[user104658]

Originally Posted by Daniel_

I had Princess Magazine on monthly subscription when I was a kid and I used to dance to Spice Girls and my mum was shocked when I came out like seriously

To be fair, a friend of the family's son when I was younger was obsessed with dressing up as a fairy / princess and putting on girly American voices whenever he was playing... and as an adult he's straight as an arrow. Everyone including his mum was shocked when he DIDN'T come out and instead started bringing home girls

[user104658]

One of my best friends is gay, came out when he was 19, but it had been pretty obvious since he was about... 9 or 10 I'd say. We had all been telling him that we knew he was gay from about the age of 15, and when he did come out it was probably the least shocking revelation in history.

On the other hand - there was a guy from the US in my University halls in first year on an exchange year, recently seen posts from him about hot guys / boyfriends / how being gay means you avoid the hassles of straight relationships (haha). None of us from Uni had any idea at all. I don't know if he was already out "at home" that year and for whatever reason decided not to tell us, or if he only came out later. But yeah, there was nothing "stereotypically gay" about him at all, other than the fact that he made a lot of female friends and yet always insisted that nothing was going on with any of them when asked... now we know why that was true .


So yeah. I think it depends on the person. Some gay men have obvious effeminate qualities and I think when that's the case, those tend to be quite obvious from a young age. Others are "manly" but just like men, and then it's not going to be obvious at all.

[Z]

I knew I was different from a young age and it was only when I became a teenager I really understood why. A few people have said to me they always knew I was gay, my sister in law said she knew when she first met me and I'd have been about 10 years old

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Yes. Like Romeo Beckham.

[Anaesthesia]

I genuinely thought my son would grow up to be gay. He always insisted on touching fabrics before he would wear them, from about the age of 4. He would always have to match his colours, wanted to wear face creams to protect his skin, needed to make sure "this" went with "that". He loved to wear my skirts and shoes.

He's not though, he's completely het, even though he does still insist on having his eyebrows plucked every fortnight

Probably more my preconception of campness and how / if it actually relates to homosexuality though, than anything.