[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ellen

Each to their own. Nothing wrong with your grown up kids living with you until they get married/move in with someone or can afford somewhere of their own but i do think parents should live their own lives & not pander to adult kids. Have rules in that they will pay rent, cook,clean,wash, iron & shop, if not they are out.

Absolutely.

[Scarlett.]

Originally Posted by Ellen

Each to their own. Nothing wrong with your grown up kids living with you until they get married/move in with someone or can afford somewhere of their own but i do think parents should live their own lives & not pander to adult kids. Have rules in that they will pay rent, cook,clean,wash, iron & shop, if not they are out.

I agree totally, I think people who stay at their parents homes for free and just lay about are useless, but at the same time, its up to the parent to let them know that they should be making themselves useful.

[Ammi]

..it's really hard for young people to be able to afford to buy their own house, it's just so expensive ..both my sons still live with us, although we don't see them that much because they also spend a lot of time at their girlfriend's houses..I'm happy with them living here and know that they've both saved so that they can afford to buy their own house, which my eldest son and his girlfriend will be doing this year...

[Marsh.]

Of course it's always going to be expensive to move out but until you have money to be able to afford it there's nowhere to go but the streets.

If someone's staying at home purely to hang onto their parents for longer, free room, no bills, so they can save all their money for piss ups etc then they need a kick up the backside but if you're paying rent, contributing to bills and housework I don't see the problem especially if you've just graduated and need a little time to get settled in a job.

As the article says if living with parents is all part of "an extended adolescence" then there may be a problem if you're hitting 30 but purely just living with your parents isn't proof of that and there could be all kinds of reasons.

[Z]

I'll be moving back in with my parents later this year and I'm 22; I'll need time to get a full time job, start earning proper wages and save up.

[Roy Mars III]

kick the bum out

anyone who lives with their parents past 25

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Roy Mars III

kick the bum out

anyone who lives with their parents past 25

It's not as clear-cut as that, though. There may be many reasons why that happens (not least our current economic climate). Not everyone of a certain age is living with their parents because they can't be arsed paying bills.

[Z]

My childhood best friend and his older brother both still live at home and I think are examples of kids who need to get a grip and take some responsibility. The older brother left school and has just worked a variety of jobs and been fired from them all because he's got some sleep problems (he can't wake up unless somebody else physically shakes him, he takes his work holidays when his parents go abroad because he knows he'll sleep in...) and my friend dropped out of uni and just works in a shop and goes out all the time, spends lots of money on his girlfriend that he can't really afford to (he bought her a handbag that cost a three figure sum and they weren't even going out yet, she broke it off with him but they eventually started going out...) and neither of them can drive... they just live at home and don't seem to think about the future and my mum's forever talking about how ridiculous she thinks it is that they don't show any signs of ever wanting to leave; whereas I've gone to uni away from home, have always had part time jobs at uni and often full time work when I'm at home over the summer and have been taught that it's wrong to be idle and not try and support yourself. I'll be moving back in when I'm 22 almost 23 but I'll be looking to be in full time work as soon as possible and just start saving up to move out. It will take a while. I'll probably be 25 before I can move out; but I don't think I'm in the same category as someone who's never left home and has never shown any sign of wanting to.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Zee

My childhood best friend and his older brother both still live at home and I think are examples of kids who need to get a grip and take some responsibility. The older brother left school and has just worked a variety of jobs and been fired from them all because he's got some sleep problems (he can't wake up unless somebody else physically shakes him, he takes his work holidays when his parents go abroad because he knows he'll sleep in...) and my friend dropped out of uni and just works in a shop and goes out all the time, spends lots of money on his girlfriend that he can't really afford to (he bought her a handbag that cost a three figure sum and they weren't even going out yet, she broke it off with him but they eventually started going out...) and neither of them can drive... they just live at home and don't seem to think about the future and my mum's forever talking about how ridiculous she thinks it is that they don't show any signs of ever wanting to leave; whereas I've gone to uni away from home, have always had part time jobs at uni and often full time work when I'm at home over the summer and have been taught that it's wrong to be idle and not try and support yourself. I'll be moving back in when I'm 22 almost 23 but I'll be looking to be in full time work as soon as possible and just start saving up to move out. It will take a while. I'll probably be 25 before I can move out; but I don't think I'm in the same category as someone who's never left home and has never shown any sign of wanting to.

..I think that's the thing though, everyone is different/has different plans and hopes for their future etc...and there are lots of reasons why 'children' in general sometimes live with their parents a bit longer these days...they often do want their independence and are more than ready to move out and the parents want that for them as well because they know that's what their children want and need...but for my boys, they do earn quite good money and they do save etc and probably could have moved out and rented something quite a while ago but they both have always wanted to be able to buy their own house, rather than rent and saving a deposit that is required to do that is not the easiest thing and takes time...I'm full of respect at how focused they've both been and really excited that for my oldest son, he's about to experience the feeling of the results of all the sacrifices of other things he has made....

[AnnieK]

I wish I still lived with my parents

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

I wish I still lived with my parents

..aww, really..?...do you not like being independent..a 'grown up'..?...

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..aww, really..?...do you not like being independent..a 'grown up'..?...

No it's for purely nostalgic reasons...that living at home and not worrying about the mortgage, bills, what to make for dinner was blissful I'm just being lazy and selfish but I loved being at home. My parents would, I am sure disagree

[lostalex]

I totally understand how he feels. I have this exact situation happening in The Sims right now. trying desperately to find them wives so they can G T F O.