[user104658]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

hahahaha that's actually pretty brilliant

That fateful day when she said "Daddy... I know you're just making that up..."

busted.

[Northern Monkey]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

My daughter is a 6-year-old teenager, she drives me insane half the time and I'd be lying if I said I've never raised my voice... but, it just makes her (quite rightly) even angrier, it doesn't work to stop her behaviour because (again, quite rightly...) she isn't in any way scared of me... she doesn't feel threatened, so it's just me being obnoxious.

Again, like I said, if another adult took it upon themselves to shout at me or raise their voice with me in the real world, they'd be swiftly told where to go. I don't see why the reaction should have to be any different for children. It does work both ways though; if she starts shouting at me I just tell her that I'm not listening and to **** off until she's calmed down, at which point I will listen .

When she was 3/4 I used to tell her that I couldn't understand shouting, it just sounded like loud noises, and pretend to look really confused. Gutted when that one stopped working, haha.

I'm gonna try that one.It might just work since i've never done it.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

That fateful day when she said "Daddy... I know you're just making that up..."

busted.

But yeah I agree with your other posts too, I want my kids to want to do the right thing because they understand why it's the right thing to do and they're also able to stop and put themselves in another persons shoes as well.

[Kizzy]

Typical new right attitude from dave there

[Vicky.]

I have tried everything I can think of with my kids and not one approach seems to get them to listen to whatever I'm saying.

Mind they are 1 and 3 so maybe a fair way to go yet.

[Kizzy]

Naw, enjoy them Vicky these are the super happy fun times x

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by jennyjuniper

If a child respects a grown up, then that adult showing disapointment in the childs actions should be a sufficient deterrant.
Having said that, I grew up in a time when caning at school or a clip round the ear out of school was acceptable and it certainly made me think twice about doing something I shouldn't.

I'm probably going to get slated for this, but a lot of society's problems and children doing what they please, stem from the breakdown of the family unit. When the Labour government (and all political parties since) made it not only possible, but desirable for single mothers to get free housing and benefits, justy for producing children, many of whom are unwanted, except as a financial incentive, then the rot set in.
Why should people work, strive, have ambition, make sacrifices and generally have society's best interests at heart, when it's so easy to shrug off ones responsibilities and let someone else pick up the tab?
Discipline and guidelines for the young are needed more than ever.

No slating from me Jenny,I have 3 young ones and if you let them they will ride rough shod over you,they need routine,boundries and discipline,you don't need to thrash them to get results, but a bit of hardship ever hurt, kids are like they are today as they know they can get away with anything and everything, the PC brigade to blame again.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Northern Monkey

Look after my kids for a week.You'll be shouting soon enough

[Kizzy]

Yep Chinese parenting, that's what we need to go with your draconian cuts....cheers for that.