so willing to start Shagging my ex, Hence I would willingly throw away that "friend" in the gutter. If I would not do it to them then they should not to me. A friend should respect my wishes and I have made it clear that I would not want any of my friends to go out with them. I would not Fake a lie and say "I am okay with it" because I am not okay with it.

Vicky. · 26-04-2011, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr XcX

Well they would not be a friend cause they where so willing to start Shagging my ex, Hence I would willingly throw away that "friend" in the gutter. If I would not do it to them then they should not to me. A friend should respect my wishes and I have made it clear that I would not want any of my friends to go out with them. I would not Fake a lie and say "I am okay with it" because I am not okay with it.

You could throw that the other way and say that you, as a friend, should not be demanding that your friend does/does not do things.

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Vicky.

Depends on the circumstances.

If they were together a month or whatever and it wasnt serious then yeah probably.

If they had been together for years and were madly in love or something then probably not.

Then again, never really been in that situation. If I loved the person it would probably change everything :/

If the person who had split up had their heart broken then you would not be a friend as like you said you would be rubbing their past in their face, possibly break their heart again as they thought you where their friend. Therefore there is nothing childish about not wanting your friend to date your ex.

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Vicky.

You could throw that the other way and say that you, as a friend, should not be demanding that your friend does/does not do things.

Well they would be free to do what they like. However, they would know that as for me an individual. I would not be happy with it. If they asked me, I would tell them straight up. I would not lie and say it is okay.

I am not being selfish but IMO if they did this they would not be a friend.

Mystic Mock · 26-04-2011, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr XcX

Well they would not be a friend cause they where so willing to start Shagging my ex, Hence I would willingly throw away that "friend" in the gutter. If I would not do it to them then they should not to me. A friend should respect my wishes and I have made it clear that I would not want any of my friends to go out with them. I would not Fake a lie and say "I am okay with it" because I am not okay with it.

Is this some personal issues your letting out here Mr XCX?

Tom4784 · 26-04-2011, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr XcX

Well they would not be a friend cause they where so willing to start Shagging my ex, Hence I would willingly throw away that "friend" in the gutter. If I would not do it to them then they should not to me. A friend should respect my wishes and I have made it clear that I would not want any of my friends to go out with them. I would not Fake a lie and say "I am okay with it" because I am not okay with it.

Friendship is a two way street, If you constantly gave me ultimatums then I'd not bother with you. If you were a true friend you'd see that they were happy and be happy for them. It's just being highly strung and immature to let a past relationship ruin what you have with your friends,

People like who they like, It's cruel to get in the way of that just because you haven't moved on yet.

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by jedward fever

Is this some personal issues your letting out here Mr XCX?

No, Thankfully I have very good friends.

This is just my point of view.

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy

Friendship is a two way street, If you constantly gave me ultimatums then I'd not bother with you. If you were a true friend you'd see that they were happy and be happy for them. It's just being highly strung and immature to let a past relationship ruin what you have with your friends,

People like who they like, It's cruel to get in the way of that just because you haven't moved on yet.

Sorry but I think you are wrong.

You expect people to sit through weddings they could have had. No. The friendship is a two way street yet I do not go around sleeping with their ex's yet they can with mine. It is not cruel. Doing this IMO is bad of the friend and would end the friendship.

Mystic Mock · 26-04-2011, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr XcX

No, Thankfully I have very good friends.

This is just my point of view.

Ok I was just wondering.

Tom4784 · 26-04-2011, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr XcX

Sorry but I think you are wrong.

You expect people to sit through weddings they could have had. No. The friendship is a two way street yet I do not go around sleeping with their ex's yet they can with mine. It is not cruel. Doing this IMO is bad of the friend and would end the friendship.

It's not wrong to be emotionally mature. The fact is you'd be ruining two people's chance at happiness because you are pissed off about the past and that ain't right. If I had a friend like that I'd be counting my blessings that they'd end the friendship. Obsessing over a past relationship to the point you'd fall out with the people closest to you is extremely unhealthy.

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Dezzy

It's not wrong to be emotionally mature. The fact is you'd be ruining two people's chance at happiness because you are pissed off about the past and that ain't right. If I had a friend like that I'd be counting my blessings that they'd end the friendship. Obsessing over a past relationship to the point you'd fall out with the people closest to you is extremely unhealthy.

Well I disagree.

Stacey. · 26-04-2011, 04:48 PM

Yes...

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 04:53 PM

Anyway I would never date my friends ex because I would respect my friend enough not to go there. I would not want to risk losing my friendship. I certainly would not be comfortable with it. Yet some people on here seem to be.

Mystic Mock · 26-04-2011, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr XcX

Anyway I would never date my friends ex because I would respect my friend enough not to go there. I would not want to risk losing my friendship. I certainly would not be comfortable with it. Yet some people on here seem to be.

Some of them have probably already gone out with there mates ex partner thats why.

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by jedward fever

Some of them have probably already gone out with there mates ex partner thats why.

lol, probably. Thats why I keep getting attacked for saying why this is wrong.

Boothy · 26-04-2011, 05:06 PM

No. I'd never feel comfortable being with my mates ex. It's just a no-go zone. I wouldn't even mind if they said they were okay with it, it's a respect thing IMO. Also, there would be comparisons made between you and your mate on both an emotional and physical level and that's something which I wouldn't even want to get involved in.

Too many complications for my liking.

'Conor · 26-04-2011, 05:09 PM

Yes.

If your friend is completley over him/her and has moved on, then whats the problem?

Josy · 26-04-2011, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr XcX

lol, probably. Thats why I keep getting attacked for saying why this is wrong.

No one is attacking you, they just dont have the same opinion as you.

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Boothy

No. I'd never feel comfortable being with my mates ex. It's just a no-go zone. I wouldn't even mind if they said they were okay with it, it's a respect thing IMO. Also, there would be comparisons made between you and your mate on both an emotional and physical level and that's something which I wouldn't even want to get involved in.

Too many complications for my liking.

Thank you.

I do believe the poll has been rigged. I am shocked Y'all are saying yes.

joeysteele · 26-04-2011, 05:15 PM

If I really valued the friendship of my Friend then I think I would steer clear of their exes.Some things like Friendship go on for life and in bad times having your friends there is what gets you through.
I wouldn't risk losing a good friendship for this.

Jordan. · 26-04-2011, 05:17 PM

No, too weird.

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by joeysteele

If I really valued the friendship of my Friend then I think I would steer clear of their exes.Some things like Friendship go on for life and in bad times having your friends there is what gets you through.
I wouldn't risk losing a good friendship for this.

Thank you

Mr XcX · 26-04-2011, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Jordan.

No, too weird.

I agree.

'Conor · 26-04-2011, 05:19 PM

well i no i said yes above, but if the ex was just a recent ex and i wasnt 100% sure my friend was okay with it then i wouldnt go near his/her ex.

But, if my friend has moved on, been going out with someone for years and was in love with him/her and i started to get feelings for an ex boyfriend/girlfriend my friend used to date, and my friend was 100% okay with it, then i 100% would date my friends ex.

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