[Amy Jade]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

It will help you in the long run. When you have your own kids one day they will leech everything off of you.

I don't 'leech' off my mum

[Glenn.]

Originally Posted by Black Xmas

I don't 'leech' off my mum

You pay £50 a month. At your age I paid quadruple that.

You wouldn't survive on your own, on £50 a month.

[Will.]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

You pay £50 a month. At your age I paid quadruple that.

You wouldn't survive on your own, on £50 a month.

She's only 17, not 27

[Amy Jade]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

You pay £50 a month. At your age I paid quadruple that.

You wouldn't survive on your own, on £50 a month.

I would be willing to pay more to live here, that's not the issue it's paying for something she gives to others for absolutely free but I figure your here just to bag on me anyway rather than be constructive.

[Jamie89]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

It will help you in the long run. When you have your own kids one day they will leech everything off of you.

It's a good point actually, like with your neighbour, your mum just probably thinks she's doing a nice thing (even though I think it's a bit much personally) but with you, she's probably just trying to teach you the value of things, and paying your way etc. She has that responsibility towards you, but not your neighbour. So her intentions probably aren't bad, because in her mind she might think she's helping you, even though it doesn't seem like it

[Ammi]

...t'is the season to be worry..I don't know Amy, maybe your mum is feeling some financial stresses particularly atm with Christmas and the expense of it, so it's something that she's said to you without thinking your side of it so much..parents do that sometimes, the same way as their children do, we all act and react because of our stress levels etc...the good thing is that you're coming up to a time when you'll have some time away from work etc together, a more chilled and relaxed time, so you can both talk about it and you can explain how you contributing more would be such a struggle for you, with all of the other things that you're committed to financially..I know that she'll know that already when she thinks about it more deeply but could probably just be so worried, herself atm...I think when you both sit down and talk together, you'll figure it out but I think your reaction atm is one that many would have but obviously you both need to understand each other now, each one's financial pressure etc...and Christmas time/holiday time is a good time to do that....

...you can also explain why you think that giving the password to a neighbour is really not a good idea at all, children are often so much more internet etc savvy than their parents...I'm sure that she thought she was doing a kind thing and maybe for someone else who she felt may be struggling..?...sounds like a sweet and kind mum to me, even if it isn't such a clever idea...and I know that she has a sweet and lovely daughter as well so you two will figure it out together......

[smudgie]

Surely if is against the law for neighbours to se your internet, all a bit silly, what if they download porn or even worse child porn?
As to you paying £50 a month, good on you AJ, you are still at college and your part time job could be for your treats and towards clothes.
I suppose really it is down to you and your mum to have a chat and come to some mutual agreement, good luck.

[Daniel-X]

I completely see your point Amy. I too would be really annoyed if my mum wanted to make me pay for Internet but was handing out the wifi passwords to the neighbours. You already pay your way as you stated. I would talk to her about it maybe tell her your not willing to pay your share of the internet bill if the neighbours have access?

[Glenn.]

I just think it's kinda bratty to be whinging about bills when you have it pretty good

[Daniel-X]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

I just think it's kinda bratty to be whinging about bills when you have it pretty good

She's 17 and works part time at a retailing job. I don't get how Amy is being bratty in any way, shape or form.

[Glenn.]

I wouldn't dream of questioning my parents on bill matters.

[Cal.]

Would never slag my mam off for anything especially to people on this forum. She knows best!

[LukeB]

i'm sure you would say something if your neighbour or someone was using your internet for free while you have to pay for it..

[Glenn.]

Originally Posted by SantaPooh

i'm sure you would say something if your neighbour or someone was using your internet for free while you have to pay for it..

Not if I'm only paying £50 a month I wouldn't. Call me old fashioned but I have some respect for my parents. They afterall put a roof over my head, fed and clothed me. I wouldn't moan about having to pay for internet regardless of who was using it.

[LukeB]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

Not if I'm only paying £50 a month I wouldn't. Call me old fashioned but I have some respect for my parents. They afterall put a roof over my head, fed and clothed me. I wouldn't moan about having to pay for internet regardless of who was using it.

£50 is reasonable for a 17 year old college student, i'm sure Amy respects her parents, she's just annoyed that she has to pay and the person who doesn't live there gets to use it for free. I think anyone else would be annoyed by that as well

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

Not if I'm only paying £50 a month I wouldn't. Call me old fashioned but I have some respect for my parents. They afterall put a roof over my head, fed and clothed me. I wouldn't moan about having to pay for internet regardless of who was using it.

Nothing in this thread even slightly suggests Amy doesn't have respect for her parents.

[Glenn.]

Originally Posted by Frostie!

Nothing in this thread even slightly suggests Amy doesn't have respect for her parents.

Except coming onto public forum 'frustrated' because her mum has asked her to pay half of the internet.

But like I said in an earlier post, something that has conveniently been ignored because when I post, people nitpick. Once you start paying towards it, talk to your mum and tell her you're not comfortable paying for it, if the neighbours are leeching off of it. At the minute you don't have a say because, well, you don't contribute towards it.

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

Except coming onto public forum 'frustrated' because her mum has asked her to pay half of the internet
.

If everyone who ever took issue with their parents over something was deemed as having no respect for them then we'd all pretty much be in that boat I'd wager.

And I have very little doubt most people would be frustrated being expected to pay for something that people outside of the family are getting access to for free. It really doesn't sound that unreasonable. People need to stop acting like she's not contributing or pulling her weight whatsoever when she indeed is, and from the sounds of it a lot more than plenty of others her age might be.

[Cal.]

Maybe to my mam yes but I wouldn't invite a load of strangers online to join in with me to slag her off.

[LukeB]

Originally Posted by Beyonsleigh

Maybe to my mam yes but I wouldn't invite a load of strangers online to join in with me to slag her off.

no not you it was directed at glenn

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Beyonsleigh

Maybe to my mam yes but I wouldn't invite a load of strangers online to join in with me to slag her off.

Oh come on she isn't slagging her mum off at all she's just feeling a bit frustrated and wanted to talk to others about it, like many others on here do.

[Benjamin]

I could probably do with being put in private chat

[Amy Jade]

If you were paying £200 to your mum 10 years ago while in full time education and getting paid under minimum wage for 17 hours a week work then wow

[Glenn.]

Originally Posted by Black Xmas

If you were paying £200 to your mum 10 years ago while in full time education and getting paid under minimum wage for 17 hours a week work then wow

I wasn't in full time education 10yrs ago. I left school at 16 and walked straight into a job.

[Amy Jade]

Originally Posted by Good King Glennceslas

I wasn't in full time education 10yrs ago. I left school at 16 and walked straight into a job.

I am trying to get the skills I need to do a nursing course, should I give that up so I can go full time in retail?