[ThomasC]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Who cocks his leg up and piss’s on lamp posts

I am the epitome of class. I would never do such a thing

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by ThomasC

I am the epitome of class. I would never do such a thing

Like you have never tryed putting you fist in your mouth.

[Zizu]

I’d be living a lovely chilled out life in Rhodes Old Town , Rhodes


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[ThomasC]

Are you feeling low Redway?

[Redway]

@ThomasC

More just frustrated with well-known bait popping up and making jibes at members they don’t like or agree with. But that’s been going on for years and years so ultimately someone’s going to have to take it on themselves to set boundaries and not allow themselves to be continually-gaslit by members they don’t want anything to do with in the first place. I’m going to bet that most people on this forum doesn’t really understand the concept of boundaries and gaslighting but they’re real phenomena that happen every day and when no-one else is setting boundaries for you, you’ve got every right to set them for yourself.

My mood has nothing to do with it and bringing that up is even another form of gaslighting but the terminology is probably over your head (again) so I’m not going to bring out a psychological thesaurus trying to make people understand. That’s for you to go off and look at in your own time (if you can be arsed). Either way boundaries are boundaries. Sternly-setting them (especially when you keep bringing up the same complaints but keep getting ignored, just like everyone who was abused by michael21 was ignored until the site finally did the right thing) doesn’t make you a psychologically-unstable dickhead. It just means you know your worth as a person (on a level) and aren’t scared of making it known what it is you will and won’t tolerate. People who are good at setting boundaries couldn’t care less about seeming depressed or crazy in the moment.

[ThomasC]

Originally Posted by Redway

@ThomasC

More just frustrated with well-known bait popping up and making jibes at members they don’t like or agree with. But that’s been going on for years and years so ultimately someone’s going to have to take it on themselves to set boundaries and not allow themselves to be continually-gaslit by members they don’t want anything to do with in the first place. I’m going to bet that most people on this forum doesn’t really understand the concept of boundaries and gaslighting but they’re real phenomena that happen every day and when no-one else is setting boundaries for you, you’ve got every right to set them for yourself.

My mood has nothing to do with it and bringing that up is even another form of gaslighting but the terminology is probably over your head (again) so I’m not going to bring out a psychological thesaurus trying to make people understand. That’s for you to go off and look at in your own time (if you can be arsed). Either way boundaries are boundaries. Sternly-setting them (especially when you keep bringing up the same complaints but keep getting ignored, just like everyone who was abused by michael21 was ignored until the site finally did the right thing) doesn’t make you a psychologically-unstable dickhead. It just means you know your worth as a person (on a level) and aren’t scared of making it known what it is you will and won’t tolerate. People who are good at setting boundaries couldn’t care less about seeming depressed or crazy in the moment.

**** sake.

I asked you out of concern.

You are quick to jump on people.

I don't think a forum is the place for you where others have opinions.

Sheriff said **** all that was wrong and yet you took it personally.


If you're questioning your own reality then you're doing it to yourself through your actions and insecurity.

No one is out to get you yet you think they are.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by ThomasC

**** sake.

I asked you out of concern.

You are quick to jump on people.

I don't think a forum is the place for you where others have opinions.

Sheriff said **** all that was wrong and yet you took it personally.


If you're questioning your own reality then you're doing it to yourself through your actions and insecurity.

No one is out to get you yet you think they are.

Where LeatherTrumpet’s concerned you don’t know the half of it. You’d be shocked at the racial gaslighting he’s put forth on here over the years but then again considering where we are, many people defend him and see his jokes as harmless. That’s on them but ultimately I’ve got the right to set boundaries as-and-where I see fit without being painted as a paranoid, unstable meanie. You’re free to make all manner of assumptions you want (which is another one of the things I’m talking about) but other people are entitled to voice dissatisfaction when everything they say is invalidated by random people. Again, this forum isn’t the most boundary-savvy so I don’t expect tons of people to understand but it is what it is.

To date you’ve lost the most cool by kicking off and swearing for no reason other than that you didn’t like someone setting a boundary with someone else. And to be honest another boundary that I’m going to set is re. the crux of this conversation. I didn’t make this thread to go off in a disgruntled, rambling manner about boundaries and entitlement (conversation for another day) so it stops here. And ultimately it’s my thread (again) so I get to draw that line. Any more comments about this are just going to get ignored. The last thing I’m going to say is that the reactions from you, LT and sheriff are just prime elucidation of all the points I’ve been making and when there are people who study PhDs in this sort of thing and make it marketable for anyone who’s interested enough it’s just confirmed that I couldn’t be less in the wrong here. Any more reactions on your sides are just playing straight into the book. It’s more funny than anything else at this point. But like I said this is where it stops.

[ThomasC]

Originally Posted by Redway

Where LeatherTrumpet’s concerned you don’t know the half of it. You’d be shocked at the racial gaslighting he’s put forth on here over the years but then again considering where we are, many people defend him and see his jokes as harmless. That’s on them but ultimately I’ve got the right to set boundaries as-and-where I see fit without being painted as a paranoid, unstable meanie. You’re free to make all manner of assumptions you want (which is another one of the things I’m talking about) but other people are entitled to voice dissatisfaction when everything they say is invalidated by random people. Again, this forum isn’t the most boundary-savvy so I don’t expect tons of people to understand but it is what it is.

To date you’ve lost the most cool by kicking off and swearing for no reason other than that you didn’t like someone setting a boundary with someone else. And to be honest another boundary that I’m going to set is re. the crux of this conversation. I didn’t make this thread to go off in a disgruntled, rambling manner about boundaries and entitlement (conversation for another day) so it stops here. And ultimately it’s my thread (again) so I get to draw that line. Any more comments about this are just going to get ignored.

