[user104658]

All the gayz (and in fact... people of all orientations) I know have a mix of friends. But then, I *am* a straight male so maybe the ones who don't have mixed groups of friends are avoiding me .

But yeah: One of my oldest & best friends is gay and it's never been any sort of an issue. But then, I knew him for years before he came out (although it was not a surprise) and also I'm not exactly a "lad" . That said, another of our friends from school was a classic "lad's lad waaayyyy" and the two of them were basically bezzies from about age 18 - 22. Not seen him for years though, he went off the rails a bit .

[Cal.]

AAHHHHH when that HIV poz guy proposed to germyle live on call

[Wizard.]

Originally Posted by Cal.

AAHHHHH when that HIV poz guy proposed to germyle live on call

that's not nice

[Twosugars]

For me, the bigger issue than hostility was when I was single and some of my straight (and doable) male friends were so chilled out about it all that I started getting ideas. So started flirting until I realized I was barking up the wrong tree.

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Twosugars

For me, the bigger issue than hostility was when I was single and some of my straight (and doable) male friends were so chilled out about it all that I started getting ideas. So started flirting until I realized I was barking the wrong tree.

I’m so ugly this happens to me with gay guys

[Daniel.]

Remember the longest shower in history

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Daniel.

Remember the longest shower in history

Crab claws FLEW

[Daniel.]

To the straights

I used to have a friend like five years ago who qould randomly kiss me on nights out and walked me home holding hands etc who said he was comfortable but idk it seemed a bit much

I mean how comfortable is comfortable

[Smithy]

Originally Posted by Daniel.

To the straights

I used to have a friend like five years ago who qould randomly kiss me on nights out and walked me home holding hands etc who said he was comfortable but idk it seemed a bit much

I mean how comfortable is comfortable

Sounds like Marsh

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Smithy

Sounds like Marsh

Marshogyny only likes the D because he hates women and doesn't have any other choice when he wants to get his willy wet.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Smithy

Sounds like Marsh

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Daniel.

To the straights

I used to have a friend like five years ago who qould randomly kiss me on nights out and walked me home holding hands etc who said he was comfortable but idk it seemed a bit much

I mean how comfortable is comfortable

I would say he's likely bi or at least fancied giving it a go. I do know a guy that thought he'd try out "being bi" until it actually started going somewhere with one guy and then he was like "WAIT err I think I'm actually straight after all" and ran off.

And then he outed the guy to a load of people before he was ready. But that's another (horrible) story .

[Moniqua]

i'm at an all boys school so i'm cordial with a lot of str8's

my only close friend is gay however

[Twosugars]

Originally Posted by Moniqua

i'm at an all boys school so i'm cordial with a lot of str8's

my only close friend is gay however

how cordial?

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Twosugars

how cordial?

[Moniqua]

Originally Posted by Twosugars

how cordial?

cordial to the point when they inevitably say something problematic (happens a lot)

i've blacklisted HEAPS of str8's during lunchtime discussions including;

"i'M whItE BuT i caN StiLL saY tHe N wOrd"
"F*ggot this, and F*ggot that"
"Women are property"

deadass everybody bar the asians at my school have said some fooked up problematic shit at one point or other

[Elliot]

Originally Posted by Moniqua

cordial to the point when they inevitably say something problematic (happens a lot)

i've blacklisted HEAPS of str8's during lunchtime discussions including;

"i'M whItE BuT i caN StiLL saY tHe N wOrd"
"F*ggot this, and F*ggot that"
"Women are property"

deadass everybody bar the asians at my school have said some fooked up problematic shit at one point or other

Same. They used to joke about it in some classes too and never get told off or picked up on it either...

[Ant.]

When I fell out with my straight friend he started accusing me on having a crush on him which was always wild bc he knew I was dating someone so I just sorta huffed like "lmao guess the straights can't handle being friends with a gay guy!" and it was always a wild thing for him to believe given the fact we werent even affectionate at all. Like he'd see me snog a gal friend knowing full well it means nothing and me and him wouldn't even hug. someone accused him of homophobia like "just cuz Ant's gay doesn't mean he's crushing on you YA HOMOPHOBE!!" like thanks queen x

on the topic of homophobic abuse, i got called a ****** while i was out by a guy and I wanted to cry what a nasty het boy

[Tony Montana]

Originally Posted by Ant.

When I fell out with my straight friend he started accusing me on having a crush on him which was always wild bc he knew I was dating someone so I just sorta huffed like "lmao guess the straights can't handle being friends with a gay guy!" and it was always a wild thing for him to believe given the fact we werent even affectionate at all. Like he'd see me snog a gal friend knowing full well it means nothing and me and him wouldn't even hug. someone accused him of homophobia like "just cuz Ant's gay doesn't mean he's crushing on you YA HOMOPHOBE!!" like thanks queen x

on the topic of homophobic abuse, i got called a ****** while i was out by a guy and I wanted to cry what a nasty het boy

Should've kicked his ****ing head in Anthony!

[Ant.]

Originally Posted by Tony Montana

Should've kicked his ****ing head in Anthony!

I was gonna but my boyfriend already flipped him off and they got angry and I was like "we're in the middle of a retail park and he's wanting a response so I won't give him one" but I got home and I swear I was nearly crying which was dramatic bc I never get insecure about my sexuality

[Tony Montana]

Originally Posted by Ant.

I was gonna but my boyfriend already flipped him off and they got angry and I was like "we're in the middle of a retail park and he's wanting a response so I won't give him one" but I got home and I swear I was nearly crying which was dramatic bc I never get insecure about my sexuality

Aww I'm sorry to hear that That guy was probably a closeted gay himself and was attempting to impress his friends.

[Ant.]

Originally Posted by Tony Montana

Aww I'm sorry to hear that That guy was probably a closeted gay himself and was attempting to impress his friends.

It wouldn't surprise me there's this one homophobe I know who's camp as fook. Not trying to stereotype but I've seen twinks stroll in pickle park with less flamboyancy

[Ant.]

I remember being really upset bc on my second day of high school I got called gay and when a high school team I was in found out we would be going away one of the guys said to my face "ugh if we're sharing rooms I'm not sharing with Ant because... yknow" and like. We'd be in separate beds. He'd know if I tried to do anything. And I think he knew that I wouldn't do anything bc he was clearly saying it as a jab and not like a concern like "oh ant's gonna feel me up!!" like. ok. in fact on that trip a teacher (who was drunk) asked me if i was gay like. huh

[Oliver_W]

Maybe it's because I don't necessarily "seem" gay but it's never been an issue, to the point I don't even know why it would be, if that makes sense?

Originally Posted by Ant.

in fact on that trip a teacher (who was drunk) asked me if i was gay like. huh

tbh that's a safeguarding issue - adults who are responsible for kids shouldn't be drinking, and that's completely inappropriate to ask.
(I'm not throwing accusations around, but any other adult who heard that would be obligated to report it)

[Ant.]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

tbh that's a safeguarding issue - adults who are responsible for kids shouldn't be drinking, and that's completely inappropriate to ask.
(I'm not throwing accusations around, but any other adult who heard that would be obligated to report it)

There was another teacher with her they were the only teachers on the trip with us. I actually found it kinda funny.

We were all 14/15 and they told us to go find some restaurant to eat at and they both went to a pub to watch the football then we went back to the accommodation and she kept using gay as an insult so she turns to me like "Ant does that offend you? Are you... yknow?"