[arista]

"I'm not looking to have an on-going relationship with the kid, I just want to make this gesture because I disappeared suddenly from her life.

My ex, as they always do, will have the last say on this. "

Well then it should be fine to go ahead with,
good luck

[the truth]

Originally Posted by Jesus.H.Christ

So I was seeing this girl, and we were pretty serious. We'd talked about moving in and stuff, but things didn't work out in the end.

She has a daughter, who changed my world. She is an amazing little girl, bright as a button, but feisty to boot. We were inseparable when I was over at her house, and we were always doing activities and stuff.

I'd bought her Christmas presents a couple of months ago because I knew what she wanted - she loved messing with my piano, so that's what I'd got her. Now, it really isn't appropriate for me to be buying her piano's as I don't see her anymore, and I've split up with her mom. But I'd bought her a couple of tops as fillers, that will look really cute on her.

I haven't spoken to my ex for a couple of months, and I have no intention to either. I'm not using this as a way to make contact or any reason like that, but I'd really like to give the little one her smaller presents.

My ex's parents really liked me, so I was thinking of just popping them over there for her, so I don't have to have any dealings with my ex.

I guess I'm looking for people to help me rationalise this. If it was my daughter, then I'd like to be contacted first about an ex giving her a present, but we parted on such bad terms that there is no way she'd agree to it.

I'd hate for her to think, that I suddenly just stopped going round and I don't care for her anymore, when that's not true. My heart just bursts when I think about her little face.

So, peoples, whaddya reckon?

Yes Id still give the present. How long were you together>?

Update

I've just got back in from taking it over to her parents. The little one was asleep on the sofa, which broke my heart all over again, so I beat a fairly hasty retreat before she woke up.

Her mum said was it was a really lovely gesture, and she would personally see that she was allowed to have it. I said "If ***** doesn't want her to have it, then let me know and I'll come and collect it". But she insisted that the little one would receive the presents.

I'm so happy about that. Feels like I can close that chapter on my life knowing I did the right thing.

[Ammi]

...haha....I'm so happy for you JHC..they'll mean so much to her as well...it's a lovely thoughtful thing for you to do....

[AnnieK]

Glad it all worked out or you....it really is a lovely gesture.