I've never witnessed such irrational behaviour on a forum before

Quite bewildering tbh

Boundaries? What on earth are you going on about?

This isn't super nanny, go sit in the corner.

You flew off the hinge after you made a thread and someone commented on their experience/opinion.... You then flew off again because someone happened to make a light hearted joke.

[Redway]

Two final words: Dr Ramani.

In the meantime you’re free to keep playing into the book but you’re not showing yourself up in the most favourable light.

“What on Earth are you going on about?”

Anyone who doesn’t understand the concept of boundaries and dismisses it as nanny-state stuff isn’t worth engaging with until they take the initiative to educate themselves better but that’s not a job for this thread, nor is it mine altogether. That’s all I’m going to say at this point. This back-and-forth stops here.

[smudgie]

Absolutely no difference.
I don’t get out much, don’t worry about it and get on with life.
I have everything in life I need and want (apart from better health of course)
We have enough money to do whatever we like at our age.
I suppose if we won the lottery we could let our daughter pack in work and travel the world etc..we all need a little dream.🙂
I recognise all your letters Redway, my son is interested in all that stuff, can’t say I remember exactly what they all are, but they are not to be scoffed at.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by smudgie

Absolutely no difference.
I don’t get out much, don’t worry about it and get on with life.
I have everything in life I need and want (apart from better health of course)
We have enough money to do whatever we like at our age.
I suppose if we won the lottery we could let our daughter pack in work and travel the world etc..we all need a little dream.🙂
I recognise all your letters Redway, my son is interested in all that stuff, can’t say I remember exactly what they all are, but they are not to be scoffed at.

Where would you travel?

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Redway

Where would you travel?

I don’t yearn to travel, but I would love to give our hardworking daughter the chance to do what she really wanted in life.
Even a couple of months travelling the world would be great.
She is more into the art and culture of different countries rather than big hotels and beaches.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by smudgie

I don’t yearn to travel, but I would love to give our hardworking daughter the chance to do what she really wanted in life.
Even a couple of months travelling the world would be great.
She is more into the art and culture of different countries rather than big hotels and beaches.

Mhm, I’m quite the connoisseur for hotels and beaches but there’s something about the artsy, culture-savvy approach to life that has a lot to recommend. So in that sense I don’t blame her.

Do you have a particular weekend routine (out of interest) or do you just tend to go with the flow?

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Redway

Mhm, I’m quite the connoisseur for hotels and beaches but there’s something about the artsy, culture-savvy approach to life that has a lot to recommend. So in that sense I don’t blame her.

Do you have a particular weekend routine (out of interest) or do you just tend to go with the flow?

Weekends are only different to the rest of the week in that we don’t have our wonderful little Granddog to keep us company.
Everyday is pretty much the same, our door is open to friends and family all week.
Daughter will pop round and cook a roast some times to give her dad a break.

[ThomasC]

And what LT said was clearly a joke. Anyone could spot that a mile off. Lighten up. The problem is with yourself, not others... Certainly not anything I have read on this thread and neither your other one is gaslighting. You're making yourself a victim

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Redway

No-one’s chatting anyone up but you probably already knew that.

My thread, my comments. I’m allowed. Don’t ever talk to me about what I should ge saying and doing.

Originally Posted by Redway

And LeatherTrumpet, I’d appreciate it if you could just stay out of all my threads going forward. I can’t control what you do or where you otherwise post but your round-the-clock senseless baiting isn’t something I want to have to keep entertaining. You’re the last person I want to actually hear an opinion from.

If that time comes I’ll send you a private message but it never will. I’m not your number one fan and never have been. I don’t want to know about your 12-day weeks and how dope haggis is. To me all that stuff is straight over my head and again no-one tends to ask you.

Don’t move mad to me, man. I’m not your buddy.

Originally Posted by ThomasC

And what LT said was clearly a joke. Anyone could spot that a mile off. Lighten up. The problem is with yourself, not others... Certainly not anything I have read on this thread and neither your other one is gaslighting. You're making yourself a victim

very aggressive



too much ganja as the sheriff says

[Zizu]

I recall someone interviewing Richard Branson asked him the best part of being so wealthy..

He said it was getting up in the morning knowing you can do whatever you want ...


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[Liam-]

You do this in every thread you make, you kick off at people who don’t see things precisely as you do, if you can’t handle other peoples opinions, stop asking for them on a public forum

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Liam-

You do this in every thread you make, you kick off at people who don’t see things precisely as you do, if you can’t handle other peoples opinions, stop asking for them on a public forum

There’s a way to politely-disagree without making jibes that aren’t funny and clearly intended to bait. LT’s been like this for years and I’m not the only one to have this issue with him but it’s whatever. There’s little point going back-and-forth with complete strangers about stuff that they’re probably never going to understand anyway.

[Liam-]

Originally Posted by Redway

There’s a way to politely-disagree without making jibes that aren’t funny and clearly intended to bait. LT’s been like this for years and I’m not the only one to have this issue with him but it’s whatever. There’s little point going back-and-forth with complete strangers about stuff that they’re probably never going to understand anyway.

You kicked off at someone for their opinion before LT commented though?

[Beso]

I guess it wouldnt matter if you won tonight's lottery...my way or the high way could easily work out.

But people would talk behind your back.

[Beso]

Yes but it's always better having them saying nice things rather than calling you an arrogant twat.

[Redway]

Okay, pal. Okay.

[Redway]

Still shagging your brother?

[Beso]

I hope you never get enough money to go out further than the local park with a 4 pack, for your own safety.