Originally Posted by triplexxxmas

thats your choice,but i think its not fair to involve the parents even tho they liked you!,they will always take their daughter's side.

I'm not asking them to take my side. I've bought their grandaughter a gift. I'm asking nothing in return other for them to pass this on if their daughter deems it appropriate. I don't wish for them to take my side, I just wish for them to explain to their daughter, that their grand daughter doesn't have to be caught in the middle of what happened between us.

That's it. No more, no less. She has 2 tops, both of which combined cost just over £20 combined. So no one can misconstrue my intentions.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Jesus.H.Christ

I'm not asking them to take my side. I've bought their grandaughter a gift. I'm asking nothing in return other for them to pass this on if their daughter deems it appropriate. I don't wish for them to take my side, I just wish for them to explain to their daughter, that their grand daughter doesn't have to be caught in the middle of what happened between us.

That's it. No more, no less. She has 2 tops, both of which combined cost just over £20 combined. So no one can misconstrue my intentions.

you talk about the grand daughter not being caught in the middle but thats exactly where she will be in the middle by you giving your gift.
at least your not in the position like many father's who can even see their own daughter's.

[bbfan1991]

Take it to them, your heart is in the right place and just explain that you want the present passed on for the child to enjoy.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Jesus.H.Christ

I'm going to do it either tomorrow or Monday night. I will report back on anything that happens from here. Good, or most likely, terribly awful.

I really hope not, it is an honest heartfelt gesture jesus.
Lets pray (lol) they see this has no ulterior motive just a goodbye gift, it must be so very hard

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by Jesus.H.Christ

I'm going to do it either tomorrow or Monday night. I will report back on anything that happens from here. Good, or most likely, terribly awful.

Good luck with it, what will be will be but at least you have tried...

[arista]

"I'm not looking to have an on-going relationship with the kid, I just want to make this gesture because I disappeared suddenly from her life.

My ex, as they always do, will have the last say on this. "

Well then it should be fine to go ahead with,
good luck

[the truth]

Originally Posted by Jesus.H.Christ

So I was seeing this girl, and we were pretty serious. We'd talked about moving in and stuff, but things didn't work out in the end.

She has a daughter, who changed my world. She is an amazing little girl, bright as a button, but feisty to boot. We were inseparable when I was over at her house, and we were always doing activities and stuff.

I'd bought her Christmas presents a couple of months ago because I knew what she wanted - she loved messing with my piano, so that's what I'd got her. Now, it really isn't appropriate for me to be buying her piano's as I don't see her anymore, and I've split up with her mom. But I'd bought her a couple of tops as fillers, that will look really cute on her.

I haven't spoken to my ex for a couple of months, and I have no intention to either. I'm not using this as a way to make contact or any reason like that, but I'd really like to give the little one her smaller presents.

My ex's parents really liked me, so I was thinking of just popping them over there for her, so I don't have to have any dealings with my ex.

I guess I'm looking for people to help me rationalise this. If it was my daughter, then I'd like to be contacted first about an ex giving her a present, but we parted on such bad terms that there is no way she'd agree to it.

I'd hate for her to think, that I suddenly just stopped going round and I don't care for her anymore, when that's not true. My heart just bursts when I think about her little face.

So, peoples, whaddya reckon?

Yes Id still give the present. How long were you together>?

Update

I've just got back in from taking it over to her parents. The little one was asleep on the sofa, which broke my heart all over again, so I beat a fairly hasty retreat before she woke up.

Her mum said was it was a really lovely gesture, and she would personally see that she was allowed to have it. I said "If ***** doesn't want her to have it, then let me know and I'll come and collect it". But she insisted that the little one would receive the presents.

I'm so happy about that. Feels like I can close that chapter on my life knowing I did the right thing.

[Ammi]

...haha....I'm so happy for you JHC..they'll mean so much to her as well...it's a lovely thoughtful thing for you to do....

[AnnieK]

Glad it all worked out or you....it really is a lovely gesture.