[Z]

It comes across though that the family knew about the relationship for a long time... so why did none of them report it at the time? Telling them to stay away from her until she turned 21 etc... so to me that's why it comes across like a revenge thing, the girl has decided to go to the police about the relationship after it ended.

[Ammi]

..her parents must have found out about it at some point during the relationship but she promised that it had ended until she was 21yrs and they obviously must have believed it had...

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Jack_

well this is obviously disgusting but wtf, you have a five year relationship and then when you finally decide it's over you shop her to the police? That's messed up

She was a child abused by an adult, not just any adult but her teacher, someone who's supposed to be responsible and looking after her best interests.

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

She was a child abused by an adult, not just any adult but her teacher, someone who's supposed to be responsible and looking after her best interests.

Well yes...I gathered that and it's obviously repulsive but she continues a relationship with her for five years and then when she ends it she decides to go to the police? I accept other arguments put forward in this thread now but my initial point was that, like...why wait so long? And her age is not an excuse either since a 14 year old knows exactly that what the teacher was doing was illegal, if she'd been like 10 then yeah okay you might have an excuse but this is hardly a case of being groomed, she entered into an illegal relationship willingly and then reported it after five years when she finally decided it was over (aged 19, that's not young), that was the point I was making

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Jack_

Well yes...I gathered that and it's obviously repulsive but she continues a relationship with her for five years and then when she ends it she decides to go to the police? I accept other arguments put forward in this thread now but my initial point was that, like...why wait so long? And her age is not an excuse either since a 14 year old knows exactly that what the teacher was doing was illegal, if she'd been like 10 then yeah okay you might have an excuse but this is hardly a case of being groomed, she entered into an illegal relationship willingly and then reported it after five years when she finally decided it was over (aged 19, that's not young), that was the point I was making

I just don't think a 14 year old can make rational decisions like that especially stuff about sex etc. What the teacher probably did was make her leap into a sexual relationship alot faster than if the girl was sticking with other teenagers who were doing the same, an adult shouldn't do that to someone who's just hit puberty, it's not fair and it's taking away their innocence and natural rate of sexual progression. Maybe she didn't realise what this women had done to her and taken away from her until she was a bit older and wiser? (and I don't mean that to sound patronizing Jack, just that obviously you learn more as you get older and sometimes decisions you think were great when you're 14, don't look so good at 19) The teacher probably had a lot of sway over her while she was that young, especially an abusive adult like that teacher, i don't think the victim should be vilified for reporting her, no matter how much time has passed tbh