[thesheriff443]

I just offered a friend of mine some money because she is struggling at the moment but she won’t take it at the moment.

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

I just offered a friend of mine some money because she is struggling at the moment but she won’t take it at the moment.

Were you expecting it back?

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Redway

Were you expecting it back?

No I don’t want it back.

[user104658]

Lending is a bad idea, if you want to help someone out and you can afford it by all means give them the money... but expecting (or worse, needing) it back will end in tears.

If they end up doing better and decide to pay you back, that's fine. You might also hope if the shoe is ever on the other foot, they'll help you out. But an actual "loan"? No... that's how you end up on Judge Judy.

[user104658]

Never loan money to friends or family with the expectation of it being a loan. I’d say only ever give money you can afford to part with, and give it to them as a gift with no expectation of being paid back. If they WANT to pay it back and do end up paying you back, accept the money back graciously.

Loaning money to family and friends with an expectation of it being repaid is asking for trouble.

[user104658]

this is a resurrected thread and I said the exact same thing last year. At least I’m consistent I guess!

[Captain.Remy]

Nope, not doing it. This created a lot of nasty issues in my family in the past (some cousins still having feuds with aunts, parents or grand parents even) so I won't do this for anybody.
Sounds selfish I know but money is problems and I'm not getting into family feuds or worries.
I love them a lot, we even discussed this and we're all OK with that.